Anal Sex According to Me  

duststormdiva 51F
7253 posts
6/26/2006 11:46 am

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Anal Sex According to Me


I was reading a blog by expatbrit49, Answer to KittenKisses24 and he suggested in that blog about anal sex to go to the two following blogs:NaughtyBlonde78, Anal and bipolybabe, Anal Play from . With no hesitation I went to visit their blogs.

I remember blogging about it such a long time ago. See Fair is Fair

Recently my boyfriend and I have experimented with anal sex. We started trying before Easter, I think. We have had some great times with it recently, but we have had our struggles as well. What we did experience was the closeness that anal sex brings to a couple who is totally in love with each other.

We didn’t take the route that was suggested by every website I found and blogs I have read about using small toys and or fingers. We used the fingers with a lot of lube, but we didn’t use any toys. We first started with Astro Glide. We call it Cadillac Crème because it’s the only substance that will allow you to park a Cadillac in a dog house. I was not happy with the consistency of the lubrication so I bought some KY Jelly, we have enjoyed this lubrication more.

I had a lot of hang-ups about anal sex. My first being the fact that I was anally several years back. Another was I was concerned with getting poop on his dick. And the biggest concern was the fact that it was a major no no for such a long time because of the pain. Since my , my ass has been an exit only. Okay, with the exception of the time I tried it about two years ago.

Let’s talk about my experience two years ago. My lover, I’ll call him Dan, he and I were having an affair, he is married. He showed an interest in anal sex and I said I’d try it with him. At first he went slowly and it was nice, but once he was all the way in, he started fucking my asshole fast and hard. He was fucking it like it was my pussy, my pussy that was used to such friction and attention. Needless to say, I made him stop. The second time was just too painful and extremely embarrassing because I did actually see spots of feces on the blanket. I thought, never again will any dick invade my asshole. It has been a total no no since. I did have a partner that used a small vibrating toy in my ass once, which was incredible. But I never let him put his penis in there.

I have learned with my boyfriend that you must fully and completely trust your partner if you plan to experiment with anal. Talk about it first and never ever stop that communication even during the act. I have read through blogs or internet sites that you must be relaxed. Being relaxed is an important step. Experiment with the type of lubrication you use. Use lube, and lot’s of it. Take it slow. Use fingers or small toys to loosen up those anal walls. (Although we didn’t use the toys, we did use fingers) One thing I have learned is even if you feel you have the slightest feeling that you need to go to the bathroom, do. There is already pressure when you have something the size of a dick enter you, but if you need to shit on top of it, it’s painful.

So, things I have learned to do before experimenting with anal:

1. Trust
2. Communication
3. Relaxation
4. Lube
5. Start off slow by using fingers and or small toys.
6. Take it slow; the woman must be in constant communication with her lover. She needs to tell him if it’s hurts or is uncomfortable in the least. And the man must respect that. What the woman says, goes no matter how much you are enjoying it men, they might not be.
7. Make sure there is no pressure from the need to go to the bathroom
8. Get the right position.

Positioning is very important. Angle, slope, position, whatever you want to call it. It must be right.

I like the position best when I am on my tummy and my boyfriend straddles my ass. Slowly he slides down and pushes the head of his cock right at the entrance way and asks if I am ready. When I give the okay for him to continue slowly he slides himself into my anal cavity. He stops now and then and asks if I am okay. Once he is in so far, I tell him to raise his upper body. Once he does that he can slowly side the full length of his cock into me. I like his short slow strokes or his long slow strokes as his cock slides all the way in me and then almost all the way out. This past week we have overcome the discomfort and pain I have experienced in the past. He took it slow and he let me tell him what to do. The fact that we are totally in love with each other and trust each other 250% plays a great part in our anal experiences.

DustStormDiva



expatbrit49 62M

6/26/2006 2:32 pm

cool post and wise words there Dusty... only one question:

Did you both enjoy the experiance?

Thank You for Your Time and Attention


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
6/26/2006 2:41 pm

    Quoting expatbrit49:
    cool post and wise words there Dusty... only one question:

    Did you both enjoy the experiance?
He has enjoyed EVERY time we have tried. I have enjoyed the closeness it brings to our relationship. Recently, our attempts have been extremely enjoyable, I ask for it more and more. He is tender and every touch and kiss just sends shivers of excitement through me. Tingley.

DustStormDiva


digdug41 49M

6/26/2006 3:01 pm

I guess its cool if your into it dusty and this is very informative but I've never had the desire to do it like that but hey to eah their own

roaming the cyber streets of blogland


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
6/26/2006 3:13 pm

    Quoting digdug41:
    I guess its cool if your into it dusty and this is very informative but I've never had the desire to do it like that but hey to eah their own
Some men think why do that when there is a perfectly wonderful pussy right next to it? I understand, to each their own. It's not for everyone.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
6/26/2006 7:21 pm

    Quoting fun1968xxx:
    Hi Diva,

    I read your comments on Ex-Pats post. I haven't swung past here before, so hi!

    I'm happy that you were able to put unpleasant experiences of teh past behind you and try something new with an open mind... I admire your openness and courage in doing that. It sounds like you have a loving and trusting relationship there, which is fantastic. I think that is one of the keys. You need to make sure your partner is comfortable, relaxed and not feeling any pain. You are right, you need to communicate and need to be able to slow down or stop if the time isn't right. Whoever is receiving needs to be comfortable enough to say that it hurts, or it doesn't feel right, or to slow down. Whoever is giving needs to talk and make sure the time is right, that they are relaxed and comfortable. You can FEEL much of that though, your fingers and even your penis can feel if there is pressure or resistence.

    Great post!!! I hope your words of wisdom come in handy for anyone wanting to try a really close and passionate experience between a loving couple.

    cheers, FUN
Thanks for stopping by.

My boyfriend is the best when making sure things are perfect for me. It took us a few months of trying now and then to enjoy what we have now. It took a lot of patience and experimenting and love to get where we are now.

Stop back by now.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
6/27/2006 7:44 am

Saving it for someone you totally love and trust is the best thing you can do.

DustStormDiva


Whispersoftly5 52F
15176 posts
6/27/2006 8:38 am

I just recently gave up my anal virginity so to speak. We did a lot of what you talked about here including using toys. For me it seemed to be a matter of finding the most comfortable position. You're right it is very intimate. I'm glad you're enjoying exploring this with your sweetheart.

Whisper...


duststormdiva 51F
6854 posts
6/27/2006 12:12 pm

    Quoting Whispersoftly5:
    I just recently gave up my anal virginity so to speak. We did a lot of what you talked about here including using toys. For me it seemed to be a matter of finding the most comfortable position. You're right it is very intimate. I'm glad you're enjoying exploring this with your sweetheart.

    Whisper...
I am enjoying it. I hope you did as well.

DustStormDiva


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