Safe Sex  

duststormdiva 51F
7253 posts
10/6/2005 2:14 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Safe Sex

So this guy sends me a wink, and I wink back or respond with a thank you. We start emailing, then we chat a bit, then we meet. He is very handsome and respectful. He and I talked a lot about what we wanted, liked and desired. Then came the dreaded question...

"What about condoms?" I asked.

"What about them?" He asked.

"I don't have sex without them."

"I have never used them."

Then the conversation went into his reasoning for not using them, and trying to convince me that I should agree to his ways.

I just told him that we found the road block and it's best that we remain friends, and nothing more.

He told me it was my loss, but in the end he respected my views.

I have no regrets.

The attached photo says,

"Actually, you can have a healthy sex life well into your later years. Assuming you can stand the site of people your age naked."



rm_pchamp012004 55M
2672 posts
10/6/2005 5:38 pm

Anyone that refuses to use condoms in this day and age is a fool.

Anyone that passes up on sex with you because of condoms is an absolute idiot

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/6/2005 6:13 pm

pchamp012004, aren't you sweet. But I do agree that anyone who refuses to use condoms now-a-days is a fool.

He told me "your loss" . . . actually it's his loss, but who wanted to create tension because of it? I have my standards and he didn't fit the standard.


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
10/6/2005 11:12 pm

ROFL pchamp012004 nailed it right on the penny-i don't see any other way of explaining it any further.

duststormdiva I'm very proud that you didn't fall under pressure from that guy. I just returned a(1995)movie called "kids" it was very desturbing yet somewhat truthful about people today who don't use condoms-i wouldn't watch it again because it was poorly directed, yet the theme and plot made 100% perfect sense


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/7/2005 12:25 am

CuteAZguy27 there is just no question about it. Even with condoms there are still risks. i.e. the condom falling off and neither partner knowing any different until it's time to fish for the condom.


rm_Network_Minx 47F
542 posts
10/7/2005 4:03 am

I know that 1 in 4 women have an STD and are unaware of it. I discovered this terrible fact at my last exam.

I think you are wise for breaking it off with him. Obviously he is a selfish selfabsorbed individual or he wouldn't even consider going without a condom and trying to talk you into not using them either.

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
10/7/2005 4:50 am

Very sensible. I've just had the snip ... but I am under no illusions that this in any way replaces condoms.

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/7/2005 6:22 am

Network_Minx well, I will be going to the doctor on MOnday to try and figure out why I have been losing energy and feeling like crap lately. I'll have the complete physical done.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/7/2005 8:03 am

TheQuietGuy2005 v-safe is good when the risk of a condom breaking or falling off occurs.


toothysmile 50M
16514 posts
10/9/2005 4:10 am

I agree with pchamp.

And good for you for standing your ground.

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/9/2005 8:36 am

toothysmile, my standards on sex will never change. Either it's wrapped up, or no nookie! No glove, no love! However you want to look at it.


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