Ashes to Ashes, Dust to Dust  

duststormdiva 51F
7253 posts
11/26/2005 9:57 am

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Ashes to Ashes, Dust to Dust


As most of you know I am in Carlsbad, California right now. My family and I spent Thanksgiving with the same family we have spent Thanksgiving with for the past seven years. They used to live in Arizona, but now live in Carlsbad and have been in California for the past couple of years. Last year they went to Arizona to spend Thanksgiving with us. Thanksgiving Day was absolutely beautiful. The weather was nice, the food was delicious, and the company was the best. There was so much love and joy shown on that day. We all talked about what we were thankful for. It brought tears to my eyes.

As I blogged in my California I had planned on chartering a boat and going out on the ocean to sprinkle my fathers ashes in the sea. He was a navy man and had spent 20 years of his life on the ocean. We reserved the boat for Friday at noon. There were 11 people who joined me on this boat. The day started out foggy or as they say here in Carlsbad there was a thick marine layer. My friend was so concerned with the marine layer limiting sight for the captain of the ship and was hoping that our plans would not be delayed. I told her, “It’s lifting, by the time we get out to the burial the clouds will part and a ray of sunshine will shine on us.”

We bundled up, and brought coats and wore long sleeves. Some of us even had on hats. It was a very chilly morning and we thought for sure it was going to be a chilly day on the sea. The time came and we boarded on the Oceanside Belle. Of course the captain had to give us the run down of legalities. It was warm and comfortable, just like my father would have wanted it. Eventually, we all shed our extra layers and enjoyed the wind blowing through our hair and over our bodies. The captain of the ship took us by a buoy where sea lions were lounging on. They are so cute and I wanted to pet one so badly.

We went out about a mile and Captain Bob stopped the tiny ship and turned off the motor. The burial took place from the entrance way of the boat. My daughter wanted to sprinkle the ashes and no one objected so she did. We all had a flower and we tossed it on top of his sinking ashes. When we were done with our little ceremony, Captain Bob started the ship again and circled what he called the flower garden a few times. I sat the entrance way of the boat and blew kisses out to my father and told him how much I loved and missed him. When we would tell my father, “I love you.” His response always would be, “I love me too.” I was telling him over and over again “I love me too.” “I love me too.” “I love me too.” Just then the clouds parted and a ray of sunshine opened up over my fathers’ burial spot. For the first time since my fathers’ death, I saw my son cry. We all held each other and sobbed.

On the way back to the harbor my daughter asked Captain Bob if he would drive past the sea lions again and he did. He actually circled around the buoy six times giving us a lesson on sea lions. Captain Bob provided me with a paper that shows his exact burial spot, if I ever wanted to come back and visit him. I could not have asked for a more beautiful day for my fathers’ burial at sea.

I wanted to close the burial by having dinner at the little restaurant at the end of the peer. As we walked the peer we stopped numerous times to look for star fish and watch the surfers. As we approached the restaurant I stopped to look out in the ocean and started screaming, “GRANDDADS FLOWERS!!!!!” I was pointing and yelling and those who had been there for me that entire day gathered around me and saw that floating in the ocean was a red carnation, a white carnation and a sprig of baby’s breath, flowers we tossed in on top of Dads’ ashes at the burial. (Within a three week period after my fathers’ death there were two other deaths of friends. I believe that those three have been there for each other since they passed on.) Those flowers could have gone anywhere in the ocean, but they ended up at the pier. We could not see the pier from the burial site. There were many flowers, but three, three single flowers ended up at the pier as we were going to eat. I could not have asked for a more beautiful day.

DustStormDiva



kyplowboy22 61M

11/26/2005 1:16 pm

Well done, DSD. No man could hope for more than what you did. Where ever he is right now, I'm sure he is standing tall and beaming at you and your family and friends. You are the finest kind, sweetheart. Later.

kpb


slidein2meplz 61F
1994 posts
11/26/2005 2:17 pm

Awesome Dust....just Awesome. I'm so glad you had such a beautiful day. Did you know...that 3 is a mystical number? How awesome is that...3 single flowers...you know what "they" were saying? They were saying..."thank you, Dust...and we are with your father...and he loves you very much...and he still loves me too".

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~


digdug41 49M

11/26/2005 3:34 pm

doesnt it feel wonderful to feel the presence of your father around you that is something indescribable with words he's always with you dusty and he loves you too take care luv

roaming the cyber streets of blogland


rm_titsandtires 51M/41F
3656 posts
11/26/2005 9:30 pm

I'm so happy that everything worked out for you the way it did. Some would say you are very lucky, I would day you are very deserving. I could only hope for my children to be as wonderful as yourself.

After reading this post, I'm glad you bought a lap top so you could keep blogging on vacation.


rm_TwiztedCharm 56M
456 posts
11/27/2005 3:31 am

I'm happy things went well for you and believe that your father, though gone from this world, is there at your side protecting and guiding your journey through life. A blessing for your soul.


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
11/27/2005 4:26 am

kyplowboy22 I don't know about all that, thanks! All I know is I loved my daddy. You are always so good to me.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
11/27/2005 4:28 am

slidein2meplz I know those flowers were there for a reason. They could have ended up anywhere on the beach, but they happened to be at that one particular place at that special time. I know it was for a very special reason.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
11/27/2005 4:29 am

digdug41 I have never doubted his love for me. As I am sure he has never doubted my love for him.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
11/27/2005 4:30 am

titsandtires Keep the communications open with them, don't freak out when you hear something you don't want to.

I am glad I brought my laptop too!

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
11/27/2005 4:31 am

TwiztedCharm without a doubt he is here for me and my family.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
11/29/2005 5:33 pm

humboldthonni it was totally amazing! I have great memories!

DustStormDiva


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