The Other side of me (you asked, so shall you receive)  

dontdateyou 43F
140 posts
2/11/2006 8:30 am

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The Other side of me (you asked, so shall you receive)




Part of my purpose as a marketing specialist, is to research ideal promotions for new websites. The project I am working on now is for a Men's site, specifically for venting about their ex's! They will be able to tell their story, post pics, warn others and design/purchase memorabilia with their hatred for their ex in mind... It will be an exciting project. I welcome any men, and their stories. The site will also be awarding "Prizes" Monthly(5 monetary prizes, 100, 300, 600, 800, and 1000!), for the best-worst stories...I, having a vagina, and being on the other side of the fence, am also VERY interested in any feedback you may have. This is separate, above and beyond my personal posts, and they are 100% real, as am I, I found this site by accident, and am sooo glad I did. I got wrapped up in myself, and my own issues at first, as I am human, and need interaction, and contact with other humans(and not so human-humans ;0)) . I must also make a living though, so come one and all(women too), and help me gain the insight, and knowledge needed for me to complete this project...Who knows, you may be part of history, if this sight becomes huge I will be sure all of my friends here get the credit they deserve!

Also, part of my responsibility is to come up with the guide lines for thejudging of the stories, a way to prove they are legitimate, and sponsors for the awards, so I welcome ALL brainstorming.


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
2/11/2006 9:35 am

sorry to disappoint you, I don't have an ex...
if you 're referring to ex-girlfriends, flames, flings...
I have no hatered whatsoever towards them... nor do they for me... I even see them once in a while... with some I 've even maintained a sexual relationship...

I don't mean to be a goody-two shoes... I do get mad, I have lost my temper occasionally... but never to the point to hold it for more than a day or two...


dontdateyou 43F
42 posts
2/11/2006 12:49 pm

I am proud of you T-smile(Really) , But perhaps you could offer insight to that side of the spectrum? How do you achieve that sort of "piece", when others struggle so much just to avoid going to jail?? There are many out there whom have been tortured over and again, by different women, all doing the same type of destruction, like all cheating, or all raving lunatics. These poor guys have reached the end of their rope. One of the answers I seek, is why do we allow history to repeat itself, and how do we avoid it??


CopseAuralRunty 45M
700 posts
2/11/2006 10:24 pm

As much as it is painful it is also familiar.

If suddenly there was a perfect woman, in our presence, begging for our attention .... would we believe it, would we know how to react? What are the rules now?

I think most guys that have been burned would start testing the waters to see how she would react. How does she work, how will she respond?

I have a friend that I think the world of, we have never had any physical relationship. There was a number of people that thought we were married by the way we interacted and laughed at the gym.
She ask me one time how we can both be in crappie relationships but have so much fun together, I replied "we have not learned to hate each other yet". That was a surprising thing to think about....maybe we set ourselves up for failure.

It's late and I am rambling...

Women Women everywhere and not a pussy to eat......


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
2/12/2006 9:41 am

I try to be honest, kind and sensitive. I often fail. In that case I apologise. Sincerely. I try to make ammends.
I have a very simple philosophy. All things eventually come to an end. When that sad time comes, rather than get angry or depressed I remember to be grateful for the gifts I have been given rather than spiteful for what I 'll miss in the future...


You can visit my post 'The Blue cafe' dated Sept. 30, 2005... I think I explain it a little better there. You can leave me a comment if you wish.
If I get this right it 's The Blue Cafe....


mm6342 53M
199 posts
2/12/2006 5:53 pm

well I will be honest I have not had much success in the dating world . yes my age will be 43 soon . I just never had the look that attracts women . You know the type , I am not tall . never hung out with the < in crowd > . I did date a girl last year at this time for about four months . two weeks before val day she decided she did not want to date anymore. some thing about just not wanting a boy friend . now I do know this is a dating / sex site or reverse that order . but if my perspective helps you at all I think women put way to much emphasis on looks . < we as men are just as bad > I know deep down most of us here are simply looking for happiness . ..< I hipe this helps you >


nevadawoodward 53M
6 posts
2/12/2006 8:04 pm

>>It seems like an interesting, yet dangerous, idea.
>>Sharing stories, venting, giving advice and listening can be very therapeutic. But, once you step into the realm of real names and photographs, you become liable for anything that happens follows.
Adding a cash incentive might attract fake profiles and affect even more innocent women.
>>I'd love to give advice to others about a few ex's, but they will have to learn on their own. Hopefully, what goes around will come back around to the bad ones.
>>To indy dog I say, "Keep it just like it is. Better to let it stay a great friendship."
>>To mm6342, I agree we all over-emphasize looks. Some one is out there for all of us; keep on searching.
>>Good luck to all,
>>>>>>>nw


dontdateyou 43F
42 posts
2/13/2006 5:59 am

Indy: Ramble all you like, I love th insight, and what you ae saying is real, and is important.

Talldiscreet: You sound like a romantic?

Toothy: I grow more and more interested in your responses, always hoping you'll stop by with your insight...Thank you.

mm: How right you are... I am just as guilty, although when I met my husband, he was overweight...It was a real problem for me inside my head, but my heart said it would be alright...and it was(at first), worked every extra pound he had off within the first month(everynight, 3-4 times a night)....Now sadly all that excitement is gone, and we don't "work out" anymore, as we don't talk, or anything else either. But had I not looked past the ouotside in the begining, I would never had all the love and fun we shared for the first year and a half.

nevada: Yes! My biggest obstacle, and responsibility is finding a way to validate these stories!!! It is not easy and Iwelcome any advice!


JSADDICTION40 52M
1 post
2/13/2006 1:40 pm

I would just like to make something clear.......are you here to fuck men or write a book?


dontdateyou 43F
42 posts
2/14/2006 4:46 am

    Quoting JSADDICTION40:
    I would just like to make something clear.......are you here to fuck men or write a book?
jsaddiction40: PERHAPS, BEFORE MAKING SUCH PATHETIC COMMENTS YOU SHOULD READ THE PROFILE, AND ALL OF THE BLOGS, AND KEEP IN MIND THAT NOT EVERYONE IN THIS WORLD IS LOOKING FOR AN EASY FUCK, ADDITIONALLY, I DID NOT SOLICIT A CONVERSATION WITH YOU, AND I AM CONFUSED AS TO WHY YOU WOULD EVEN LOOK AT MY PICTURE. SINCE YOU WANT STRAIGHT JET BLACK HAIR, ATTRACTIVE(YOU CAN'T SEE MY FACE), AND SOMEONE WHO IS NOT STUCK UP(I AM, I CAN'T STAND MEN LIKE YOU). I WISH YOU THE BEST IN YOUR JOURNEY, AND HAVE PITTY FOR WHATEVER BLACK HAIRED, GEORGOUS, OVERLY NICE EASY FUCK THAT CARES TO SPEND ANY TIME WITH YOU. OH, AND NEXT TIME YOU WANT TO WASTE MY TIME USE THE EMAIL SYSTEM, SO THAT I CAN JUST DELETE YOU.


stagehand54 62M  
4 posts
2/15/2006 9:43 pm

Dear Dont...
I have been married twice and I have at least civil relationships with both my exes. I still see the latest on a weekly basis, we have late teen and early 20's children. I was sad and confused after the breakups, but I realised that getting bent out of shape was pointless. The best way to get through life is to live it, not wanting to lose the past is the worst way to go through your future. I found out today my oldest son has proposed to his girlfriend of 5 1/2 years and she accepted. I congratulated him and I hope he has learned enough from watching me not to make the same mistakes I did. By the way, I was intrigued by your mysterious picture (well done)and I stopped to read your profile and here I am. I will at some point read the rest of your blogs, and I wish you luck in getting the reactions you can use for your project. Men like js are everywhere as I am sure you are aware, ignore him and he will go away. I would like to see your face but if you are going to continue to tantalise us... nevada does have a point. Be safe and continue on your quest." Those who do not learn from history are condemned forever to repeat it." --Santayana--- stagehand54


SexJuggernaut71 45M
34 posts
2/16/2006 8:47 am

Ahhh, a perfect example - JSADDICTION40 - a few posts up from this one. That is the mentality of about 95% of the world sadly enough. The other 5% (like you an I, DDY) acutally use a significant portion of our brains. Good luck JSA40 - i expect many bastard children from you!! Keep the neanderthal population growing - we don't mind!!

Sorry for that little rant. Anyway, i have never been without a girlfriend since at least age 12. From one to the next without a day in between, sometimes overlapping, sometimes simultaneously (although i tried to stay with one at a time out of respect - hey, i was a kid, hormones, what do you want?). It was done by word of mouth alone. They wanted to be with me - not for my looks, but for my kindness, generosity, intelligence - you know, the stuff that ACTUALLY matters. (whispering) oh and i'm kind of well endowed (whispering) BUT ANYWAY...... I have pretty much seen them all - greed, insanity, destructiveness, jealousy - you name it. I have lots of perspective to help you - which we can do offline or in the blog - its up to you.

All i want is your respect and someone like you to talk to in payment. i can see a possible lifelong friendship here - like "friends with therapy" as supposed to "friends with benefits". Well maybe i'd like a kiss or a hug in person too......we're not that far apart. Your mind and your words are very attractive - i can't help it. LOL


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