What do you do for a living? Are you employed?  

diamonddiva005 36F
15 posts
12/5/2005 11:10 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

What do you do for a living? Are you employed?


Over the weekend, I met a guy that I was interested in. We exchanged numbers and actually talked the next day. As we were talking, I asked him what he did for a living. He didn't understand the question, so I asked him if he was employed. He was offended by my question. I guess he thought I was looking for someone to take care of me. Understand that I don't need someone to take care of me and if that was what I was gunning for, I would have let it been known right off the bat. When I ask people what they do for a living, it's giving me a chance to see what kind of mark you are making on this world, how talented, smart, successful and what your skills and talents are. I am not trying to get into your pockets, buy asking that. This question opens up so many other questions, it might even bring out some of our similarities and differences. I not only ask this question to guys I am dating, but to anyone I meet. So, to the people reading this post, does this question offend you and if it does, why???

redmustang91 57M  
8599 posts
12/5/2005 11:43 am

The job question does not offend me at all. I am proud to be a lawyer as they are smart, make good money and help people and businesses. Not sure why someone would be offended by asking their vocation, unless they were ashamed of being unemployed. Most guy's identity is wrapped up in their jobs. More frequently women identify themselves first as a wife or mother or daughter!


LikeToLiquor2 57M
318 posts
12/5/2005 11:51 am

It may be simply pride or lack of pride in the job they have, or more likely lack of job.

When people ask me what I do,,,, I struggle,,,,, few people could understand or even believe,,, I just tell them I design and build stuff.

I agree, what you do defines you, the decisions you have made in your life are reflected in the type of job you have. Granted there are people, artists for instance, that have jobs that pay the bills but aren’t a true reflection of who they are. And these people would likely tell you who they are not how they make their $.
Keep asking, if they freak,,,,,,, move on.


kats60 56F

12/5/2005 12:15 pm

i work at a fitness center, help other people to get in shape and stay that way, i need off this comp though,its building up my hips, lol kat


DowntownCS 35M

12/7/2005 7:41 pm

Its a great question. A great conversation starter, if someone is confused by the question. They proablly don't have a job. Thats a sad thing, because if you are an adult then you should have a job. Even if its moving snow off the street, something!


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