Instinct  

dicegrrl 39F
146 posts
11/30/2005 2:45 am

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Instinct

One of the things I've learned the past couple of years is to listen to that little voice that says "You don't want to be here or do this." I used to block this voice out a lot when I would be starting a new relationship with a man. I've learned the hard way that I need to listen to what a man tells me. You can learn alot about who they are and how they treat others by just listening to them. Don't be fooled into thinking that they will change for you. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior.

I had been chatting with a man for a few days now, after numerous emails previously when suddenly I sat back and the voice said "This is too much work. You know it will never bring you anything but frustration and pain. Don't go there because you can't handle the pain now." Yet still I ignored it for another day. Give it a chance I thought. Maybe he was just in a bad mood. Then I caught myself, making excuses again not to listen to my instinct. So I gave it another chance, until again we clashed on our views. If we are clashing now after only chatting online why would it get any better or be worth the price? Yet he still had to try and guilt trip me for making the decision to end contact. I really don't know what his deal was and I don't care. For the first time in two days I don't feel any dread. One should not dread talking to someone because it's too much work to get a basic understanding between each other.

I'm glad I gave him a chance and got to know him a little bit. I truly hope he can find someone who makes him happy. I know that person is not me and never will be.


rm_prwild 40M
6 posts
11/30/2005 7:48 am

The subconsious is powerful thing. I'm glad you've learned to listen to yours. Often we don't realize something consiously or blatantly ignore it altogether, but our subconsious picks up on it. I'm glad you're able to say enough is enough and move on. Keep looking; you'll find what you're looking for.


rm_kingofnymphs 42M

11/30/2005 8:16 am

hey ya
i have to concur with prwild there, the subconsious mind is a very unique and powerful thing. it is not easy to control and more people need to use it a bit more often but they shut out the wee voice of reason that comes from within.
good on on ya girl for breaking the cycle,your future is bright hun and you did the right thing.

take care


dicegrrl 39F

11/30/2005 9:06 pm

Thank you guys for your support! I'm slowly learning to listen to that voice of reason. I've ignored it in the past much to my chagrin, I won't do it again. Life is too short to put up with people who are toxic to you.

He has since sent me two emails trying to guilt me and make me feel bad for choosing to end contact. His only complaint? That I should have ended it sooner...Well we didn't even email for a week and only chatted online twice. How much sooner could I have ended it??? Sheesh, I'm so glad I got out of this situation! Nothing but trouble there.

*wishing the prwild lived closer*

Thanks for dropping by king! Nice to know I'm not crazy here.


reaper78664 44M

11/30/2005 9:36 pm

If he has to try and make you feel guilty then he's not worth talking to. Listen to that inner voice. I can think of quite a few times I wish I would have!


open4fun2005 58M/50F

12/1/2005 2:00 pm

Yes we all have that inner voice....and I dont always pay attention to mine...wish I had lately...would have saved me from a lot of bitterness. So good to hear that you listened to yours...this man sounds a bit psycho!


rm_kinknneed3 49M
3 posts
12/23/2005 9:56 pm

I'm listening to my little voice that is telling me to make contact with you somehow. I ran across you by chance and feel that all things happen for a reason. I also read all of your attemps to discourage me. All things seem to be saying (rather plainly I might add) that we are mearly to ships in passing. While passing I will throw my bottle into the water with a simple note...all things that are bitter teach us to appreciate and desire the sweet things in life.
By the way, an attorney gets paid very well to read, retain, and articulate in a way that sways an opinion in thier favor....that just might be your calling.


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