Thanks Hospice!  

duststormdiva 51F
7253 posts
8/30/2005 5:24 pm

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Thanks Hospice!


Okay, today was kind of tough and I was cranky. Then I was happy, then I was cranky.

I arrived home and checked the mail and received a letter from Hospice.

Dear Dusty,

It has been a month since
your loved one passed away...

The letter was filled with advice on how to deal with grief.

Thanks hospice, at least when I was cranky then happy, happy was in there somewhere. Now I am just sad.

Do I really need a reminder that my father has passed away? Do I really need to be told how much I miss him? I am a pretty smart woman and can remember the love I have for him and how much I miss him.

Although in the information I was reading, it said it may take up to 18 months for me to get my life and emotions back to normal. I can't take that long. I want my life back to normal and I want it that way now.

DustStormDiva



rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
8/31/2005 12:22 am

Hospice does great things and they do some of the most stupid things in the world.

When my mom was sick, maybe a month before she died, they would send the girls over, as my sister called them to help out her and my dad with some of the everyday things like helping bathe mom, giving my sister a chance to go tot he grocery store, etc. Well, they also sent a hospice preacher over to talk to my parents. They'd been told don't bother, since my cousin was their preacher and he lived a couple streets over. This man showed up anyway and proceeded to talk to my parents, basically telling my mom to go ahead and give up and die. By the time my dad was able to hustle him out the door, mom was in tears. My sister called the main office the next day and chewed them out over that one. A man came up to me at her memorial service and introduced himself. It dawned on me that this was the guy. I lit into him and told him that I didn't appreciate how he'd upset mom and really didn't think he should have shown his face that day. I think he was shocked, but it made me feel a lot better. My brother noticed that I was mad at someone and came to see what was up. The guy made a quick exit to when I explained who he was to my bro.

There's a moral in here somewhere Dusty, I swear. Remember the hospice people for the help they gave you, not for the one insensitive asshole that upset you.

Miss your dad, remember the good times. It gets easier as time passes, but even after 5 years, I still have my days. Hugs to you lady.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
8/31/2005 3:52 am

Daphne,

The hospice office here has always been wonderful, well except that one nurse that came to bathe dad, but I never liked her anyway. I have known her for years, and there are many words I can use to describe her.

I know they meant well and I will always appreciate the hospice of Graham county for how they took care of my father. The day he died was even more of an exception. I was just sad yesterday after I got the mailing and I had to vent.

DustStormDiva


CaboWaboVHnut 56M
637 posts
8/31/2005 6:32 pm

Venting is GOOD !!! It keeps little dust storms from becoming full blown TORNADOES !!! Hang in there little Dust Rabbit...err..Bunny...I mean DIVA KNIEVEL !!! Peace !!! Cabo !!!


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
8/31/2005 11:04 pm

Cabo, I don't like when the tornadoes come out!

DustStormDiva


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