I'm Not Interested  

duststormdiva 51F
7253 posts
9/7/2005 3:41 am

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I'm Not Interested

I've been emailing this man for quite some time now. He lives in the same town as I do. We have children the same age, hell I know his son. We met for coffee one day and he's very nice. The conversation didn't flow as nicely as I had expected, but it was nice.

When we parted, he gave me a small peck on the lips. He seemed disappointed that I didn't go home with him that night. Since then in his shy way, he has made small comments on how he would love for me to go visit him.

I don't want to ignore his emails, but we really don't have anything in common except we are heterosexual. I think I am just going to have to tell him we can be friends, but nothing more.

What was your most creative way of telling another, "I'm not interested."?


babsygirl 55F

9/7/2005 5:45 am

be honest...tell him the chemistry is not there...so his ego gets bruised....so does every ones on this site..

find someone with that chemistry..

Ecaffiene 52F

9/7/2005 5:47 am

"I`m not interested"...for some people you just have to spell it out and if they don`t understand then they are childish.

iluvjbsinaz 55M

9/7/2005 6:02 am

Okay, from a guy's point of view - how about "I'm not interested?"

I know, not very creative, and I love creativity as much as anyone, but guys, at least this guy, are pretty stupid when it comes to reading and deciphering creative rejections. Rejection really isn't the word I'm looking for, but I'm not very creative this morning.

Having said that, I would love to know what you finally tell him - add to my list of phrases to let me know when a woman isn't interested!!

The one bad thing about communication in cyberspace? No nuance to the words. How to convey sarcasm, or tongue-in-cheek, or add a mischievous grin?

rm_MarkNGeorgia 64M
91 posts
9/7/2005 6:09 am

If he's on here, maybe you just did!

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
9/7/2005 6:21 am

I don't think this would be creative but men dont hesitate to tell you that they are not interested so just come out and tell him that you dont feel you share the same interests. I dont stop to think about it when I am not interested. I just say hey, I can never have too many friends but nothing intimate. Just be stern, BUT IN THE NICEST WAY POSSIBLE. Good luck with that...

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
9/7/2005 6:32 am

I guess I have been hesitating because of many reasons.

1. He has been so persistant and for awhile I was getting emails and winks EVERY day, sometimes more than once a day.

2. He seems lonely

3. He reminds me of a man whose self esteem has been shattered.

4. Just ignoring his emails is a cheap way out.

I guess I'll just have to tell him. He is on this site, but I don't think he reads the blogs.

Thanks babsygirl, Ecaffiene, iluvjbsinaz, MarkNGeorgia and straightten2002. And thanks for visiting. You all are right, I just need to be straight forward.


rm_Network_Minx 47F
542 posts
9/7/2005 6:49 am

Sorry I don't have a creative way. I just say we don't have the same interests or goals.

rm_mtnravyn 60M
890 posts
9/7/2005 9:02 am

Well you could send a singing telegram:

The Diva is sending
this message to you
I know you wnat more
But we'll never screw

Times taken its toll
thought the attention was nice
my interest has waned
I'm putting you on ice


MiAmore62 49M

9/7/2005 9:44 am

its cool that you want to be easy on him....the things you said show your sensitive and care....... so just tell him kinda like you wrote it........... hes a good guy but you just cant see the two of you together..... in your own words of course.....

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
9/7/2005 5:50 pm

Network_Minx, maybe, just maybe I lead him on?

mtnravyn, That's too damn funny!

MiAmore62, gentle is the way I need to handle it.

In the beginning he asked what I wanted from this site and I told him I was looking for "no strings intimate relationship" Would that mean that I was looking for ANYONE to help me with that? Could that have lead him on?


keithcancook 60M
17865 posts
9/7/2005 9:40 pm

I claimed I was going to join the priesthood and was now celebate.

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
9/7/2005 10:54 pm

That is just too funny keith!


rm_Network_Minx 47F
542 posts
9/8/2005 3:54 am

No you didn't lead him on. Women always worry about that. If he gets mad those are his feelings and you are not responsible for what he feels or doesn't feel.

duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
9/8/2005 6:58 am

I really didn't think I lead him on. I am so upfront about things. Thanks Network_Minx.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
9/8/2005 7:03 am

humboldthonni, I emailed him last night. It was hard to do, I hate to hurt someone.


rm_pchamp012004 55M
2672 posts
9/8/2005 12:55 pm

A simple: I'm sure you're a nice guy, but I'm just not interested in you in that way, is probably the way I would like to hear it.

CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/8/2005 3:29 pm

(a blunt creative style) Invite the man over, as he is standing on the porch, say "there is something i need to tell you" and then slam the door in his face, and then make that little clickity click click of the door lock and then he will go away eventually.......well ok your right-that is to nice of a way to do it.....if i was the guy i would do exactly as pchamp012004 said it


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
9/8/2005 6:31 pm


That's straight forward and to the point. It's nice to get ideas from the guys. How would you let a lady know you were not interested in her? Would it be the same?


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
9/8/2005 7:03 pm

Oh, CuteAZguy26, I could never be that mean. Well, maybe to my daughters father, one of the people I hold a grudge against. I will dance on his grave the day he is buried. Bastard better not be creamated either, that will ruin my fun!


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