Facing fears....  

demonicsexkitten 41F
7229 posts
9/21/2005 3:02 pm

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Facing fears....

How do you face your fears? Do you recognize your fear, then run out and meet it head-on? Do you sneak around it, hoping it won't see you? Maybe you run screaming the other direction, or perhaps simply pretend it doesn't exist. or..?

I think... one's reaction all depends on the fear one is facing. My fear of spiders causes me to run and make somebody else deal with it (if there is somebody else). Or... well, really, i believe the best thing is catch them and set them outside where they belong. But if i have to deal with them myself.. on the brave occasion i catch them... otherwise i vacuum them.

Another fear I have is of dead bodies. Don't do skeletons (even as a kid i refused to go trick-or-treating if a house had a skeleton picture up), horror films, blood or gore. Even at funerals, I can't look at the body, even if it was a loved one.

Now the conundrum: I need a 2 credit class. The only 2 that I can find that don't sound totally boring, are Indigenous Education... or Human Identification. H.I. is an Anthropology course (i have a minor in Anthro), but includes a full-day trip to the morgue. I.E. would just be wierd, i think, since... I'm doing neither indian nor education studies.

So: do should i throw myself head-first into my fear? Or be a pansy, and just keep avoiding it? Though this does seem a little extreme. Which would you choose?

And... if i DO decide to take the H.I. class... could somebody please come stay the night with me? lol. I think sleeping alone after that would just be too creepy.

Cdub2U 61M

9/21/2005 8:22 pm

I'll spend the night, only if you live next door.

To answer your question, I'll never tell

ProtonicMan 47M

9/21/2005 8:53 pm

Sure, I'll come and keep you company. But do I get to go to the morgue with you, too?

Fear is nothing to be ashamed of. Everybody has a fear of something or another. For some people, it is speaking in public. For others, it is water, or heights, or getting caught having an affair. Sometimes fear is irrational, other times it is healthy.

I'm not so sure that the best way to handle it is to charge headlong into it. Someone with a freudian psychology background might try to prod you into dealing with the "childhood issues" that caused your fear.

The best way I have heard to deal with a fear is to find a thought related to the topic that makes you feel better, even just a tiny bit. Focus on that. Then, keep looking for another thought that feels better. In the process of looking, you will find some that are the same, or worse. Don't dwell on those. Keep looking for a thought that feels better, then latch onto it.

However, a better way still might be, what is it about the I.E. class that would be weird? What's wrong with learning more about a different group of people? Guys take women's studies classes, don't they? Heck, some of 'em even do it to learn instead of trying to meet girls! Besides, you might find a different spin on something that does interest you or is more relevant to your chosen line of study.

Good luck!


redmustang91 57M  
8599 posts
9/23/2005 10:27 am

they have desensitivization courses for fears, with a little at a time in a safe environment. See a psychologist if you want to end it or just accept you are fearful. Spiders are not scary to me, but I do not like being bitten especially by venomous ones! Use a fly swatter or shoe tokill them in the house! Dead bodies are no fun but the live violent ones are much more worrisome to me!

shyknight2005 42M
163 posts
9/23/2005 9:43 pm

Well, I was gonna offer to accompany you on your class(sounds like fun and then keep you company thru the night, to keep the nightmares away...but looks like I will have to stand in line lol. Maybe next time, milady...just call if you need a knight to guard over yourself during the evening hours @};-

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