One Down Two to Go  

duststormdiva 51F
7253 posts
8/24/2005 6:24 pm

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One Down Two to Go


My 18 year old son just informed me the other day that he is going to move out.

I am not dealing well with it so I need all your advice. Those of you who have seen your children leave your home, how did you handle it?

DustStormDiva



duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
8/25/2005 12:55 am

honni, I see a lot of tears in my near future.

DustStormDiva


PillsburyCodeBoy 60M

8/25/2005 7:07 am

My son is a long way away from being old enough to move out, so I can't help you there. But I could steer you to about three dozen people who would love to have their older-than-eighteen children move out.

Seriously, I think this is what's called a mixed blessing. It will be good for both of you in some ways. Perhaps if you can find a way to focus on that. Good luck to you. Remember, you can always tell us about it.


rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
8/25/2005 9:12 am

Oh man, do you think your 18 year old son would want to take my 20 year old daughter with him? Laugh, I'm beginning to think she's always going to live here. She's still in college so that's cool, but I've never seen a kid so content to be at home, it's amazing.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


frbnkslady 48F
6183 posts
8/25/2005 3:34 pm

LMAO... My son has thought about it, talked about it, obsessed about it, and hes still here. My only problem with him moving out is he has a friend in upstate NY who wants him to move back there with her. I am NOT ready for that... I know I am going to be spending a lot of time crying... hes my baby, my only. We grew up together, a case of a baby having a baby. Had him when I was 17, he is now 19.5 yrs. I will miss him terribly when he goes, but there are times when I wish someone had boughten him when I tried selling him from age 5-17.... LMAO.. Just know you are not alone in this T

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duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
8/25/2005 5:10 pm

PillsburyCodeBoy, he and I have always been close, but recently there is a wedge between us. I don't know if it is because I have gripped on tighter after his grandfather died. I can't see losing my father and him in the same year, but it's happening within the same month.

He tells me I push him away, I tell him he pulls away. But I can't help but think we are both guilty. He does not want to hurt me and I don't want to let go.

I have cried more tears than I care to think about this past month. Sometimes loving so completely and unselfishly and unconditionally is hard to deal with.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
8/25/2005 5:12 pm

DaphneR, that would not be a bad idea, but he is moving in with his girlfriend. I don't think his 20 year old girlfriend would be happy about him bringing another woman along. Although, it would be in his wildest fantasies to have two women.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
8/25/2005 5:13 pm

frbnkslady, when he moves out I'll be here for ya! Hopefully my tears will be dried up by then.

DustStormDiva


rm_willie8one2 70M
573 posts
8/29/2005 8:09 am

Both my sons’ moved out at 18, not because I wanted it but my older moved in with his girlfriend against my advice and now I am going to be a great grandfather and I just turned 59. My younger son joined the army, also against my advice; I wanted him to go to the navy. They both did good and have wonderful wives and children and I love kidding my older boy about his going to be a grandfather and remind him “What goes around comes around” but somehow he thinks he is to young to be a grandfather. I also like to kid my younger boy about his being a great uncle now and he hit me about how old being a great grandfather makes me.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
8/30/2005 6:34 am

Gotta love your kids! I talked to my son last night. I get teary eyed because he's gone.

DustStormDiva


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