Guys, do you need help picking up women?  

dfw_femme_fatale 46F
412 posts
10/1/2005 4:18 pm

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Guys, do you need help picking up women?

Several weeks ago I was hanging out with some friends and a guy approached me and we started talking. Just a few minutes into the conversation he said something like “talking to you is like pulling teeth.” I was surprised and caught off guard. I said something to excuse myself from the conversation and left to rejoin my friends. He stood there looking flustered.

Later that night he approached me again and asked if we could start over … and during our conversation he admitted that his line and his whole approach came from a book. I asked him if the advice had worked and he said “not really.” I wasn’t surprised. He still didn’t get my number.

I thought it was a line of BS until Thursday night when I was home watching a TV news program. It featured a guy named Mystery who calls himself as a “seduction expert.” He makes a living offering seduction advice thru his books, and website, and his seminar. I was thinking it was a coincidence until during his seminar he says that one of his most successful pick up lines is to tell a woman “talking with you is like pulling teeth.” I almost fell over. I had to watch more. Another one of his tips was to approach a woman and ask her if she flosses before or after brushing! WTF?

According to this “expert” the way to get a woman’s attention is to tease her or to almost insult her! He even puts on seminars where hetero, average, normal looking men pay big bucks to hear this advice from a man who was wearing more eye liner than I was at the time. He was even wearing red nail polish. WOW!

Don’t get me wrong guys … I feel for you. I know it can’t be easy to approach a woman. Thank goodness I’m not a man, I’d never date.

Some of you ought to try those lines … and let me know how it goes!

CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
10/1/2005 7:37 pm

....ummm, I think ill stay with my most popular pick up line that always gives a lady a smile (Watch i'll demonstrate *I reach out my hand like i want to shake yours* (and say) "Hi my name is *CuteAZguy27* whats yours?" I have allot better reaction then anything else useing this aproach


keithcancook 60M
17785 posts
10/1/2005 7:44 pm

Ok, I did try them per your advice. I am letting you know that it didn't go well. The woman was so incensed at me that she pushed me down, got some pliars outta her purse and yanked out one of my teeth.

Apparantly I was not the first unfortunate man to try this line on her. Before she let me up she pulled a little bag of teeth out of her pocket and added my molar to her growing collection.

ProtonicMan 48M

10/1/2005 7:44 pm

I have been getting a newsletter about this topic for a while. I had to check to see if this "Mystery" guy was the same author (it isn't).

I don't know what "Mystery" teaches, but I suspect this loser really didn't get it. I think there is something to teasing women, but it has to be done playfully and not hurtfully. The goal is to show confidence, not arrogance, and show that you are fun to be around.

I thank goodness you're not a man, too. I would never date you.


rm_grappa4 57M

10/1/2005 7:52 pm

Sounds like an asian approch, korean men do not respect women here, that is why I think they like some western men that know how to treat a woman. I think I would be to embaressed to try a line like that.

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

10/1/2005 7:57 pm

It worked for me!
those lines worked perfectly.. SHe talked to me for hours, she came home with me, and we spend the night together!

Oh wait married people don't count do they?? hahahah

RailBaron2 54M

10/1/2005 8:48 pm

What ever happened to "Are you spoken for & can I take you out for a cup of coffee or a soda?"

tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
10/1/2005 9:53 pm

I simply say HI ... and judge by the nature of her response whether she wishes to speak to me or not. However, I will have already made eye contact with her, and her response to that will have spoken volumes.


PS> this guy's lines are just BS ... he/she is playing to a man's ego convincing him that rudeness, of which any simpleton is quite capable, is a practical approach. It is nothing more than a scam ... a very clever one, but a scam nonetheless.

Jobe00 42M
211 posts
10/2/2005 1:50 am

This idiot sounds like a real piece of work.
Shame that he hit the formula on making money: Tell people what they want to hear.

Almost wish I was enough of a jerk to come up with that idea...

1586 posts
10/2/2005 5:10 pm

I Heart -

Remember that book that those women wrote a few years ago called "The Rules"? (For those that didn't read the book, it was a how-to guide on how to manipulate the opposite sex - sold millions as I recall.)

I guess ol' Mystery is trying to create "The Rules For Dudes". LOL

Big mistake. Women have pretty good BS detectors, so we know when we're being fed lines.

Guys, please be yourselves. Scratch your ass, belch, say you don't like musical theater...whatever. Just be yourselves, I beg of you.

Great post, Heart.

mankatovirgin3 33M
3 posts
10/3/2005 8:08 pm

I have enough trouble without insulting the woman to tease her, I think I'll just try to be polite...

Lookin_4_Fun52 64M
40 posts
10/4/2005 6:59 pm

Gee....what ever happened to searching the room to look around and see who's making eye contact? Looking at that person & watching their body language to see if there's a hint of possibilities...then walking up to them & introducing yourself? Am I that old fashioned? I always hated the standard pick-up lines...I think being your honest self is always the best. If certainly doesn't hurt to have a good sense of humor, but never to insult or make fun of another.

rm_4nik8_4u 61M
2501 posts
10/4/2005 8:36 pm

I don't have any pick-up lines, don't want any. I just have the confidence to speak naturally and comfortably with any women. I especially find attractive women receptive to natural conversation because they get approached less and usually hear some rehearsed line. Based on what you said I could give better advice than that guy.

Priapeo 46M

10/6/2005 6:43 am

Perhaps he was a sadist dentist, and that was his way to tell he was really enjoying the conversation!

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience

danteszippo 52M
3891 posts
10/17/2005 1:16 am

I saw that one. He wasn't doing anything right with his approach, it was merely a show of some really stupid women who responded to the idiot.
Ive always just been nice and straight forward and that works. I'd never insult a woman to pick her up.

rm_DaddyDom57 59M
7 posts
6/18/2007 4:48 pm

The last time I tried to "Pick Up" a woman..........all I did was hurt my damned back.....!

rm_DaddyDom57 59M
7 posts
6/18/2007 4:51 pm

Hey, as for the guy who introduces himself with his online name....I'd love be standing there when "I_heart_cock2" trys that one.......hehehe

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