Something positive  

edmndcpl 43M/42F
19 posts
9/9/2006 3:45 pm

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8/11/2007 2:46 pm

Something positive

I was reading through my entries and noted a trend. I am so damn negative. Well here is a positive post. We have met some really cool people in the lifestyle. Some of the best dates she and I have been on ended with us not even caring whether or not we would have sex with the other couple (we always want to though). Thats a good time. Meeting people with similar interests and attitudes is more fun than we would have ever imagined. Just this week we met one of the coolest couples. They are fun, smart, relaxed and they put us at ease almost immediately. (N and R we are talking about you. are your ears burning?) Don't get me wrong. We do want to have sex with the people we meet. It's just nice when that becomes secondary to having fun, drinking, and hanging out. In fact, I think that rushing into sex is a bad idea. It can take something that was fun and carefree and make it heavy, intense and possibly unpleasant. So everybody relax, enjoy the anticipation, and slow down. It's just too much fun to rush.

rm_newokccpl 40M/42F
40 posts
11/6/2006 2:59 am

great blog, we feel the same way

RetryLyonsCanis 70M/67F

3/17/2007 8:46 pm

One of the hardest things to do is find a couple where both the man and the woman have enough chemistry with the other couple. Our experience is when I like the woman, the man is a total nerd. Sometimes my wife would really like the man, and the woman was a total turn off to me. I would say out ot 50 couples, only 10 would make it past the initial meeting for coffee or dinner. Of the 10, only 4 or 5 would make it home with and end up partying. Of that 4 or 5, only 1 or 2 would get a return visit. The select 1 or 2 usually end up being good friends we see often for years, and only have sex occasionally. We also have made some great friends that have lasted many years and never had sex with them. There is no rush for sex. Just remember to make friends out of swingers, and don't try to make swingers out of friends. Stoney & Jan, OKC

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