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mistakes men make in bed
mistakes men make in bed
- Not setting the scene
I realize that you aren't necessarily a set designer, but seducing your woman will be a heck of a lot easier if your pad provides her with a comfortable and inviting atmosphere. That means no dirty laundry or empty pizza boxes on the floor, and no strange house guests on your couch.
- Skipping foreplay all the time
At one time or another, we've all experienced a moment so passionate that wasting time on foreplay was unthinkable -- and if you haven't yet, you should. However, getting caught up in the heat of the moment is quite different from pouncing on her out of nowhere, and cutting straight to the chase on a regular basis
- Moving too fast
You practiced restraint during dinner when she was sitting across from you in that low-cut dress, giving you those eyes and flashing you that smile. You practiced restraint in the car on the way to your place, as her dress was hiking up ever so slightly, showing off her toned thighs. You even controlled yourself while you were sitting next to one another on your couch, and she was absent-mindedly touching your knee, and looking away whenever you caught her giving you that look. So, why blow it in bed?
Practicing restraint in bed will only get her hotter, making her want you even more, and will inevitably lead to a mind-blowing sexual experience for both of you. So learn to pace yourself and enjoy everything the moment has to offer. Trust me, you'll both be happy you did.
- Ignoring her body language
Although a woman may initially be too shy to tell you exactly what she wants in bed, her body language will give her away. It is up to you to pay attention to her telltale signs until she is comfortable enough with you to really open up verbally
- Wanting to try too many things at once
Most women have an adventurous side and are willing to try new things in bed once they trust their lover enough. But, if you ever want her to reach that point with you, the last thing you should do is force the issue too soon into the relationship
- Disrespecting her
Despite what you see in porno movies and, to a lesser extent, on MTV, women don't particularly want to be disrespected in bed. Although they might go along with it to please you at first, doing so may eventually cause them to feel uncomfortable, and even resentful.
- Being too bossy
While communicating your preferences is important, so is going with the flow and doing what feels right. So, don't bark out orders like a drill sergeant and expect her to comply without question. Sex is supposed to be fun and free, not unpleasant and stressful.
- Forgetting her erogenous zones
The fact that you're probably fascinated with a nice pair of knockers practically ensures that you will rarely forget to fondle a woman's breasts during sex. Unfortunately, it is easy to forget that a woman's body is full of less obvious erogenous zones(see eariler post for erogenous zones of a women)
- Assuming she's satisfied
Just because you got off, that doesn't mean that she's satisfied. Remember that there is another person there with you who would also like to bask in that afterglow. At least make an effort to please her.
- Bailing afterwards
While wanting to hit the hay after great sex is perfectly understandable, and often the natural thing to do, taking off on a woman after having sex with her is among the most rotten things a guy can do. Not only do you look like a jerk, but just think about how she's left feeling.
4/23/2006 10:49 am
you are soo soo true, but somehow women could be selfish that made the man did the mistakes as the above mentioned.|
4/30/2006 6:50 am
Good post...funny about the scene. I think I would actually be scared if i saw pizza boxes and such...not sure why. but the scene is VERY important.|