Why do women do it??  

demonicsexkitten 41F
7229 posts
9/20/2005 2:23 pm

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3/26/2015 12:18 pm

Why do women do it??


I've never really been close friends with many women, and have really no idea how "most" behave. But by what i've heard, read, and experienced... if a woman feels her man is being unfaithful to her... she goes after the other woman. WHY???? it's something i totally do not understand. Perhaps the other woman knows your man has a woman already, or maybe she doesn't. However: the MAN knows. Also: maybe there really is nothing going on. Myself, if my partner were to cheat on me (or if i just suspected but didn't know)... I'd go after him. I would demand answers. And if he was cheating? I'd demand he choose. Or assume he already had. Maybe it's just a pride thing... "If you choose me, choose me. If you then choose somebody else: fine. I wish you all happiness. But you chose against me." Maybe i'm just being too black-and-white on that issue, and i might feel differentlly in experiencing it. I know the last really serious relationship i had... day 1. of it ending i felt i wouldn't take him back... day 2 i tried seducing him. That was the most shameful day of my life... but after that i was fine again (at least in regards to taking him back. It took months for the pain to heal). But this is comparing apples and oranges, as there was nobody else.

Perhaps I'm wrong, but... the 2 instances I've experienced where the woman goes after the perceived "other woman"... there has been a definate and major communication problem in their relationship. For instance, one woman attacked me, and i later asked my friend (her b/f) what happened to get her so upset... he totally had no clue, and had even asked her as he could tell she was upset over something, and she refused to tell him anything. she ended up telling me, and then i told him (she was still refusing to talk to him about it. and that was not the first time i noticed a comm. prob).

Maybe i'm just wierd. I find no honor in 2 men fighting over me, nor would I ever fight a woman for my man. Small exception being if he was faithful to me, had no interest in her, yet she was stalking him... but then we'd legally fight her together.

ProtonicMan 47M

9/21/2005 8:59 pm

Interesting question. I don't have an answer.

I had a crush on one of my ex-wife's coworkers once. "Nothing" happened, but I'm not sure how I would have reacted if the opportunity had come up. My wife was very angry with me, and felt as if I had cheated on her. But she didn't go after her coworker, even though she really despised her after that.

TJ


demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
1/27/2013 6:09 am

Not that anybody reads this far back but.... interesting.

Now I know... if the woman involved is a best friend or beloved family member... it's much easier to blame the other woman. And in the distraction of blaming the other woman... it's easier to deflect attention away from the man as he deserves.


VerandahPoly 72M  
441 posts
3/26/2015 9:19 am

But what of a man who truly loves his wife, but after 40 years, she has lost almost all her libido? Should he be satisfied with one unecstatic encounter a month or so when he is horny as a goat?


demonicsexkitten replies on 3/26/2015 12:36 pm:
I somewhat replied in another post. I will msg you privately.

The biggest thing is: You're not just being an asshole "Hey, I want sex with other women". I'm sure you've tried talking to her, tried making things work within your relationship, and finally decided on the only action you felt you could take.

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