Is it hard for you?  

diesel_118 33M
50 posts
5/3/2006 2:38 pm

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2/12/2007 1:16 pm

Is it hard for you?

Is it hard for you to have a friend with (sexual) benefits? or is it ok with you to have just a fuck buddy? Do you ever get attached to your fling? Or do you just have a good night cap and forget about it until next time? I think for me it depends on the person. SOmetimes you don't wanna be bothered with some people after you fuck em..I don't mean to be rude or nothing but yall know yall have the same problem sometimes..some people act like your in a relationship with them after a good night's fuck ...I just don't get it sometimes -Diesel-

Whispersoftly5 52F
15176 posts
5/9/2006 1:59 pm

It's sort of hard for me to have just a friend with benefits. Maybe my understanding of what that represents is off and that's why it's hard. Anyway, for me I like to know the man - be made love to intellectually and teased by him for extended periods. For me that means he is a true friend and with a true friend comes some emotion - at least for me.

Can I have sex just once or twice with a man and not have emotional feelings - relationship feelings? Yes. I've done that too. But I prefer to know the man and care for him. You know I love a good fuck, but I really do prefer some intimacy.

Hope all that babbling makes sense.


rm_BigDnLady 43M/40F
1140 posts
5/17/2006 8:09 pm

That is why you always have to be careful who you let into your bed! Some people say they want "friends with benefits" but in all honesty want that "special someone" !! Just keep doing what you are doing. If that person isn't getting it, then you have to cut them off, and find a new fuck buddy. Some people are emotionally ready for just a fuck buddy, just as there are those who aren't emotionally ready for a relationship. Just have to weed them out. LOL!!! Have more sex, with more people!!! LOL!!! SAFE SEX!!!! Keep reinforcing how you enjoy the friendship, and how she is understanding about you not looking for a relationship. I have had fuck buddies, and have had to cut some off, when they became too clingy. That is what made it hard, having that awesome sex, and not wanting a relationship and the other person, talking about "meeting his mom" !!!! Bummer!!!


33763 posts
2/12/2007 10:20 am

an old-fashioned prude here..I like sex with strings..

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