Life Support  

duststormdiva 51F
7253 posts
6/22/2005 7:01 pm

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Life Support


A recap from a blog a few days ago.

My father was hospitalized on June 12, 2005 for a collapsed lung. He is very ill with emphysema and congestive heart failure. The docs inserted a chest tube that plugged into his lung so that it might inflate it, to enable the hole in his lung to heal. After inserting the chest tube, there was a leak and my father was filled up with air, and he bloated up.

In the progress of the week he deflated and was doing very well. On Friday June 17th, the doc came in his room with a huge smile on his face and said that the air needed to dissipate more and they could remove the chest tube and 24 hours later he would be able to go home.

The next day I went in to see my father and he was inflating again. I brought the attention to his nurse. On Father's Day he called me and told me not to bother coming in to see him because he was all bloated up again. Well, I don't listen very well and I went to see him anyway. He was bloated up more than ever, his eyes were swollen shut. He was depressed.

The day after Father's Day they inserted catheters into his shoulders which released the air in his body. His nurse would come in every couple of hours and push the air towards the catheters and you could hear it whistle as it exited his body. He was miserable.

My father called me yesterday and told me that the docs were talking about putting him on life support, but he told them that it was my choice. I rushed into the hospital to see if he had taken any steps back in his healing progress as he did a few days before.

I was scared, and was faced with a huge decision. My kids were in tears. We know the day is nearing that our beloved father and grandfather will soon pass on to be with his maker.

My father and I talked about many things yesterday, and he wanted to make sure his estate was inline. I called a lawyer, upon his request, to get papers drawn up so that I would be the beneficiary of his estate. I hung up the phone and told him they would be in tomorrow at 11:00. He looked at me with his very tired eyes and said, "I might not make it through the night." Tears ran down my face as I accepted the fact that those may very well be the last moments I got to spend with my daddy.

Fortunately, the doctors that are caring for him came in when I was there. I was asked by one of his doctors if he needed to be resuscitated if that is what I wanted. I told them yes. She then asked about putting him on life support. The doctor warned me that if he was put on life support he would never be able to be taken off, because his lungs were so bad. I told them not to put him on life support, but to ensure he was comfortable as he took his last breaths. I was reassured that it was not necessary at this time, but they needed to know for sure what his and my wishes were.

The one Doc asked me if he was swollen when I brought him to the hospital, and I told him that he bloated up only after the chest tube was inserted. Simple solution, they removed the chest tube. The warned my father that they may have to reinsert the tube. Every possible emergency treatment was placed in his room, as the next several hours were vital. He had a nurse at his side through the night.

Today he is doing pretty well and his spirits are high. He is still inflated a bit, but that air will absorb through his body. The lawyer came in today with papers for my father to sign which allows me to have power of attorney of his financials and ownership to his two vehicles and property. Dad is pretty optimistic, but I refuse to get excited about his progress, because each time I do, each step forward he takes, he ends up taking two steps back.

DustStormDiva



LordsBitedStood 64M
61 posts
6/22/2005 9:07 pm

Well Ms. Duststorm, get optimistic along with your dad. The time you have left will be precious, spend it wisely and let him feel as though it is ok. I am in a similar situation. I need a triple bypass but they cannot do it as the damage to my heart from the heart attack that found this was more than expected. When I got better they released me home and I moved in with my daughter and grandson. We have had a wonderful few months and even though I am weak when I have to exert myself because of lack of oxygen and blood flow, I wouldn't trade the time I am enjoying now for anything better. If and when I can have the surgery, I don't know that I will survive it so we have had the same kind of talk as you and he and put it behind us. We crossed all the t's and dotted all the i's and now have moved on to enjoying being together. Life is too short to worry about dying, we all will eventually. It is how you spend it that means the most. Enjoy and celebrate the time left, only good memories don't let real life depress you. Kinda sounds like he has excepted it like I have and not worried about it just making the best of what is left. Make your peace with it and just love him.

Yesterday Is History, Tomorrow a Mystery, and Today a Gift. That's why we call it The Present.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
6/22/2005 9:55 pm

Bushman, thanks for your words of encouragement. He does not see me upset, most of the time. He has lived with me for the past six years, and I most always remain optimistic around him. I love every minute I spend with him. He is my world.

DustStormDiva


LordsBitedStood 64M
61 posts
6/22/2005 10:24 pm

Cool, keep it up and you all end up with the greatest memories to fill that life after he moves to a better place. Glad that you are getting that time together. I missed that time with my dad when he got sick. I saw him on a Sunday afternoon and mowed the yard for him. Got a call three days later and it was too late to say goodbye and tell him how much I loved him. Precious times, sometimes we forget how much so. Good luck and may God bless you. You have a friend here if you ever need to talk.

Yesterday Is History, Tomorrow a Mystery, and Today a Gift. That's why we call it The Present.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
6/22/2005 10:57 pm

Thank you Bushman. I appreciate the offer for the shoulder. I just had a break down and cried tonight, it was the first time I had a serious cry since he has been in the hospital. My mother was here for me. I did'nt say much, she just held me as I cried.

DustStormDiva


keithcancook 60M
17864 posts
6/23/2005 11:01 pm

Wow. Powerful post here. I am not sure what to add other than thank you for sharing. Both of you.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
7/17/2005 10:31 pm

Keith, thanks for viewing and showing support.

DustStormDiva


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