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duststormdiva 51F
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1/5/2006 2:13 pm

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Pedophiles

sexyfitwoman submitted a post on pedophiles and I felt compelled to write this.

There are a lot of strong opinions out there as to what should be done to those who violate and take away the innocence of our youth. Unfortunately, those assholes that feel it is necessary to falsely accuse another of such a horrific act has fucked up the justice system.

When my son was seven, I was a friend with this lady who had a 21-year-old son. Her son had received a dishonorable discharge from the army for some reason. My son looked up to this guy, because he was in the army and at one time this young man was a role model to my little boy.

While my friends’ husband was never around, because he was off earning money, he left her with no transportation. They lived in a very beautiful private resort like neighborhood. I visited her daily. She was my best friend. My son admired her son. I loved the both of them dearly.

One day she had asked me to take her in town to get some food. She insisted that I leave my children with her son. My children at the time were seven and thirteen months old. I was hesitant to leave my children with him, but did anyway. I trusted this family with all I had in me.

Over the course of the next week or so, anytime I would mention going to their house, my son would say, “I don’t want to go, I HATE him.” When I asked him why he would say that my son would just clam up and not say a word. Hesitantly he would go with me. Finally, I asked my son what happened, again he resisted. I was persistent and did everything I could without leading him into some crazy story to get him to talk to me. I told him that I knew something happened because he had never resisted going to their house, because of his admiration for this guy. My son broke down and admitted to me that on the night I took my friend in town her son tried to sodomize my son. There was no actual penetration. I asked my baby why he thought that beast stopped before tearing my sons little bottom. He told me that he just said, “I SAID NO!” Thankfully the poor excuse for a man stopped before there was more damage caused.

I assured my son that he would never have to go there again. Immediately I took my son to the doctor to see if any damage had been done to my sons little rectum. Unfortunately, since my son waited so long to tell me, if there was any damage at all, it was more than likely healed because anal wounds heal quickly. There were no visible scars. I sat there in the examination room as my family doctor probed my sons little ass. He screamed, I cried.

My doc informed me that because of the nature of the visit he was required by law to call the police. I informed him that I was on my way to the police department after our visit there. My son went through a series of questions. He was not only nearly by this beast that some people call human, but he was by the justice system as well. It was his word against the perpetrators.

About a year later, I was managing a seasonal gift shop during the Christmas season. My little shop was a small kiosk set up in the hallway of the local mall. The shop had a tight budget and the company would not pay for us to have phone access. So we would go to the shoe store next door to use their phone if we needed to. I became friends with the employees of the shoe shop.

One particular guy sparked my interest. He was kind, and polite. He had the best manners I had seen in a young man of that age. He and I would spend most of the slow times for our businesses talking.

There were times that my daughter, then two, would not want to go to daycare. She was such an angel that I had no problem taking her to work with me. I’d just take some puzzles, crayons, and she would be occupied all day long. The young man I mentioned earlier would come over and draw pictures with her. Now and then she would ask if she could go visit him. I agreed, but certain rules MUST be followed.

1. Stay in the sales area where I could see her.
2. If there is a customer that walks in, then you come straight back.

This particular day I was pretty busy, and she asked if she could go and visit him. I told her yes, but reminded her of the rules. After awhile my business had slowed down and I went to look for her. She was not in my line of vision, and neither was he.

I walked into the store and hollered for her. Soon he came out and said she was in the stores office finishing up a picture and she would be out. It was not long and she came bouncing out of the office, happy as normal. I suspected nothing.

The next morning I was getting her ready for the day and my son noticed that she had marks on her legs. Little pencil marks. When I asked her how they got there, she informed me that the guy had drawn them on her. Upon further inspection she had these little flecks of led clear up on her hips. I asked her what else had happened, and she told me he touched her. I asked her to show me where. She took her pants down and showed me what he did to her. The bastard was rubbing her clitoris.

I made arrangements to have someone cover my shift and I called the doctor and scheduled an appointment. But first, since it was the day I was supposed to fax payroll in I swung by the mall office to use their fax machine. I kept quiet about what had happened, but my daughter blurted out, “We’re going to the doctor today, because that guy touched me on my private area.” The office fell silent and all eyes fell upon us. Immediately the security chief of the mall escorted us into his office and he had to file our complaint to him. I had to hurry the questions because I had a doctor’s appointment I had to keep.

Our family doctor examined her and then promptly sent us to Children’s Hospital in Columbus so that the experts there could have a better look at my daughter. While at the children’s hospital they took pictures of the pencil markings on her legs. Although, they were too light to show in a photo, they made the effort for proof. There was no evidence of penetration or any other type of damage.

When we filed our complaint against this man, legally, the investigator for Fairfield County, OH told me, “We have two chances for this. Slim and none. Fairfield County does not prosecute for sex crimes.” He had just lost a case in court where he had three witnesses and a ton of evidence.

Again, one of my children was molested, not only by the monster that touched her, but also by the justice system.

Why would the justice system be so protective of the perpetrators?

People who falsely accuse others of acts that they did not commit fuck it up for those who truly need the help. It’s people like that who make it easy for sex offenders to be set free. If people weren’t so quick to maliciously accuse people of crimes they did not commit, maybe, just maybe the justice system might actually protect the victims, NOT the perpetrators.

Monsters who violate others need to be punished for their crimes to the utmost extreme. Inhumane punishment, there is none for the pricks who hurt our children.

People who fuck it up by falsely accusing others of crimes they did not commit, must be punished too.

I am angry with the people who feel they need to hurt others by accusing them of things they did not do.

I am angry with the people who can't control their urges to touch our youth.

I am angry at the justice system for not putting away those who deserve to be imprisoned for such heinous crimes.

Our justice system needs to come up with stricter punishments to make people think twice about choices they make.

A child molester deserves nothing less than acid poured on their hands and their genitals. No pain medication should be administered. Fuck their rights! They took away the rights of their victims. They don’t deserve humane punishments.


DustStormDiva



KC_JJ 53M

1/5/2006 6:08 pm

A few years back there was this case in northern California in which a mother of some boys knew that the guy who had molested her sons was guilty but about to acquitted due to lack of evidence.

I forget the nitty gritty details but in essence what happened was that she went home before the verdict was read brought a gun back to the courthouse and shot the guy dead.

I'm about the most anti-violence guy you could hope to find but I remember thinking that if those were my kids and that happened to me that I just might feel pushed to do something similar.

And I fully understand why irrefutable evidence is needed in these cases because I certainly would not want just anyone to have the capacity to get me conviceted for something so heinous by virtue of only some simple accusations.

So yes, these can be very frusatrating situations but I can see both sides of the fence as to why things are the way they are with them.

I guess the bottom line concerning the present moment is that if you can get yourself set up with a fail safe evidence gathering method (full time hidden video surveillence whereever your kids might be?) at least you can know that you did what you could to be prepared for such a thing. But it sucks to think that you might need to go that sort of extreme to keep your and your childrens asses covered legally for this truly sick sort of thing.

KC_JJ

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_Safira 53F
11260 posts
1/5/2006 6:22 pm

Dusty ~ Growing-up I suffered all forms of abuse. Imagine it; it happened ... And then think of it about 1,000 times worse (and no parental help or support ... quite the opposite, in fact). Sort of in the Trudi Chase "When Rabbit Howls" way. Today I work with children and teens who have experienced what your darlings and I went through.

Regarding my views on pedophiles, sexual offenders, and sexual predators ... I will simply say that I have been tried in vengence, in patience, and in the strength of not simply surviving but LIVING. I am a victor; and I am sure that your children will be so, too.

Having a supportive, fully accepting, unconditionally loving parent is the #1 healer for a child. Please trust me on this. Both your son and daughter are blessed you are exactly that type of parent.

*much love and blessings*

Safira

This is my blog - Comes With Warning Labels. There are many like it, but this one is mine.

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duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/5/2006 7:25 pm

    Quoting KC_JJ:
    A few years back there was this case in northern California in which a mother of some boys knew that the guy who had molested her sons was guilty but about to acquitted due to lack of evidence.

    I forget the nitty gritty details but in essence what happened was that she went home before the verdict was read brought a gun back to the courthouse and shot the guy dead.

    I'm about the most anti-violence guy you could hope to find but I remember thinking that if those were my kids and that happened to me that I just might feel pushed to do something similar.

    And I fully understand why irrefutable evidence is needed in these cases because I certainly would not want just anyone to have the capacity to get me conviceted for something so heinous by virtue of only some simple accusations.

    So yes, these can be very frusatrating situations but I can see both sides of the fence as to why things are the way they are with them.

    I guess the bottom line concerning the present moment is that if you can get yourself set up with a fail safe evidence gathering method (full time hidden video surveillence whereever your kids might be?) at least you can know that you did what you could to be prepared for such a thing. But it sucks to think that you might need to go that sort of extreme to keep your and your childrens asses covered legally for this truly sick sort of thing.

    KC_JJ
Those men who touched my children, may still be on the streets today, but I do know and I have to believe that on judgement day they will get their just reward.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/5/2006 7:30 pm

    Quoting _Safira:
    Dusty ~ Growing-up I suffered all forms of abuse. Imagine it; it happened ... And then think of it about 1,000 times worse (and no parental help or support ... quite the opposite, in fact). Sort of in the Trudi Chase "When Rabbit Howls" way. Today I work with children and teens who have experienced what your darlings and I went through.

    Regarding my views on pedophiles, sexual offenders, and sexual predators ... I will simply say that I have been tried in vengence, in patience, and in the strength of not simply surviving but LIVING. I am a victor; and I am sure that your children will be so, too.

    Having a supportive, fully accepting, unconditionally loving parent is the #1 healer for a child. Please trust me on this. Both your son and daughter are blessed you are exactly that type of parent.

    *much love and blessings*

    Safira
I am sorry to hear of your abuse. I don't have proof, but I have suspicions that I was molested when I was a kid too.

When I went through counseling during my divorce, I brought up this suspicsion to my counselor and she said that usally when a person suspects abuse it's true. She told me that I will remember when my body is ready to let me remember.

My parents to this day don't know, but I didn't start suspecting it till I was an adult. No use telling them now. But I do believe it explains to me why at my earliest memory I was masturbating. I also believe that it is the reason I was so permiscuous in my late teens and early twenties.

DustStormDiva


Sorceror07 54M

1/5/2006 7:32 pm

that is outrageous!!! the system isn't to be trusted to do anything but serve itself... damn that pisses me off grrrrrrrrr!

like i said in sexyfit's blog about it... a dull septic ragged straight razor, 4 weeks and a soundproof room. even the death penalty is too good for these predators. and if the system won't prosecute them and deliver the justice it promises... then the constitution's mandate about cruel and unusual punishment doesn't apply either.

just a thought.

...That which does not kill me merely pisses me off!...


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/5/2006 7:43 pm

    Quoting Sorceror07:
    that is outrageous!!! the system isn't to be trusted to do anything but serve itself... damn that pisses me off grrrrrrrrr!

    like i said in sexyfit's blog about it... a dull septic ragged straight razor, 4 weeks and a soundproof room. even the death penalty is too good for these predators. and if the system won't prosecute them and deliver the justice it promises... then the constitution's mandate about cruel and unusual punishment doesn't apply either.

    just a thought.
I could not agree more.

DustStormDiva


rm_85898az 56M

1/5/2006 8:13 pm

The "people" who prey on and use children for their own sexual gratification should not go unpunished. And as you say, on judgement day, their crimes will be brought out and justice will be served. No children of god should endure such hateful and despicable crimes to take away their purity and innosence as that. My heart goes out to you and your children for what has been done, and also for taking the right steps to correct the situation.
As for the justice system, I agree with you that the people who need to be locked up are not because of the people who abuse the very system that is put in place to protect us the victoms. God bless you and yours.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/5/2006 9:06 pm

    Quoting rm_85898az:
    The "people" who prey on and use children for their own sexual gratification should not go unpunished. And as you say, on judgement day, their crimes will be brought out and justice will be served. No children of god should endure such hateful and despicable crimes to take away their purity and innosence as that. My heart goes out to you and your children for what has been done, and also for taking the right steps to correct the situation.
    As for the justice system, I agree with you that the people who need to be locked up are not because of the people who abuse the very system that is put in place to protect us the victoms. God bless you and yours.
First of all I wanted to say thanks for making my blog your first comment. Welcome to blogland.

My children and I are okay. Thanks your heartfelt concern. My only gratification will come on judgement day. Wo be unto them. My children then and only then will get their peace.

I am grateful that it was not a continuing that that would have damaged them forever. I am not grateful it happened, please don't misunderstand me, but the abuse could have gone on for a longer time, and the mental mind fuck that my children would have endured would have been horrendous. It was stopped before the situation became worse.

My daughter does not remember what happened to her, but my son does. And may God get his perp before my son does. God Bless you, too!

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/5/2006 10:56 pm

    Quoting rm_sexyfitwoman:
    I've done a post on this topic in the past as well and it is good to see you doing your story. I had friends of both my mother and father make sexual advances towards me while I was still a teen. I groped a few times just being out and about, once at a fair, once on a bus. Three different strange men tried to get me to go with them, one while he was jerking off. I'm not particular scarred by my experiences because they were failed attempts, but as an adult, I am bothered when I think of how often I was virgin fantasy for these sickos, and I carry scars around the sexual-murder of my tween aged girlfriend 31 years ago this month.
I am sorry to hear of the loss of your friend.

Failed attempts can still take something away from you. I am glad you are doing okay, from what you experienced. I carry scars from sexual crimes that my friends have fallen victim to as well. I carry scars that have been inflicted upon my children.

There is no feeling in the world that could ever EVER explain how I felt when I found out about how my children have been preyed upon. My daughters father even tried to get the courts to think I was the at fault for her molestation. He's a dick.

Make it a most wonderful day.

DustStormDiva


tillerbabe 55F

1/6/2006 12:17 am

i'm so sorry sweetie...I hate this too. i'm sorry you do now and had to deal with this with your precious babies. I honestly believe they will heal from this with the love you have for them.{=} My thoughts go out to you - thank you for shraing this very private story.

As for the monsters: CUT THEIR NUTS OFF!


slidein2meplz 61F
1994 posts
1/6/2006 12:24 am

I have a half brother who when he was 9 or 10 tried to molest my sister. She's about a year and a half younger than I am. I was probably 5 or 6 ...and she was 4 1/2?? ?This all happened back in the late 50's early 60's at least...Anyway...my mom never trusted him, but my youngest brother at the time was sick and she trusted him to watch us while our grandmother took mom and John to the doctor.

While she was gone he took down his pants and her pants and tried to get her to "sit" on him. He didn't mess with me I think because I was old enough to make more sense if I told. Either that or he figured my sister being younger would be more cooperative???

Later that same night at dinner....somehow or another I said "forrest took his pants off and MJ's" and was making her sit on him... WELL..

My dad...jumped up from the table, grabbed him by the arm and out side they went. He beat the livin shit out of him...then he hollered at my mom to pack his clothes...and my dad took him to another little town in Illinois where our other grandmother lived (my dad's mom). And that's where my half brother lived clear up until he went into the Navy.

My dad... never forgave him for that..neither did my mom... my sister I don't think was actually harmed physically or emotionally, but she does vaguely remember it.

Back in those days... I don't think people thought about it ... I'm sure they certainly didn't talk about it.

Thru the years we rarely ever heard anything from him or about him...which was good because before my dad died he had us all come to "talk" about what to do about his stuff...and he said that "you 5 kids..are the only kids I have as far as I'm concerned. When I die..I don't want anyone calling "Forrest"....he's not my kid".

I think my mother did call him though, she felt he should know and I can't remember if she ever told me what he said. Doesn't matter.

We did hear a few years ago that he's been very sick and on the verge of dying...cirosis of the liver (he turned out to be a very bad alcoholic)...hell, he may be alread dead..I don't know. So I think he got what he had coming to him for what he tried to do to my sister...and who know's what else he'd done.

I read your post a litte while ago....but it bothered me and I couldn't respond.

I'm so sorry your kids had to go thru that and so glad you were/are a Mom that is in tune with her kids...and put a stop to it before it did become something far worse than it already was.

I just can't understand how these sicko's can find a child sexually appealing....it's just beyond comprehension.

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duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/6/2006 5:08 am

    Quoting tillerbabe:
    i'm so sorry sweetie...I hate this too. i'm sorry you do now and had to deal with this with your precious babies. I honestly believe they will heal from this with the love you have for them.{=} My thoughts go out to you - thank you for shraing this very private story.

    As for the monsters: CUT THEIR NUTS OFF!
Cutting their nuts off is too kind. They will get theirs in due time.

Perhaps I should say that my son is now 19 and my daughter is 12. They are fine mentally.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/6/2006 5:14 am

    Quoting slidein2meplz:
    I have a half brother who when he was 9 or 10 tried to molest my sister. She's about a year and a half younger than I am. I was probably 5 or 6 ...and she was 4 1/2?? ?This all happened back in the late 50's early 60's at least...Anyway...my mom never trusted him, but my youngest brother at the time was sick and she trusted him to watch us while our grandmother took mom and John to the doctor.

    While she was gone he took down his pants and her pants and tried to get her to "sit" on him. He didn't mess with me I think because I was old enough to make more sense if I told. Either that or he figured my sister being younger would be more cooperative???

    Later that same night at dinner....somehow or another I said "forrest took his pants off and MJ's" and was making her sit on him... WELL..

    My dad...jumped up from the table, grabbed him by the arm and out side they went. He beat the livin shit out of him...then he hollered at my mom to pack his clothes...and my dad took him to another little town in Illinois where our other grandmother lived (my dad's mom). And that's where my half brother lived clear up until he went into the Navy.

    My dad... never forgave him for that..neither did my mom... my sister I don't think was actually harmed physically or emotionally, but she does vaguely remember it.

    Back in those days... I don't think people thought about it ... I'm sure they certainly didn't talk about it.

    Thru the years we rarely ever heard anything from him or about him...which was good because before my dad died he had us all come to "talk" about what to do about his stuff...and he said that "you 5 kids..are the only kids I have as far as I'm concerned. When I die..I don't want anyone calling "Forrest"....he's not my kid".

    I think my mother did call him though, she felt he should know and I can't remember if she ever told me what he said. Doesn't matter.

    We did hear a few years ago that he's been very sick and on the verge of dying...cirosis of the liver (he turned out to be a very bad alcoholic)...hell, he may be alread dead..I don't know. So I think he got what he had coming to him for what he tried to do to my sister...and who know's what else he'd done.

    I read your post a litte while ago....but it bothered me and I couldn't respond.

    I'm so sorry your kids had to go thru that and so glad you were/are a Mom that is in tune with her kids...and put a stop to it before it did become something far worse than it already was.

    I just can't understand how these sicko's can find a child sexually appealing....it's just beyond comprehension.
Your step brother was 9 or 10 a meer child himself. Where does one that young learn things such as that?

I am glad that your sister was not traumatized by it. Thanks for responding to my oh so senstive post.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/6/2006 5:19 am

    Quoting BigGirlzRSweet:
    I'm so sorry that your children went through this... that must've been very scary for them and very frustrating for you! I think that our justice system leaves much to be desired. It does seem that the criminals have ALL of the benefits of the legal system, and the victims are left to fend for themselves.

    When people seek vengeance on the perpetrators that 'get off' it is understandable in many ways. This is especially true when children are the victims. They are the most vulnerable and also the most likely to keep it a secret... out of fear, shame, guilt, even... because they are TOLD that they are at fault by the molester.

    Have you gotten counseling for your children? Just asking.
I took my son to counseling and the counselor said that he didn't need to see him but the one time. He said that the molestation was not violent and did not have an adverse affect on my son. For the most part mhy son is a very happy stable 19 year old. But it certainly is nothing he dwells on. My daughter does not remember what happened. I am considering seeking counseling for her now. I have never raised a girl and they are tough. Maybe I can understand what goes through her mind. I don't ever remember being so moody when I was grew up! LOL Damned maturing hormones.

DustStormDiva


14u24me34all 51M
235 posts
1/6/2006 6:39 am

The justice system is in shambles and needs some kind of overhaul...it has been grossly misshapen by perverse people with even more perverse attorneys making backroom trades with people's fates and victims rights across the poker table from DA's more concerned with their win loss record than with any semblance of Justice...The motto of the courts today is "Innocent untill proven broke" ....Molesters should be sentenced to become involuntary organ donors...hold the anesthetic...


goldinboy2 60M

1/6/2006 6:45 am

I'm aware of the post you speak of and left a reply to the same. As I said there I worked in the childcare field for quite some time I was a maintaince super in Childrens home we took in children from infent to young adult they were mostly all abused in one way or another. Believe me I know the system and it sucks often treating the victim like the criminal. Chirdren are taught to trust in adults unfortunatly some adults can't be trusted. It is a vicous circle of abuse as most abusers were abused as children. It takes a special person to work with these kids and there are a lot of them that do a wonderfull job of it unfortunatly not many get in this field as it will really tear you up sometimes. I only worked hands on with some of the older kids as we helped to teach them trades, carpentry plumbing ect. I got close to a lot of them only to see them leave never to be heard from again or just ocasonaly some make most don't, Balitimore was my last stop after my experiances there I couldn't take the system anymore It seemed to be more about money than doing the right things.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/6/2006 11:29 am

    Quoting 14u24me34all:
    The justice system is in shambles and needs some kind of overhaul...it has been grossly misshapen by perverse people with even more perverse attorneys making backroom trades with people's fates and victims rights across the poker table from DA's more concerned with their win loss record than with any semblance of Justice...The motto of the courts today is "Innocent untill proven broke" ....Molesters should be sentenced to become involuntary organ donors...hold the anesthetic...
That's a powerful statment, but oh so true! Thanks for stopping by!

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/6/2006 11:35 am

    Quoting goldinboy2:
    I'm aware of the post you speak of and left a reply to the same. As I said there I worked in the childcare field for quite some time I was a maintaince super in Childrens home we took in children from infent to young adult they were mostly all abused in one way or another. Believe me I know the system and it sucks often treating the victim like the criminal. Chirdren are taught to trust in adults unfortunatly some adults can't be trusted. It is a vicous circle of abuse as most abusers were abused as children. It takes a special person to work with these kids and there are a lot of them that do a wonderfull job of it unfortunatly not many get in this field as it will really tear you up sometimes. I only worked hands on with some of the older kids as we helped to teach them trades, carpentry plumbing ect. I got close to a lot of them only to see them leave never to be heard from again or just ocasonaly some make most don't, Balitimore was my last stop after my experiances there I couldn't take the system anymore It seemed to be more about money than doing the right things.
That's exactly another point that proves that the jusice system the victims itself.

It totally sucks. It angers me.

DustStormDiva


sexyblokeinlincs 54M
470 posts
1/6/2006 1:10 pm

I was really sorry to read your story, God knows what these people get out of these activities.

Unfortunately I suspect that in practical terms justice is very difficult to achieve; children do not make great witnesses, and it is so difficult to prove unless they actually confess which is unlikely.

Over here we have the Gary Glitter saga playing out - he was a popular over the top glam rock singer in the 70's who continued to be a great live act, particularly around Christmas. Then he was found guilty of owning child porn and was sent to prision, on release he fled to Asia, and now is in a cell in Vietnam on similar charges... Funny thing was I used to enjoy his music, it was fun and over-blown, now I can't bear to listen to it, and others I have spoken to say the same. Fun music ain't fun when a black-cloud like that hangs over it..

Anyway, I was sorry to read your story although I do not have any answers

Al


kyplowboy22 61M

1/6/2006 1:43 pm

Well, even the mental health care professionals say this 'disorder' cannot be fixed by treatment, so I say let's just kill 'em. Simple as that. You wouldn't let a known rabied animal walk about unchecked. Put them in jail forever? Not practical...let the bleedin' hearts put up a fund to keep them if they want, but don't you dare charge me a nickel for it when a .22 cal. bullet is only .02 cents. Nuff fuckin said.

kpb


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/6/2006 1:55 pm

    Quoting sexyblokeinlincs:
    I was really sorry to read your story, God knows what these people get out of these activities.

    Unfortunately I suspect that in practical terms justice is very difficult to achieve; children do not make great witnesses, and it is so difficult to prove unless they actually confess which is unlikely.

    Over here we have the Gary Glitter saga playing out - he was a popular over the top glam rock singer in the 70's who continued to be a great live act, particularly around Christmas. Then he was found guilty of owning child porn and was sent to prision, on release he fled to Asia, and now is in a cell in Vietnam on similar charges... Funny thing was I used to enjoy his music, it was fun and over-blown, now I can't bear to listen to it, and others I have spoken to say the same. Fun music ain't fun when a black-cloud like that hangs over it..

    Anyway, I was sorry to read your story although I do not have any answers

    Al
It's amazing how they just don't learn. Thanks for stopping by.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/6/2006 3:43 pm

    Quoting kyplowboy22:
    Well, even the mental health care professionals say this 'disorder' cannot be fixed by treatment, so I say let's just kill 'em. Simple as that. You wouldn't let a known rabied animal walk about unchecked. Put them in jail forever? Not practical...let the bleedin' hearts put up a fund to keep them if they want, but don't you dare charge me a nickel for it when a .22 cal. bullet is only .02 cents. Nuff fuckin said.

    kpb
Can I hear a HELL YEAH!?

DustStormDiva


digdug41 49M

1/6/2006 6:09 pm

hey dusty your good the world could not open up wide enough for anyone who put there hands on any of my children and in the heat of the moment someone would surely die at my hands thats just how I feel about that sort've thing

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duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/6/2006 11:29 pm

    Quoting digdug41:
    hey dusty your good the world could not open up wide enough for anyone who put there hands on any of my children and in the heat of the moment someone would surely die at my hands thats just how I feel about that sort've thing
It's not easy, but I left it in God's hands. He'll take care of me and my kids for these situations. God Bless.

DustStormDiva


noswim 52M

1/8/2006 2:23 pm

Hey Dust, I know how you feel!! When my daughter was very young (6), she was sexually assaulted by a 13yr old boy on our cul-de-sac. I had gone to the boys father six months before that to talk to him about his son's behavior with all the little kids in the neighborhood. He just kept working on his truck. Didn't acknowledge the fact that I was talking to him. The boy did what he did. If I had owned a weapon at the time things might be different. It took a lot of soul-searching, but I came to the conclusion my kids did not need to grow up with their dad on death row. Not the right example. Instead, we took him to court. Our neighbors could not believe we would do something like that to such a young boy, and "how do you know he did it?" We trust our daughter, and the doctors said so. Why do people beleive it can't happen on their street? She received counseling right then, and has throughout life changes. The boy ended up going to jail, even though the defense lawyer started his statement with "kids will be kids." What a bunch of crap!!!! He then went into "why weren't you watching them?" You want to be there 24/7. But it just isn't possible. Turns out the boys father had just gotten custody of him at the start of the summer, because the mother "couldn't handle him." Neither parent talked to him and explained what was going on with his body, and the changes he was going through. He had an uncle that would give him Playboy, and Penthouse on a regular basis. Pretty shabby!!!! The boy spent 5 years in jail, and was released at 18. Has to rgister as a sex offender for the rest of his life. He moved to Mexico to be with his extended family......

Counseling is a good thing!!! It helped our daughter very much. Now if only our son would go as well----he was there and witnessed it. He didn't know if he should go get mom and dad, or stay and help her.......


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/8/2006 6:03 pm

    Quoting noswim:
    Hey Dust, I know how you feel!! When my daughter was very young (6), she was sexually assaulted by a 13yr old boy on our cul-de-sac. I had gone to the boys father six months before that to talk to him about his son's behavior with all the little kids in the neighborhood. He just kept working on his truck. Didn't acknowledge the fact that I was talking to him. The boy did what he did. If I had owned a weapon at the time things might be different. It took a lot of soul-searching, but I came to the conclusion my kids did not need to grow up with their dad on death row. Not the right example. Instead, we took him to court. Our neighbors could not believe we would do something like that to such a young boy, and "how do you know he did it?" We trust our daughter, and the doctors said so. Why do people beleive it can't happen on their street? She received counseling right then, and has throughout life changes. The boy ended up going to jail, even though the defense lawyer started his statement with "kids will be kids." What a bunch of crap!!!! He then went into "why weren't you watching them?" You want to be there 24/7. But it just isn't possible. Turns out the boys father had just gotten custody of him at the start of the summer, because the mother "couldn't handle him." Neither parent talked to him and explained what was going on with his body, and the changes he was going through. He had an uncle that would give him Playboy, and Penthouse on a regular basis. Pretty shabby!!!! The boy spent 5 years in jail, and was released at 18. Has to rgister as a sex offender for the rest of his life. He moved to Mexico to be with his extended family......

    Counseling is a good thing!!! It helped our daughter very much. Now if only our son would go as well----he was there and witnessed it. He didn't know if he should go get mom and dad, or stay and help her.......
How awful that must have been for you. My heart is with you and your family. I am glad that she is doing well through counseling.

The boy was taken to court and served five years in jail. Good! At least the justice system was on your side. It is not always on the side of the victims.

DustStormDiva


hotchocncream 38M/45F
64 posts
1/10/2006 4:21 am

Interesting that you said you may have been abused as a child but cant remember.I know how that feels. I recognised my abuse at 40, after separating from a difficult marriage. I realised I had been by a man of 35 when I was 13, at the time I thought he was my boyfriend.
It hit me hard.
I told my mother what was going on in my head , but of course after all those years she couldnt recognise it. And didnt understand it. She said I was lying and attention seeking.
I've had to deal with that as well.
But hey, I'm through it now . And life goes on.
But I wish I could find that man and kill him.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/10/2006 5:37 am

    Quoting hotchocncream:
    Interesting that you said you may have been abused as a child but cant remember.I know how that feels. I recognised my abuse at 40, after separating from a difficult marriage. I realised I had been by a man of 35 when I was 13, at the time I thought he was my boyfriend.
    It hit me hard.
    I told my mother what was going on in my head , but of course after all those years she couldnt recognise it. And didnt understand it. She said I was lying and attention seeking.
    I've had to deal with that as well.
    But hey, I'm through it now . And life goes on.
    But I wish I could find that man and kill him.
Wow, memories that come back when you are ready to face them. I am not sure my memories will ever come back but the suspicion still remains and will always be there. I am sorry to hear that your mother was not more sympathetic for your discovery. God Bless you.

DustStormDiva


rm_halo596 50M

1/10/2006 3:55 pm

If some monster touched my kid the last place I'm going is the cops.Even God couldn't help them.There is no justice like served cold.It makes me sick and angry Too bad you didn't make posters and put them around town or even notices.In any case my sincere sorrow is with you.I'm sorry that any child went through this degradation.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/10/2006 6:38 pm

    Quoting rm_halo596:
    If some monster touched my kid the last place I'm going is the cops.Even God couldn't help them.There is no justice like served cold.It makes me sick and angry Too bad you didn't make posters and put them around town or even notices.In any case my sincere sorrow is with you.I'm sorry that any child went through this degradation.
They'll get theirs in the end.

Thanks for your concern and comments.

DustStormDiva


longergirthy4u 52M
71 posts
1/11/2006 5:22 am

Whether or not you care to believe this, molestation of minors,from infants to young adults is more rampant than most people can even begin to comprehend! In every country, nation and state on this planet, it happens. Some countries even condone it as a normal way of life! Most municipalities have a website, be it your local police,sheriffs department, or state, that contains a fairly accurate and updated known and convicted pedophile/sexual offenders list, containing pictures,addresses,as well as convictions for this heinous crime to the youth of our world. Maybe you should check it out, and see just how many reside in your town! You will be surprised at the number of convicted child molesters that are in your area! That doesn't even begin to count for the ones who get away with it scot free,never told on, or the ones who don't receive a conviction due to our justice systems hands being tied by the lack of physical evidence other than a childs word against: a parent,preacher,teacher,caregiver,sibling,stranger,relative,neighbor,friend of the family,etc... Anyone who comes into unsupervised contact with the child, can do long term emotional as well as physical damage to the child! Contact your local health department and speak with someone there about the # of children who receive a STD,most of which are incurable, from somewhere! They will not tell you exact numbers nor names or ages, but they are able to inform you of the percentage that do come in who are diagnosed with a STD. As to a suitable punishment for a predator/molestor? There really is no suitable punishment for them! Nothing that you,or I can do to them is as bad as what God has in store for them. No torture will ever bring back the innocence lost, nor remove from the sickos mind the pleasure they received from the act!!! Their punishment by torture is too good for them. Death for them,no matter how slow and painful, is nothing when compared to what the victim will go through for the rest of their lives. Yes, I would take justice into my own hands if one of them ever so much as looked at any child that I know of and care about. God would simply have his vengence that much sooner. A rabid animal at least deserves a quick,painless death. A rabid animal don't deserve to be catagorized with a creature(molestor/ ) of this ilk! Diva, your children were luckier than most. They have a good mother who loves, cares for, believes in them, supports them wholeheartedly, and who caught on to what was happening very quickly! It sometimes goes on for years and even decades without a parent or guardian noticing. A lot of children in this country, as well as the rest of the world,don't have that degree of support. And that is a shame that tells a lot about our society today. Well, that's enough from me about that.<<inna Forrest gump voice. Take care Diva and fellow bloggers. BC


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
1/11/2006 4:42 pm

longergirthy4u I know what that link is that exposes our child molesters in our county. There is one that lives down the street. Thus, the reason my girls are not allowed to play outside without adult supervision.

I do, now, have a 6ft privacy fence aorund my backyard that gives them more protection while they play and I am not present. Not to mention, our dogs would eat anyone who tried to get in our back yard.

Most of the predators are people that the victims know, though. Men and women, sickos.

DustStormDiva


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