dicegrrl 39F
146 posts
9/5/2005 5:59 am

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10/14/2006 2:17 pm


Ok, here's one of my goals in life. I wish to have an orgasm. I've never had one. Or at least, I've never had the BIG one. I know you are thinking how is that possible? Doesn't she enjoy sex, is she frigid? The answer is yes I enjoy sex! I love it! I'm by no means frigid either.

I believe the reason I haven't had an orgasm of major proportions is because I don't like to lose control and have to trust the person I'm with 100% percent. Or at least that's what I've come to think the reason is. But mainly, I don't KNOW what it's supposed to feel like! Everyone always says "You'll know it when it happens". What the hell does that mean? I guess it hasn't happened because I don't know it.

Don't get me wrong, I'm very vocal and enthusiastic in the sack but I've never lost control. I jump up and down and have to bury my face in a pillow to drown my cries but I'm still in control. I've tried many many times to give myself an orgasm through masturbation but I just don't like masturbating all that much. The way I see masturbation is, it's like going out in a snowstorm in January and wiping off the snow from your car and letting the heater run only to go inside and stay home. What's the point?

Usually after I masturbate I just get annoyed because it's not what I really want. I want a man! I want a man to cover me and press me into the mattress with his weight. I want to feel soft and feminine to his hardness and strength. Women understand me on this I'm sure. That's what I love about men, it's the animal maleness that I long for not just getting naked and diddling myself!

So help me out here, women preferably, how am I supposed to "know"? How do you know when you've had an orgasm?

What I don't want is a bunch of guys jumping up and down with their hands in the air like they're at school shouting "Pick me" or "I know what you need" etc. If you want to contact me do so through email not through my blogs.

lady_on_fire 45F

9/9/2005 7:11 am

OH honey, you will know when you have that great orgasm. It has only recently happened to me. However, it was more that just an orgasm, it was a real release. The term squirt, that is when you know that you have REALLY been there. Sounds gross, but it was the most amazing feeling I have ever had in my life. The man I was with helped me to relax and just go with it. The problem with women is, we tense up during that crucial moment, stop it and just relax. You will be thankful you did. TRUST ME.

dicegrrl 39F

9/12/2005 5:29 am

Ok I will try and remember to relax. I do tense up. I also hold my breath, probably shouldn't do that either.

Are there any other women who have tips on helping me know when I am at least close to cumming? I'm seriously asking for help here.

Thanks for responding lady_on_fire!

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