drmccoy74 42M
5 posts
3/16/2006 4:24 am

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4/10/2006 4:32 pm



This post goes out to a select few of you that I have encountered here on AdultFriendFinder.

The intent of this post is not to call any one individual out, or make you feel like you've done some great wrong that I'm asking you to make right.

In many respects, I'm sure many of the women who read this can relate to it as well.

Here is my dilemma, and my dilemma seems to be a fear for many people. If you say "hey, let's get together", "hey, I want to meet you", or anything along those lines, please be real and sincere.

It seems like alot of times your libido which is at an all time high when you see my pick gives you the courage to try something new. Yet, when it really comes down to the basics of a simple meet and greet you can't make it, you had to work late, yadda-yadda-yadda....Or is it simply "THE FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN".

Trust me ladies, I wouldn't waste your time or raise you expectations of a situation, so please don't do that to me.

I like to meet women and at the very least have a conversation over drinks and if more happens then so be it. But, if it doesn't I've had some good conversation and a little time out on the town.

In any event, if you don't want to meet or have no intents on getting together, simply say so and there is no love lost.

thykwhtchyk2 40F
1 post
3/29/2006 5:34 pm

dear doc,
please also consider the fact that there are a lot of messed up people out there that #uck it up for the good guys. so it's easier for a man to say, "i want to meet you." for a woman it's a big step, sometimes. and it's ok especially for a guy with your physique. it's hard to trust that we won't get overpowered and screwed in a way we didn't intend. so many times it's not "the fear of the unknown" it's "the fear of the criminally insane." make sense? it's hard to be safe these days with all those nut bags out there. men are a lot safer than we are.

kimberly2005_06 42F

4/6/2006 2:25 pm

I agree with the post of the lady above, but men also put themselves out on a limb too, when it comes to meeting us women. Theres alot of people on here that are on here because of lack of self confidence, and low self esteem as well as men, and this site is merely there fantasy world, that somewhat boosts the ego, and makes them feel the love they normally dont get. So its a 50/50 situation when it comes to meeting. Women yes have a higher risk of being overpowered by men, thats why its best to meet, feel the vibe, and get to know one another to know that the other party inplants that security of safety, and comfort while with them. Women on the other hand sometimes seem to have it harder to accept rejection and thats where the "FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN" steps in. Not knowing whether this person can accept them for who they are. Thats why people need to be more real on here, and less hesitant of meeting the other party. You never know "THE FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN" can cause you to miss out on a great opportunity whether its friendship , romance, etc. If ya not interested in meeting, say so!!! If ya cant be real with others, how ya gona be real with yaself? YOU CANT! So yall keep it real, and good luck to everyone!

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