Thinkgs you don't say to someone who is mourning  

duststormdiva 51F
7253 posts
7/27/2005 4:19 pm

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Thinkgs you don't say to someone who is mourning


Things you don’t say to someone who is mourning:

1. “I should have stayed married to him one more year; I’d been able to collect his social security.”
2. “How much life insurance are you going to get?”
3. “What can I do to profit off of his/her death?”

What other tactless things have you heard?

DustStormDiva



rm_Never911 59M
125 posts
7/27/2005 4:44 pm

He said I could take his spot in your bed.


Theflinkychick 105F

7/27/2005 5:43 pm

People in this world are becoming more and more tactless everyday. My lover is much older than me and is terminally ill. A person who is supposed to be my friend went off on me two days ago because I suddenly found myself crying at work, this jerk is a co-worker and my room mate, platonic and maybe temporary after this, told me he was ashamed to see me crying over Lew being that ill because that meant I was selfish and wanted to keep him here with me instead of going home to God. No, I love him and I am going to miss him and I am sad that this man who has lived his life so fearlessly and full on is going to be slowly eaten up by that demon cancer.

Not all who wander are lost.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
7/27/2005 8:20 pm

[handle TomEboy10] I have to agree with you when you said, "Best thing is to say nothing and be there for the person." I was talking to one of my fathers friends today and she told me, "I am not going to say anyting, because I don't want to say the wrong thing." I so much appreciated that.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
7/27/2005 8:21 pm

TomEboy10 I have to agree with you when you said, "Best thing is to say nothing and be there for the person." I was talking to one of my fathers friends today and she told me, "I am not going to say anyting, because I don't want to say the wrong thing." I so much appreciated that.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
7/27/2005 8:22 pm

Never911 That's just crazy!!!

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
7/27/2005 8:25 pm

Theflinkychick yes we are selfish because we love someone so unconditionally and we don't want to see them suffer. Honey, I know what you are going through. My father did not have cancer, but I saw him suffer for years, and really bad for the past month and a half. It was difficult to see a man who was once so strong lose his independence and eventually his dignity. Hang in there and remember with friends like your co-worker/roommate, with friends like him, you don't need enemies.

DustStormDiva


Freedom2Luv 39M
5 posts
7/27/2005 8:51 pm

The best (or worst) I've heard is:

She's been dead for years-- this is just a formality


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
7/28/2005 9:39 am

NaughtyNipplesWI it just makes you wonder where some peoples minds are.

After the comment I got yesterday from my mother she went to my sisters and said the same thing. My sister said, "I don't think that is something you need to be saying right now."

Yes, it was my mother, who made the insensitive remark. And she will continue to make that remark until someone suspports her on it.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
7/28/2005 9:41 am

Freedom2Luvdead one day, two years, or several years... I just can't believe some people.

DustStormDiva


rm_talldarkavg1 105M
10172 posts
7/28/2005 2:22 pm

Worst I ever heard was in a funeral home. One older gent approached another and said, "Hiya Frank. Sorry to hear you buried your wife last month." Frank replied, "Yea, had to, she died."

I'll go out on a limb here and guess that this may not have been a marriage made in Heaven.

[blog talldarkavg1]


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
7/28/2005 4:36 pm

To me it sounds like a rebuttal to a stupid comment. Or Frank was just quick witted and had a come back for everything. That's how my father was.

DustStormDiva


CaboWaboVHnut 56M
637 posts
7/28/2005 10:00 pm

Hi DUSTY! It never ceases to amaze me how cruel and idiotic people can be!!! I guess I've heard most of the common ones, which are well meant, but would be better off left unsaid: "They're better off." "It's God's will." ETC. Most of the time, they are made by well meaning people, it's just that you don't need to hear them at the present time. However, the words that are just plain callous and mean,are uncalled for, and I just can't understand why people enjoy causing other people pain!!! Not bragging on myself, but I'm the type of person that will say nothing at all, if I don't think it's appropriate, or helpful. I usually just say,"I'm so sorry for your loss, please let me know if I can do anything for you." Dusty, please feel free to blog me anytime!!! I know what you mean about holding things in. Trust me, it's not good for you!!! Sometimes it is much easier to talk to a person you don't know, than your own family!!! [ Although, with all the blogging, I'm not sure we still qualify as people we don't know!!!!!! ] Hang in there darlin'. You'll make it. You're strong and tough!!!! All of us here in "BLOGLAND" are here for you!!! Peace and love to you and your family. Cabo.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
7/29/2005 12:23 pm

Cabo, through that crazy wit of yours you have some wisdom that you keep hidden. Thanks for your support and for keeping me in stitches.

DustStormDiva


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