Biggest Day so far!  

earthShiva 59M
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5/26/2006 5:56 am

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Biggest Day so far!

Today is the biggest day of my life so far! (Of course, that's true every day, but today in particular...)

D and I are celebrating our 21st anniversary. Today is the day our marriage comes of age!

21 years ago, we were a couple of dumb kids with not more than 2 or 3 clues between us. Today we're just hitting our stride, and are up to 7 or 8 clues. On that wonderful day, we recited vows that we had written with our limited life experience and a narrow view of the future that couldn't have anticipated either the high or low points to come. Those vows, long since lost on some obsolete 5-1/4" floppy disk, included one high point that we both remember very clearly, both in our hearts and in the gasp and murmur of the wedding guests. We promised each other a life filled with FUN, EXCITEMENT, and DISCOVERY, a promise we kept and continue to keep. The only other thing I remember from those vows is that we somehow managed to overlook any clause on physical exclusivity. Who knew how prophetic that would become? Or that we would move forward to live an example where fidelity of love would be distinct and undiminished from physicality?

So here we are now, more in love than ever before (with both each other and with life itself), more excited about the future than ever before. This seemed a good juncture to renew our vows. I am certain these will refine more during the day. The final version will be for our eyes only, but as we feel our marriage is a cause for everyone's celebration, we wanted to share with all of you, our like-minded and like-hearted friends, our renewed vows:

My Love!

For the last 21 years you have freely given me as much as any man can expect from a lover. I have a marriage that is filled with both passion and calm, mystery and certainty, celestial bliss and groundedness, understanding and surrender to faith. I do not understand how we manifested such a beautiful and at times paradoxical blending of opposites, but I do know that I could not have created this life with any other living soul, and most certainly not alone! Of all the infinite paths that we each could have walked, none could be more beautiful than the one I walk with you, and that I continue to walk with you now.

When we decided to bond our futures to one another, over 22 years ago, who could have known what exciting, scary, joyous, painful, funny, hopeful adventures we would have ‒ children, business, adolescence, adulthood, intellect, heart have woven a rich and varied tapestry that no amount of wealth or opportunity could ever exceed. I thank you for standing by me through my darkest hours and for allowing me to be at my best by supporting you in yours.

So, here we are, 21 years after vowing to provide each other with a life filled with fun, excitement and discovery. Little did I know how well we would fulfill that commitment to each other, nor do I feel we are done. I reiterate that promise to you now, but I would like to add to it as well.

Now that I know you (and life. and love) a little better, I offer these revised vows that reflect our growth and our sense of freedom and adventure:

I promise to never forget that you are a person of true brilliance and of great complexity, that you are very much your own person, and that I need you to be that person for both your well-being and my own.

I promise to help you foster your ability to operate from your higher self, and to also know that your lower self and your defenses are also a part of you that I love, even if your behavior does not suit my convenience of the moment.

I promise to help you operate from a place of love, sensuality and feeling and to help you use this gift that lives within you to connect to the world in new and beautiful ways.

I promise to always be your husband and partner and to never forget that you are my wife and my soul-mate, no matter what pleasure we each might find in new people and connections.

I promise to take care of my body and my self, so that I may honor these commitments for as long as Spirit allows.

I promise to foster love, passion and compassion between us and within each of us for others.

I promise to share my feelings with you honestly, even when I am uncomfortable with them or not proud of them, for who could better help me understand myself than you?
I promise to listen to you - your words and your actions - and always to strive to understand you even if I do not agree with you.

I promise never to lose my faith in you, for you have earned a lifetime of that faith over the past 21 years.

In having that faith in you, I promise to do my very best to never limit you out of my own fears or limitations.

I promise you, as I did 21 years ago, a life of fun, excitement and discovery, because for 21 years it has worked so well!

I love you, babe. It’s been fun, so let’s do it some more!


Now, if you'll excuse us, we have a play date...


hotdarter 47F
1520 posts
5/26/2006 7:04 am

Congratulations! May you have at least 21 more if not 42 more years together!


want_a_bite 57F

5/26/2006 11:18 am

Congratulations, you two. You sound like the luckiest couple in the world. Now, go outside and play.


sexyariesgirl 57F

5/26/2006 4:02 pm

Happy Anniversary! What a wonderful post.....we should all be so fortunate!

Power To FOK


rm_goddess1946 105F
13518 posts
5/26/2006 4:32 pm

Happy Fabulous Magnificent Always Loving Anniversary!!

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


jadedbabe78 105F

5/27/2006 1:49 pm

Congrats on 21!


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