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Wine and Chocolate
 
Exploring the sensual nature of things in general and ME in particular.
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WHY, OH WHY
Postad:9 april 2009 8:55 pm
Senast Uppdaterad:27 october 2011 5:36 pm
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DO THEY KEEP MESSING WITH THE BLOG PAGE???????

HAPPY EASTER WEEKEND TO EVERYONE.....Love & kisses

Alice

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Asking/getting
Postad:29 januari 2009 10:24 pm
Senast Uppdaterad:20 januari 2019 8:22 am
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My good friend says to me today : " you'd better start saying what you want...cause, otherwise you won't ever get it."

I am very bad at asking for things I want. Usually I end up not getting, as he says.

How do you ask for love? How do you ask how someone feels about you?

I know this is my own fears being manifest. I know I know I know.......

HELP.

* still smiling anyway....

Alice

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In 25 years
Postad:4 december 2008 3:43 pm
Senast Uppdaterad:17 februari 2022 11:21 am
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I cannot believe that today my baby is 25 years old! Seems like yesterday I was riding to the hospital and giving birth to him in one hour and 37 minutes...LOL

He has grown into a smart, compassionate and loving man, but he gives no quarter to fools and idiots. He takes care of his Dad. I had to get away from him, and do not regret that. I do regret that he has to do those things!

I love my ....Happy birthday kiddo!
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1000 comments....and the winner is
Postad:4 november 2008 3:29 pm
Senast Uppdaterad:20 januari 2019 8:17 am
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Roger_the_hound...

MY 1000th commenter !!!!

YAY...I am so happy that someone I have enjoyed trading limericks with over the years is my 1000th commenter!

(((((((((((((roger))))))))))))))
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Jealousy & Greed
Postad:1 november 2008 8:16 pm
Senast Uppdaterad:20 maj 2014 8:07 pm
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'.....Oh the jealousy, the greed is the unravelling,and it undoes all the good that could be."...sez Joni Mitchell circa 1969.

How does one get past jealousy in open relationships and/or polyamorous ones?

In my examination of my own motives and emotions surrounding sharing one's lover with someone else: I find that almost always I am feeling greedy, needy and less than worthy. Once I recognized that I should be pleased and happy if my lover is pleased and happy, it was less likely to be that greedy/needy feeling.

What causes me distress now is if I am feeling left out and deceived. This is not in the mind-set of polyamory, nor open relationships. Honesty and inclusion is what I demand.

So...if I love you...keep me informed to the degree to which I am comforted and BE HERE NOW...when you are with me. Join me in OUR realm, where our attachment and joy in one another can BE.


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Relationships
Postad:30 october 2008 2:29 pm
Senast Uppdaterad:5 januari 2016 8:10 am
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Enjoying a morning of coffee-flavored kisses and sweetness with my lover, our talk turned to what it is that makes a "relationship". I said something about not being IN one because of certain fears I have of being controlled,etc.

He looked at me and smiled and said,"You ARE in one...with me!"

I had to think about that but he is correct. We respect and love each other. We treat each other's feelings with care and tenderness. If one of us has a need the other tries to meet it or, at the very least,acknowledge it!

There are aspects of this "relationship" that are hugely satisfying to me. There are areas that are lacking, as well. To get the good parts I tend to ignore the lack.

What are you willing to do to keep the status quo in a relatinship of any kind? What are you willing to give up or forgo?

What are you willing to risk to ask for more?


-a day in the life of me-
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Full moon...lunacy or magic
Postad:19 juni 2008 9:23 am
Senast Uppdaterad:25 juni 2015 2:14 pm
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I have two huge windows in my bedroom. One day the larger one will be a french door to a deck...Sigh! The only draw-back is the morning sunlight and the full moon.

Tuesday night, after some outrageously fantastic love-making, (Yes, wahine...lol), the moonlight was streaming in my bedroom window, flooding my bed with the most delicious light. The moon was about 14 hours from absolute full-moon stage. I had an IDEA...

The idea of making love in the full-moon light has always beckoned to me. This opportunity could not be passed by! So I said to the hippie-boy,"Know what I wanna do now"? He said...Let's go!! So out on to the deck we went.

*side bar: this fellow is everready....that's why I love him...LOL

*another side bar....I live surrounded by family...my aunt's house is literally 15 feet from the deck where we were...uh "standing"...


I cannot begin to tell you how delicious the moonlight was on my skin, seeing it on his skin...we were glowing...it was "awesome", truly.


I will now quote some of my favorite moonthings:

"You laugh-you think you're immune. Go look at your eyes-they're full of moon...."-- Joni Mitchell

A Poem by Rumi for you...

There is some kiss we want with
our whole lives, the touch of

spirit on the body. Seawater
begs the pearl to break its shell.

And the lily, how passionately
it needs some wild darling! At

night I open the window and ask
the moon to come and press its

face against mine. Breathe into
me. Close the language-door and

open the love-window. The moon
won't use the door, only the window.

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Fueling my life
Postad:5 juni 2008 10:57 am
Senast Uppdaterad:19 januari 2019 7:13 pm
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An Essay About The Cost of My Life

Five years ago, I got a divorce. It was a long time coming and well-deserved respite from…Well; let us just say “bad choices”.

I got custody of the house. I further got custody of the mortgage. I have that pretty much handled. What I did not anticipate was being forced to pay for the frivolity and irresponsibility of the “ex”. This is not a part of this discussion. What is bogging me down is the current increase in the costs of things I must buy in order to live. I do not live a lavish lifestyle. I am in the lower middle-class as far as income and benefits are concerned.

Let us look at the cost of gasoline and fuel for my small life.

• In 2002 I could fill my gas tank for $13.75
• Today it cost me $40.83…..the difference: $27.08 or an increase of 290 %


• In 2002 the budget plan at my propane company was $71.00 a month
• Today I pay $ 168.00 per month to heat my home and hot water. The difference: $97.00 or an increase of $163 %. (The rates are negotiated and locked in for a year).

• For the last 3 years, I have worked 24 miles from my home, so that is a 48 mile drive each day. I get 30 miles to the gallon in my vehicle. I work 6 days a week most of the time. For math purposes let us say I get 24 miles to a gallon. ($1.39 vs. $3.89)…Or one gallon a day. This, of course, assumes that I do not drive anywhere else, keep to the same route each day and drive at the same speed all the time.

• The increase in the cost to drive myself to my mediocre job: 293%



Now, let us look at my wages. Without being specific, I earn in the 30,000-35,000 range. Last year I received a “merit raise” of 3%. Somehow, I do not think this will cover the increases in the cost of living I have incurred.

What is going to happen to me in this uncertain world? I am responsible only for myself. My choices seem to be to quit the job that I have now and find something closer to my home or to continue this downward spiral of spending a vast majority of my earnings to fuel my life. This does not seem right to me.

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Truck Stop woman.....ok I
Postad:7 maj 2008 2:28 pm
Senast Uppdaterad:26 november 2014 4:33 am
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Do you dare?
If you play, you MUST post this on your blog.
No exceptions!
(I played on SverigesAngel's blog)

Just type your name in my blog comments...
Once you have done that,
this is what I'll do for you...

I will:

1. Respond with something random about you.

2. Tell you which song or movie you remind me of.

3. Pick a flavor of jello to wrestle you in.

4. Say something that only makes sense to you and me.
(If not possible, I'll say something that only makes sense to me.....)

5. Tell you my first memory of you.

6. Tell you what animal you remind me of.

7. Ask you something I've always wondered about you.

Again...if you play, you MUST post this on yours!

* I played on LipsSayAll's blog post [post 1400429]
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Someone's Girl...an extension of "all I want"
Postad:18 april 2008 8:46 am
Senast Uppdaterad:20 maj 2014 8:39 pm
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My friend is in a new relationship. She's the type that leaps into things full-fledged. By this I mean she is picking out the china pattern on the second date ( in her head, of course). I have some judgments about this...she knows I do. Mainly I fear her getting her heart stomped on by someone who has relationship fears of his own. It can happen even with "nice guys".

BUT....this "nice guy" introduced her to someone as "my girl". Awwwwwwwwwwww. Now I am 55 years old. I've not been a girl for many years longer than I WAS a girl. Ha. BUT...if someone were to introduce me that way..I would be a goner.

So let me be a girl...just one more time.

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All I Want
Postad:2 april 2008 10:38 am
Senast Uppdaterad:5 januari 2016 8:15 am
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I came to this site like many others do: seeking fun and excitement, pleasure and adventure. I must say that in my experiences I have found some of those things; but,I find myself wanting more than JUST that.

I want a partner. I want someone who wants what I want. I want somone who brings out the very best in me. I want someone who appreciates me and understands me.

I further want someone who will explore in the realms of sensuality and pleasure with me. I want someone like TCG that bipolybabe found. That is, someone who exults in the essence that is ME.

So I leave you with this song. It is not so much a lament as it is an exultation of THE JOY THAT COULD BE...


* note...I blame or thank 1hotwahinefor my ongoing obsession with Joni Mitchell.

Sing it Joni:


I am on a lonely road and I am traveling
Traveling, traveling, traveling
Looking for something, what can it be
Oh I hate you some, I hate you some, I love you some
Oh I love you when I forget about me

I want to be strong I want to laugh along
I want to belong to the living
Alive, alive, I want to get up and jive
I want to wreck my stockings in some juke box dive
Do you want - do you want - do you want to dance with me baby
Do you want to take a chance
On maybe finding some sweet romance with me baby
Well, come on

All I really really want our love to do
Is to bring out the best in me and in you too
All I really really want our love to do
Is to bring out the best in me and in you
I want to talk to you, I want to shampoo you
I want to renew you again and again
Applause, applause - Life is our cause
When I think of your kisses my mind see-saws
Do you see - do you see - do you see how you hurt me baby
So I hurt you too
Then we both get so blue.

I am on a lonely road and I am traveling
Looking for the key to set me free
Oh the jealousy, the greed is the unraveling
It's the unraveling
And it undoes all the joy that could be
I want to have fun, I want to shine like the sun
I want to be the one that you want to see
I want to knit you a sweater
Want to write you a love letter
I want to make you feel better
I want to make you feel free
I want to make you feel free

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Joni Sings The Blues....
Postad:8 mars 2008 10:51 am
Senast Uppdaterad:26 november 2014 4:28 am
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That Joni knew her stuff.....It's still good stuff today.

Conversation
by Joni Mitchell

He comes for conversation
I comfort him sometimes
Comfort and consultation
He knows that's what he'll find

I bring him apples and cheeses
He brings me songs to play
He sees me when he pleases
I see him in cafes

And I only say hello
And turn away before his lady knows
How much I want to see him

She removes him like a ring
To wash her hands
She only brings him out to show her friends
I want to free him

Secrets and sharing soda
That's how our time began
Love is a story told to a friend
It's second hand

But I'll listen to his questions
I'll give my answers when they're found
He says she keeps him guessing
But I know she keeps him down

She speaks in sorry sentences
Miraculous repentances
I don't believe her

Tomorrow he will come to me
And he'll speak his sorrow endlessly and ask me why
Why can't I leave her?

He comes for conversation
I comfort him sometimes
Comfort and consultation
He knows that's what he'll find


(As sung at the 2nd fret on Oct 12, 1967

He's acted down all evening
Maybe it's over now
Maybe she's finally leaving
I'd like to show her now

But friends are friends forever
So hard to change their role
Laugh with him, cry together
A friend feels so old
Hey friend, it feels so whole

But you keep your feelings deep inside
You talk of them and think of pride
Now is the wrong time
But maybe if a dozen days are warm and right
You'll hear him say "I've wanted you baby for such a long time"

He comes for conversation
I comfort him sometimes
Comfort and consultation
He knows that's what he'll find


photo credit: Baron Wolfman Photography
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All You Did Was Wreck my bed
Postad:7 mars 2008 2:03 pm
Senast Uppdaterad:26 november 2014 4:45 am
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But I didn't mind.

*sigh*
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