Honesty or fidelity?  

dmcd73 43M
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11/15/2005 1:35 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Honesty or fidelity?


So, I read a lot of profiles. It's like a method of polling without having to pose a question. The obvious questions being, what do you want and who are you.

I've noticed that honesty is the most popular quality people look for and profess to have. And because everyone wants it, everyone claims to have it.

And it wouldn't pain a liar to claim such things. But that's not the bigger issue. The bigger issue is the subtle deception of demanding honesty. Honesty is a drug. It has it's time and use, but it's not as welcome everywhere as one would be lead to believe.

First, opinion can't be judged for honesty with any great effect. Let's take the simplest of examples. That being body type. If you call yourself 'average', what does that mean.

Well, one might comment that it is in the eye of the beholder. Sure, but if the beholder intentionally blinds themselves, are they dishonest or ill-informed?

The other issue I see is timing and purpose. Honesty is great when expressing one's feelings, but what feelings do you really want to hear?

Imagine a world where everyone told you exactly what they thought of you at any given time. Many things are better left unsaid. But, omission is a form of deception. Ergo, if you're not speaking truth at all points, you are concealing your thoughts, which is the smallest of lies.

So, I suggest that most of you are looking for loyalty or fidelity. For my part, loyalty is the way to go. If someone is loyal to you, honesty really isn't a question. But it leaves out brutal truth (the mean-spirited truth) and having to correct people all of the time.

Anyway, for all the talk of wanting honesty, most fo us would get sick of it quickly.

happy2surveUslav 39M

11/16/2005 7:48 am

this is a good point it is an oxymoran
to say you are honest as you cheat
well i think some here just make an exciption to that point


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