On a personal note: Ahhhhhhhhh!  

drkwaterz 36F
155 posts
8/14/2006 5:15 pm

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8/20/2006 12:00 pm

On a personal note: Ahhhhhhhhh!

Okay, so I've been seeing this guy pretty regularly, despite all commitment phobias and hesitations, we decided to see where things go. The best part about it is we're actually friends, the type that you can call up at 2 a.m. to talk about nothing because you can't sleep, get it? Well, we've been spending a lot, I mean A LOT of time together and I love every minute of it, (here comes the but) but he's still hung up on his ex, which that in itself doesn't bother me, I've been there and know what it's like. My hesitations come in when she calls him (which she does a lot for someone he hasn't been with in a long time, especially when we're together. He told me he let her know he was seeing someone, but that hasn't deterred her any (surprise, surprise) and she's been with someone for the entirety of their separation. I feel like I'm being unfair, but whenever I hear his phone ring and I know it's her, I kind of feel like I've lost somehow and nothings really started yet. Am I just making to much out of things? I think I've been handling the situation rather well, but I am human and feel, though we've said we're going to take things a step at a time, like a part of him is still waiting for her. Besides that everything is fantastic between us. I just feel like things won't be able to actually take their course until things between them have been settled, and who knows when thats going to happen. Any helpful hints?

CB_2 51F

8/14/2006 5:47 pm

Only to tell him to make a fucking decision and if she's his ex and he has a new life, it's about time he told her.

It's very common with exes: they have moved on, but they don't want their ex to move on, so they keep calling to claim ownership.

It's up to him to say enough.

Blogito ergo sum.

rm_douglhers 41M
150 posts
8/14/2006 6:06 pm

Awwwww. I cry for you i my self have been in a situation similar to this one though i have been the dumped, I'm just not sure how long it takes to move on after such a long term relationship. I think you should bear with him and see what may come, after all you said you and he are friends so that being said why loose that?

It takes time to heal.....

rm_Gordy012000 46M

8/20/2006 11:22 am

Well.....let me break it down for you in this way.....

Us men put a whole lot of emphasis on physical beauty and sex. In "most" cases where a man is very heartbroken the female was good looking and a great fuck!!

So you can draw your own conclusions as to what you need to do.

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