Meeting someone u really like.  

destinybound30 41F
38 posts
7/28/2005 9:52 am

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Meeting someone u really like.

Im extremly sad today because, ive met someone i really like, and just in a few days- it's turned to hell. Here goes: I invited someone to my place who ive talked to online and really adored him.So he came over and we talked 4 a while and then had sex. It had been a while since either of us had been with someone sexually.Which actually made it all the better. We hit it off pretty well tho, and thought i had a handle on who this guy was.I was wrong.Maybe i shouldnt expect too much from one person, but i had messaged him telling him how much i enjoyed his company and whatnot....not thinking any different than b4-i expected a return of somesort, but nothin....the weekend was nearing and he said he'd be busy-which was kewl with me- no strings there-so no big deal...but i still messaged him a few times just wanting him to know that i was thinking about him...he'd been online a few times- but i never recieved a response. Im insecure as it is,and was starting to feel like he just wasnt's like he's been online talking to me- we have sex- then i dont see him back i began feeling like crap, and felt like maybe he just isnt into talking about it..i e-mailed him telling him to just let me know he wasnt interested if thats how he felt...he kept saying he was busy and had things to do- I totally understand being nusy, but honestly didnt think i was asking too much. I have a very hectic schedule also- but if im with sum1 and trying to get to know them- even as just friends- then i make sure i make that time.even if its to only answer a question...He did acknowledge me a few times, but then jumped back offline...Told him that i wasnt trying to freak him out by sending messages, just really felt like crap because i have sex with someone then feel vulnerable because im letting them know upfront how ifeel. really sux that someone would take that as im obsessed or sumthin weird like that..Im so down to earth and real-i think i just 4get that not everyone wants the same as me. He did message me the other day and said hed be on later that evening if i still wanted to talk- well of course i did, then b4 we could really get to talking he says he has to go but he'd be back..waited all nite and he never got back on.So next day i sent him a message saying i didnt want him to feel like he owed it to me to talk with me - he got really offended and said i wasnt a decent person... i would never intentionally try to say sumthin to hurt some1 just wanted to be straight up... Im just like confused over all of it..and feel even worse now that i had sex with him.If i could take back telling him how i felt- i would. He says he wants a woman with a good heart and compassion, but yet rejects it?? im soo lost..I gotta just 4get it and move on but its kinda hard because i hate feeling like i made someone mad or upset-even when i wasnt trying to-it was totaly innocent.But thats what i get i guess. I was married for almost 13 years to someone that was a total jerk to me...I divorced him- so its not like i want that kinda drama again...just thought this guy was different and that he would be patient and accepting of me telling him how much i enjoyed...

atJasen 33M
1 post
7/28/2005 1:13 pm

hi this is Jasen email me at AdultFriendFinder .com .

destinybound30 41F

7/28/2005 1:52 pm

Sorry you'll have to do better for ur e-mail....AdultFriendFinder doesnt allow it out and it will work

anthro71 45M
8 posts
7/29/2005 2:49 pm

hi i like to know you.

Tone_33756 55M

7/31/2005 7:49 am

Unfortunately, many men say one thing and do another.
It will not make you feel any better but his behavior is almost standard - very common - especially meeting someone from a personals site.
I've read your posts for many months and you seem very geniune and friendly. This may be hard but, in the future, when you encounter a man that sends mixed signals and turns cold immediately afterwards, you have to break all contact instantly and chalk it up to just being a bad experience. It still sucks, but try to gaurd your emotional well being.

destinybound30 41F

8/1/2005 2:39 pm

No he was a nice guy- not trying to talk him down-i could never do that.We had alot in common but think he mistook was i was trying to say or do. Just wanted him to know that i enjoyed and wanted to talk to him- kinda like - just having sex with sum1-really clicking- then that person not acknowleding anything uve said- was kinda embarrassing to be honest-i do feel stupid. But he was busy and i respect that- but it did get to me that he could come on to say he was busy but not anything else.We had established this was no strings kinda deal-so i wasnt trying to bother him to come back over or anything like that. Just wanted him to know i was thinking about him. I felt his pain-kinda thing-with his divorce, i dont over it. Just venting a little.

rm_MisterFrumpy 46M
428 posts
8/4/2005 2:56 pm

its entirely possible that for some reason he felt inadiquate even after the fact and was embarassed?

or maybe hes of those guys. its hard to say.

destinybound30 41F

8/11/2005 12:52 pm

Inadiquate? Mr.F.?? How so.... Dont think he's one of those guys but u never know.

destinybound30 41F

8/11/2005 12:54 pm

Sorry i didnt see ur post b4 now Mr.F......Thank u for commenting tho

rm_temfla 58M
5 posts
8/18/2005 8:16 pm

it's hard to say without knowing much about this guy, but from a guy's point of view, perhaps he is trying to take things slow, and just isn't very good at it. I would let him make the next move, before judging him, if he is recently divorced also, then maybe he likes you too much & is having mixed emotions.
just my opinion, though, i could be way off base

rm_AvgButGood 49M
7 posts
8/29/2005 12:51 pm

Destiny... not to be a smartass, but was the sex any good??? AVG

destinybound30 41F

8/29/2005 2:01 pm

the sex was great! For both...i know it definately was for him....i have no doubts....

rm_needsum22100 48M
3 posts
9/8/2005 8:39 pm

some guys are just jerks and once they get something the excitement of the chase is over and to them the game is more important then their real feelings if you ever want to talk im always here to listen

rm_CrazyDude 42M
1 post
9/19/2005 8:51 am

+1 to what need some said. Some guys are just jerks, and are really in it just for the chase. Or, it may be a case that he like you too much and is scared to show his real feelings. Not sure but just a thought. If you need a friend to talk to I am always looking for more friends in Brandon.......

rm_swettsocs1 57M
1 post
9/21/2005 5:23 am

Destiny,slow down and maybe you won't have these feelings of hurt.

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