COULDA WOULDA SHOULDA  

deliciousngood 64F
1129 posts
3/28/2006 8:32 pm

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COULDA WOULDA SHOULDA

This is dedicated to our VERY lovely GODDESS1946 goddess1946

Her blog about GUILT was very appropriate to me today...THEN..clearing out my inbox I found THIS email...from a website I visit.This Essay was included in the email. I hope you all read it and find some wisdom.

LOVE & LIGHT

Alice
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[COLOR darkredSpiritual Words of Empowerment

By Owen Waters

Guilt

Guilt comes in two forms: The guilt of your own conscience and the sense of guilt projected upon you by another person.

The promptings of your conscience come from your soul guiding you as to what is the heart-centered response to situations in your life. Listen to that still, small voice within. No one ever looked back on their life, complaining that they had loved too much. Quite the reverse, in fact.

If your sense of guilt is projected upon you by someone else, remember that this is merely a game which is played by people with control issues. Such people desperately fear that they have no control over their own lives, so they compensate by trying to control the lives of others.

Genuine promptings of conscience, on the other hand, are the gentle whisperings of your inner guidance as to how you can behave in a more loving manner. Love is the balm that heals all things. When your conscience prompts you to give more love, then find a way to express that healing energy in your life.

Life is a learning experience which is designed to result in continual transformation to more harmonious states of consciousness.

Listen within, act and transform. That's what life is for
.


Owen Waters is editor and cofounder of Infinite Being LLC. He promotes a philosophy of spiritual empowerment through inner connection to the source of your ultimate potential. For the full picture, read Owen's book, "The Shift: The Revolution in Human Consciousness




deliciousngood 64F
1666 posts
3/29/2006 3:56 am

Thanks Mz HUny....I get some really amazing stuff in my e-mail box!


clevergirl4U 58F

3/29/2006 4:48 am

Good post! My inspiration fix for the day


KarezzaMagick 64M
165 posts
3/29/2006 4:19 pm

Greetings, 'licous

You wrote: If your sense of guilt is projected upon you by someone else, remember that this is merely a game which is played by people with control issues. Such people desperately fear that they have no control over their own lives, so they compensate by trying to control the lives of others.

For some people, that is true.

But there are those who do it because they want to control you for some real benefit (to their position or imagined position), for example, when some idea or stance you might be interested in examining, researching, or embracing is smeared by evil association or by ad-hominem attacks... or they are subtle and remind you (not always with words) that such and such is not orthodox and you would not want to be associated with such a thing, etc.


deliciousngood 64F
1666 posts
3/29/2006 7:44 pm

    Quoting KarezzaMagick:
    Greetings, 'licous

    You wrote: If your sense of guilt is projected upon you by someone else, remember that this is merely a game which is played by people with control issues. Such people desperately fear that they have no control over their own lives, so they compensate by trying to control the lives of others.

    For some people, that is true.

    But there are those who do it because they want to control you for some real benefit (to their position or imagined position), for example, when some idea or stance you might be interested in examining, researching, or embracing is smeared by evil association or by ad-hominem attacks... or they are subtle and remind you (not always with words) that such and such is not orthodox and you would not want to be associated with such a thing, etc.
Trust me I am well acquainted with that kind of control. Look up Narcissistic personality disorder. Eye-opening!

Namaste!

Alice


keithcancook 60M
17783 posts
3/29/2006 9:07 pm



<<======== Not Guilty!


ilsgicemru 72M
2822 posts
3/30/2006 7:34 am

.................... Good n Delicious

Thanks for the inspiration !! ... Isn't it great how people freely share ideas and inspirations with each other ? .. Thanks again !!

I want you to know that you are a special young lady !! .. Whenever I see your profile photo . I smile .. and I love to see you show up on my blog page !! .. Your comments are always appreciated !!

Oh ... And thanks for telling me about your invisable writing on your profile page !! Lol ... Fun !! !!


NEsailor 69M

3/31/2006 12:45 pm

A good friend & trusted shipmate of mine once said, "If you never lie, you don't have to worry about remembering what you said".

That's good wisdom & the best way to avoid guilt, also stress!


KarezzaMagick 64M
165 posts
3/31/2006 6:35 pm

you wrote...

>Trust me I am well acquainted with that kind of control. Look up Narcissistic personality disorder. Eye-opening!

Yikes! This explains a lot! I was unaware of this specific term (Narcissistic personality disorder).

I did look it up and I read several articles:

Idealization, Grandiosity, Cathexis, and Narcissistic Progress

The Narcissist as Eternal Child

The Narcissist's Inner Judge

On the other hand, I see tinges of this in many people, myself included -- nothing full blown, but tinges nevertheless.

The second article listed above mentioned that: "Such "delayed adulthood" is very common in many poor and developing countries, especially those with patriarchal societies."

Then the author says: ""To the alienated and schizoid ears of Westerners, the survival of family and community in Central and Eastern Europe (CEE) sounds like an attractive proposition."

Several lines below that, we find: "The ancient blood feud laws of the kanoon were handed over through familial lineages in northern Albania, in defiance of the paranoiac Enver Hoxha regime."

So there are entire nations and social systems that are sick. Why am I not surprised?


deliciousngood 64F
1666 posts
3/31/2006 7:23 pm

Check that term out in reference to emotional abuse. many people have some narcissisric TRAITS...but do not suffer the full-blown personality disorder.


southrnpeach333 50F

4/1/2006 8:34 am

guilt is a mother's favorite tool....

but nothing stronger than self guilt, great post, thanks for sharing this essay.


tootsiedippin 53M/53F
1078 posts
4/1/2006 10:24 am

So many loose that voice from with in to faulse goals. They're descised in many forms Religion, 5th Avenue...This does not mean that these sourses are all bad but they can be used to hide intents.

D & G your always inspire....

Dippin


seek_u_topia 51M

4/1/2006 8:40 pm

thanks for sharing this. I need to be reminded from time to time about such things.


TTigerAtty 62M

4/5/2006 5:37 pm

"No one ever looked back on their life, complaining that they had loved too much."

There are pearls of wisdom found throughout the blogs and this one jumped out at me this evening. Thanks for the post, my dear!


deliciousngood 64F
1666 posts
4/5/2006 6:10 pm

THanks TT...I'm glad you found wisdom from those words


tillerbabe 56F

4/9/2006 5:36 pm

Very nice!


tillerbabe 56F

4/9/2006 5:46 pm

I don't have a problem with peeps feeling guilty, if from that experience, they learn, apologize for their actions and grow. However, if their personal GUILT is used to gain compassion, ie "I've been bad..please tell me I'm Ok for being bad so i can feel better about being bad and continue on the same path..." I think it is self-serving and painful to others at that times, it may be appropriate for others to hol up a mirror to that person so that they can see who they really are - after all we are here for each other.. to learn form each other and to teach each other. Guilt can be used as a ploy to maintian inaccountability.


deliciousngood 64F
1666 posts
4/9/2006 7:31 pm

I AGREE whyoleheartedly with you tiller...some people shrinhk at their own relfection in a mirror...yet blame others for what they see...Those types do not respond to that form of guilt, unfortunately!


eriedragon4 57M
1076 posts
4/12/2006 2:21 am

thanks for the visit
love your blog

inside you
my heated heart exploded
drained by your pulse
I blossomed in you
so bright so strong
it lasted so long
you glowed atop me
head back in rapture
hands digging into my chest
a goddess at sexual best
igniting a fire throughout my body
legs weak from passion's pressure
your name racing from my lips
my hands gripping your lovely hips
it was a moment
that lasted forever
as inside you
my heated heart exploded

Your, loyal dragon


ilsgicemru 72M
2822 posts
4/12/2006 5:53 am

...................... Good n Delicious Girl

I saw that you visited my blog last night and I wasn't dissapointed when you didn't leave a comment !! .. That . "still small voice" inside of me . tells me to tell you . that I love you for your visit . and that I love you for being you !! .. I am overwealmed this morning with feelings of love and being loved by our universe . and would be remiss for not giving you my thoughts !! .. Thankyou for being such a loving part of it all !!

Wow !! .. I wish that I could have said what I felt last night as I went to sleep . and when I woke this morning .. as well as the dragon did !! .. Ditto !!

...................... ils


MoonRise9 58M

4/12/2006 7:42 pm

Alice -
Thanks for your words
Your effort, your journey
All are appreciated
And many feel common
On this very moonlit night.
At times I imagine all the other people gazing at the moon at the same time as me, the sharing of wonderment in this neighborhood we call Earth.

Jeff


roger_the_hound 57M

4/13/2006 3:54 am

Delicious Alice, you wote:
Listen within, act and transform. That's what life is for.

I listened within and a quiver
Occurred beneath stomach and liver.
My member
transformed
And fantasies formed.
My
action was: cum like a river!


That's life!

Ars longa, vita brevis.


kyplowboy22 61M

4/13/2006 7:50 pm

Very good post, saw a lot of good info there. Later

kpb

PS: Thanks for the visit over at my place, kid


eriedragon4 57M
1076 posts
4/16/2006 11:47 pm

Tonight, I dream of you

So Delicious

and good

My erotic

Beautiful delicacy

You arouse

My sense of wonder

So curious

Black lace

Imagination gone wild

Sultry goddess

Peel yourself away

So audacious

Lay spread your smooth thighs

Right now I worship you

So anxious

On my knees

Honor and pleasure you

Ready tongue

I gently lick

So luscious

Burst drip

Your pulsating pulp

Sweet Ambrosia

I taste you

So scrumptious

Devour slowly

Your forbidden fruit

Release yourself

I quench my thirst

So gracious

I am your hummingbird

To your exotic flower


thank you for your visit this one is yours
my delicious one
your,loyal Dragon


rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
4/17/2006 12:08 am

Namaste'Beloved Alice...
Thank you...
And *COULDA WOULDA SHOULDA* really was a wonderful book!


Guilt always serves...the question always is who and how?
Appreciated your sharing your e*mail gem!
{=}

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


amoldenough 70F
16436 posts
6/19/2006 4:02 pm

Alice, thankyou for sharing the article on guilt. Unfortunately, another one of my frailties.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."


deliciousngood 64F
1666 posts
6/19/2006 8:49 pm

Erie...that was breath taking!! THANK YOU


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