Why?  

easylivin682 48M/49F
12 posts
10/16/2005 9:47 am

Last Read:
3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Why?

Why is it so hard to find another couple with like interests? There are thousands of people using this service and yet.....nothing : (


OKSHUNLEEBI 74M
1 post
10/16/2005 1:24 pm

That's beause most people on here whether they're M,F,M&F,MM,FF,TS,TV,TG or some combination of these, aren't for REAL and have no intention of ever meeting anyone. Some of the 'real' people have such a narrow range of requirements, that only a few people on earth would even come close to their satisfaction.

Along with those who are on here for a few weeks and then just 'vanish' never to be heard from again.

Then you have the listings that haven't been signed onto in months or even years. You can see the last time they signed in/on. I don't understand why listings that have been 'dormant' for a YEAR or MORE aren't deleted??? If that happened, probably half of the listings would be gone!!

You are also a 'standard member' which greatly limits your contact, as other 'standard members' can't contact you first, unless you pay extra to let them do so.

Under 'Swinger Type' you have, "Just watching others". If someone wants 'more' than this, they would probably pass you by...

You might try a second listing and see what happens. Several people have more than one. I even have a strictly 'straight' listing, as this one is only for the very few times I need some male company.

Hope this helps and keep trying, because there are some real people on here that will 'hook up' and provide enjoyment, pleasure and more for all envoled.


easylivin682 48M/49F

10/17/2005 9:20 am

Thanks for your input it was a eye opener. I'll take you up on your suggestions.


LPCTolemac 51M/51F

10/29/2005 1:02 pm

People like us who pay for this site are looking for the real deal too. We have contacted you guys and have enjoyed the emails are looking forward to hooking up for a fun night out. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this blog. D & S


CadillacPussyHD 53M/53F

11/5/2005 7:56 am

Alot of the reasons for this too is that some couples here are not really BOTH ready. Usually the man is, and the woman is not or she is doing it, but to appease HIM and you get hundreds of excuses as to why SHE cant right then, meet. It is not "always" the female, but generally it is. The next reason is, like with us, when we first signed up, we were bombarded and could not keep up with it all unless we quit or day jobs! Then we got burned out for awhile and did not "leave" per se, but did take a break.
We have female friends that have profiles on here that never use them now as well. They have met someone and are settled. We think they should delete them too, but for whatever reason, they have chosen not to.
Lastly, both HD and I have a single profile we had here before we ever met each other and hooked up as a couple. [Yes... we met here on AdultFriendFinder!!!] and I guess, maybe for sentimental reasons, we keep them. Neither of us even check them though! I know I keep MINE as a "just in case" thing, if we ever split up it is there already set up with a network and all. All I have to do is go back to it and let my friends know. I never "Want" that to happen, but this aint my first rodeo, and as good as it all is, you can never tell...
Hugs,
Maggie


d_cumdumpster 52M/52F

11/11/2005 6:11 pm

Above is another perfect reason. Your swinger type is just watching and that is not something most couples are looking for. But if you read that guys response about how he keeps a few profiles-you will know why we are so damn selective in who we respond to. We want nothing to do with a bi man and yet there he is-presenting himself as straight and then being gay on the side. That is dangerous behavior and we won't compromise our physical health to people who aren't known to us or people we know as being real and genuine. Plus Maggie sums up the other reasons. And does so beautifully as usual (she is a hot lady!) Good luck to you- review your profile and decide what you really want and put it all down- ours may seem highly selective but why shouldn't we all be? We aren't just going to have sex with just anyone-that is for desperate people-and as you can see from that guy above-could be very dangerous!


PETER_PAN0217 43M
8 posts
8/29/2007 3:38 am

Here's My 2 cents worth.
I'm a part of a poly relationship. My fiance and I live here in Tucson, and My slave, My fiance's bi-partner, is in Canada but will be moving in with Us in a couple weeks. Its hard to find a solid couple who matches what you are looking for exactly because We all are looking for something a lil different.
With that said, there is enough of the same thing floating around to eventually find what you are looking for, but you just cant give up hope. Its out there. You 2 will find what you are looking for in another couple eventually, and when you 2 do, it will be awesome. Don't lose it when you find it. Become regular partners, and form a relationship with them in the sense of become somewhat exclusive to each couple, because I tell you, when you have found the right couple and they drift away and you play with others, you will wish you had them back.
Like I said, thats just My 2 cents worth. I may be right, I may be wrong, but thats just how I see it...


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