Apology Accepted, But All is NOT Forgiven  

duststormdiva 51F
7253 posts
10/20/2005 11:11 pm

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Apology Accepted, But All is NOT Forgiven

On October 8, I wrote this blog Head Up His Ass. A man I had been emailing and had even met face to face seemed to be a fairly nice man. But we came to a disagreement on safe sex. I decided that I was not going to pursue anything further because if he didn’t practice safe sex, then I was not going to be taking risks. Well, he seemed to understand, but then he emailed me and asked me a very crude question. I discussed it in my Head Up His Ass blog.

Since then he has emailed me several times wanting to know if we were going to get together. I have not responded to him. Today, he IM’d me on Y! I happened to be at the computer at the time. (I know what a shock!!!) And I responded to his question if I was still interested in meeting. I told him no. He asked why and I told him how crude I think he is. Well, he did apologize. I accepted.

He seems to think that just because I accepted I must still want him. He’s a persistent little fuck. I had to explain to him that I accepted the apology, but it didn’t take away the fact that he was disrespectful to me and I was now leery of the way he treats women. He is still trying.

An accepted apology is not necessarily a forgiven apology. And it does not give back the trust right away. I wonder how many times I am going to have to explain this to this man. I just might have to stop talking to him altogether. I don’t know.


DustStormDiva



rm_JDX_x_X 40M
6 posts
10/21/2005 3:16 am

I do believe safe sex is very important these days. With all the "bugs" out there. If you watched the movie booty call there is no limits to safe sex.

And if he does not repscet your view as a person then he can fuck off. Men are like busses theres one every 15min.


Efilnikufecin69 47M

10/21/2005 3:58 am

You just do what YOU think is right Diva! Don't let yourself get pressured or bullied around by some dimwit that is willing to risk his health, or hie life and yours too for a little pleasure.

If he would do such with you, then you can bet you aren't the first! Now if that thought doesn't turn your stomach...

E69


digdug41 49M

10/21/2005 5:20 am

I always go with my gut instinct because whenever I didnt I regreted it so what ever your gut tells you do it I believe that is how our angels communicate with us

roaming the cyber streets of blogland


ismymaninhere 42F

10/21/2005 5:43 am

you know, I joined another on-line group about a month ago and I have to tell you you can tell a lot from someone just by making them wait after you give them your phone number. I've met a couple of guys who dig their own graves so fast it isn't funny - and while at first they looked like someone I'd want to meet - after talking to them a few times or giving my phone number out it becomes clear pretty quick if they are JERKS.

For example, if a guy has your number and he abuses it by calling too often. He suddenly feels like he owns you. Avoid this guy - it will only get worse.

Also, how does he speak about his ex? What does he say about other women? Be sure you will be the next person if he enjoys degrading women to boost his own self up. This is a very sick little puppy indeed!

Ask your potential date these questions and see for yourself how they respond:

(all are open ended behavorial questions designed to get them talking on subjects that could (note: could) reveal a darker side):

1. During your marriage how would you describe your sex life?
2. Think of a time when you dated someone you really liked, but she didn't return the feelings. Who was that and how did it end up?
3. What are the three things that you really hate in a woman?
4. What are the three things that you really like in a woman?
5. What would you say the worst time of your life was?
6. Describe your ideal date.
7. Tell me about your family.

You can pick up clues by hesitation, does he not answer or somehow avoid the question? Is he comfortable talking about this topic? Does he want to know about you? Is he more concerned about his needs than anyone elses?


rm_TwiztedCharm 56M
456 posts
10/21/2005 5:55 am

With that brain and face of yours I would be relentless in my pursuit, not just persistant. Men always seem to say the wrong things at times. It's a problem of the little head doing the thinking.


caressmewell 53F

10/21/2005 6:20 am

If you continue to talk to him he may continue to think that you are interested in more than just talk. If he has been rude and crude then I would just stop all communications. It sounds like he doesn't respect his own body so why should he respect another persons?


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/21/2005 6:29 am

JDX_x_X I like your little saying at the end . . . men are like busses there's one every 15 minutes.

Thanks for the support!

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/21/2005 6:31 am

Efilnikufecin69 my stomach turned the first time he told me he never has used a condom. I decided than that there was no way he'd ever even get a kiss.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/21/2005 6:32 am

digdug41 I have learned to trust those instincts. Got to!

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/21/2005 6:35 am

ismymaninhere it's obvious he is only interested in sex. He can't hold a conversation without it ending up there. OH wait, he does not have anything to say unless sex is involved. I am an excellent judge of character, it's like a sixth sense to me.

DustStormDiva


redmustang91 57M  
8599 posts
10/21/2005 3:37 pm

This site promotes sex, but that is not all there is to a relationship. Just block and ignore people who are not with the program. Life is too short to waste on losers.


bella_ 47F
4030 posts
10/21/2005 7:46 pm

You go girl!


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/21/2005 8:26 pm

TwiztedCharm You have a point.

DustStormDiva


slidein2meplz 61F
1994 posts
10/21/2005 11:54 pm

Good for you Dust...stick to your guns. Ain't none of 'em worth it...until or unless he's the "one"...and even then..you gotta be sure.

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/22/2005 2:08 am

caressmewell he read this blog and he is upset now.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/22/2005 2:09 am

redmustang91 I think he already decided that he does not want to talk to me since I blogged about him. He is not happy about that. What can I say, no one knows who he is but me and him.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/22/2005 2:10 am

bella_ I didn't say anything in this blog that I did not already discuss with him. But he is mad because I blogged about it for everyone to see.

DustStormDiva


CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
10/22/2005 10:40 am

Keep your feet grounded where you are duststormdiva your strong and awesome-no reason to lower or higher your standards and boundries.

-CuteAZguy27


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/22/2005 11:39 am

CuteAZguy27, oh I think you know me well enough to know that I'll stay grounded.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/23/2005 1:07 am

slidein2meplz I have learned from past experiences and I most certainly evaluate any relationship before I get into it.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
10/24/2005 6:37 am

BigGirlzRSweet that's the funny part. He did read my blog and is totally offended that I would write about it for everyone to see! As I explained to him, "no one but you and me know it's you I was talking about.'

DustStormDiva


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