Enough Already!  

dasher121 36M
3656 posts
3/14/2006 8:30 am

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Enough Already!

Ok, so I have sat back and just chilled on this subject for the last two weeks now. I kept my mouth shut and didnt say a word. But now, the Dude speaks out.

Recently, curious082385 and I announced that we were seeing eachother. She came to visit Pittsburgh and we had a GREAT time. Yes, we had a great time. However, things just didnt work out. And really, thats about all you have to know. So two weeks ago, things were broken off and we are now very good friends.

The mistake that we, or I for that matter, made was to let people into our situation. And of course, now things are being said to her like,

"He played you."

"the whole trip was fake"

"Stop talking to him"

And yada yada yada. Some of you have even stopped talking to me. That actually doesnt bother me. I'll tell you what does, its the ones who are my supposed "friends" here that are talking shit. And yet they come here to my little abode and continue to front like "nothing is up" and play like they arent involved. Some I confided my feelings with and turned around and copied my emails(real nice, thanks.).

Ok then, Id love to cuss you all out. But hell, whats the point? If you are wheeling and dealing behind my back, then you are two faced and Im not wasting my time with people like that.

Two weeks ago, her and I were both confused, both hurt, and didnt know what was up. Alot of shit was said and much to be made up on. Things are getting better. All we want to do is be friends and move the fuck on. But nooooooo, people have to be in it all dee way. Its like its their fucking relationship.

And another thing some of you fuckers dont know, my life is going through some major personal bullshit right now. My parents are getting divorced, my sister has cancer, Im trying to start a damn career, and once again Im slipping. But you didnt know that did you? Of course not, but feel the need to get involved in shit that you only know the half of! And please peeps, no sympathy needed here. I kept this shit to myself for a while now because I can handle it and I dont want to be felt sorry for.

In the end, Im not even sure I want to stay here. I have no one I can really trust anymore. This blog was supposed to be fun, an outlet, and I do enjoy it very much. I may not leave, but Im sure as shit not playing these games with certain people anymore. You've lost my trust and my friendship. I confided in you, and you fucked me......and without lube, how rude!

So go on now, go play your games and draw your lines. Go take your sides, go talk shit, and spin your little webs. Im tired, Im so damn tired.

And remember:

A friend stabs you in the back,

but a true friend stabs you in the front.

pinkzplaytoyz 50F

3/14/2006 8:49 am

Well, I'm a new friend here who didn't know a thing about all this, but... I do know what you mean.
People who don't know how to give someone respect in any areas are the worst kind of so-called "friends"...
I know the kind of crap you're talking about...and I'm sorry it's been happening to you as well.
I admire the fact that you're speaking out about it...and telling those "friends" how you feel.

Koffla 60M
55110 posts
3/14/2006 9:06 am

Dasher, one thing I've learned in the internet is that people need to be careful about how much info you put out there for others to read. A lot of times you develop "internet friendships", people who are here making you believe they are someone who they are not. The copy and paste emails is an old trick people use to pull others into their sides also.

This is supposed to be fun, not kindergarden and hight school games. My suggestion for the future, is to continue having fun, meeting others and what is important is that only you and those others should know about your business. Good luck.


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TabithaElectra79 38F

3/14/2006 9:16 am

If you enjoy your blog carry on, don't let other peolpe drive you away, I know it can be difficult, but there really are people here who care, and as with anywhere in this life, there will ALWAYS be people poking their noses in where it is not wanted, smiles for you

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
3/14/2006 9:17 am

i forgot you were even dating hugs hun,it will die down when the next victim comes along

I'm a

i'm here to stay

caressmewell 53F

3/14/2006 9:28 am

It will work itself out. I was unaware of all of this and I'm sorry that things didn't work the way you two expected but remaining friends is great..we can never have to many. Hopefully with the fall out of peeps talking you will discover who your true friends are. Take care..

crazygurl2xx 57F

3/14/2006 9:32 am

Dude, that's really funny:
A friend stabs you in the back,
but a true friend stabs you in the front.

I tell my enemies I won't stab you in the back...you'll see me coming like a freight train!

Sorry things did not work out with curious. The whole thing was TOO HOT!! But you never know...

My best to you both.

willudomeharder 39F
85 posts
3/14/2006 9:35 am

Wow.....it really surprises me that people would be that way on a blog/website like this. I guess I'm naieve too & just expect people to be real. I don't know you, or your story, but I'm sorry you had to deal with all the BS. I think, as long as you and the girl are cool with eachother, you guys shouldn't let what other people say affect your feelings. As for the personal things you're going through, keep your chin up. You'll never have anything put in front of you that you aren't capable of handling. You seem like a good guy, please don't become bitter or jaded because a few assholes decided to poke thier nose where it doesn't belong.

jadedbabe78 106F

3/14/2006 9:44 am

Awww dasher, I am so sorry you had to endure this .

That totally sucks that people had to make shit up behind your back and make assumptions as to what happened.

Shit happens to us all and it's nobody's damn business what happened except for you two.

I was unaware of things being said or that anything had happened. Then again, I'm to absorbed in my own little fucked up world TO pay attention. Another reason why 99% of my blog isn't personal...I keep it off the blogs and will discuss it with someone in private...but if it's brought out in the open...watch out.

I hope you don't leave. Because I truly enjoy your blog and your humor.

Take care of you and hugs ~ Jadey

Kaliedascope61 41M
4084 posts
3/14/2006 9:55 am

sorry dude

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
3/14/2006 9:58 am

I knew about the dating but had no idea of the breakup. I am sorry you two called it off but its good that you remain friends.

While it is good that people meet from this site it is never a good idea to tell the world. There is a whole bunch of asscracks here waiting to see and hear of it failing, so that they can run with it.

Keep your head up, gossip fades, and so do rude people when you dont feed into their insensitive game. People will judge you and dont know which way is up or down in their own lives. Good luck to you....

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
3/14/2006 10:21 am

Well...Too all the traitors I say fuck em...trust me I know how you feel about backstabbers...Ive delt with my share of real life ones as Im sure everyone has. I had heard that you two where seeing eachother but I hadnt heard about the break up..which is cool because honestly its none of my business its between you 2...Im sorry things didnt go that well for you 2....regaurdless...good luck to you on your career something Im in the processes of trying to build as well...and best wishs to your family. peace

dasher121 36M

3/14/2006 11:03 am

Thanks for all the comments peoples and Freaky Darlings. Its all cool, and as some of you left advice about being careful what you put out online you are so very correct.

Lesson learned. I probably will stick around here, I like writing here and the society that is blogland. Its not that I dont trust anyone either, but am def taking people for face value now.

I am partially to blame in this situation. Some people I went to in confidence and I shouldnt have. Should have kept it all to myself. Like I said, lesson learned.

Big smile to all of you,

The Dude.

rm_mzbitch2u 47F
63 posts
3/14/2006 11:46 am

i thought high school was behind us! LOL

sorry about the breakup, long distance relationships can be HARD, but its great that u took a leap and explored it.

oh please do stick around, youre stories are the best by far! youre such a funny dude!!

oldman1776 78M
3164 posts
3/14/2006 11:54 am

I would hate to see you leave dasher but wouldn't blame you if you did. people on here are just like people in real life. Like you said friends wiLL stab you in the back, but real friends will stab you in the front. So very true.

TheLilFondler 33F  
2576 posts
3/14/2006 12:09 pm

*big hugz for dash..... people suck!

i lost my virginity years ago.....
but i still have the box.....

MrNuttz05 49M

3/14/2006 2:20 pm

Dash, Sometimes you have to view the world through hazey glasses. Meaning you have to focus more on some items to really see what they are about than others... Remember what FFA is about, a release from relaity... Meet or chat with friends. All of that is on you! But have fun doing it... You have kept things in perspective for me when I was on edge, I hope to do the same with you... You & Gatekeeper are friends to me, you know that, but a friend would never tell another what he or she should say or do when it comes to the heart... I hope it works out for the best & I know it will. But you are my brotha' through thick & thin...

ediesedgewick 57F

3/14/2006 3:55 pm

It's your stuff to figure out--and nobody else's business. You learned some lessons. Your true friends--you'll know.

goldinboy2 60M

3/14/2006 4:58 pm

Hey brother, holds hand out pulls you in for a big brotherly hug, I learned a long time ago not to sweat the small stuff , you can't stop fools from talking, and to keep my private life private. You should see the shit i started be dating a girl 20 years younger than me WooooHooo I'm friends with her mother and father to but they don't have a problem with it. Its the jealous fools that do. Like the lady who cancled a contract I had because she thinks I will be a bad infuance on her husband. To Fuckin Funny. Keep the writing up your good dude.

rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
3/14/2006 5:58 pm

I just left a comment on C's blog that is relavent for you as well, so no need to repeat myself here. Just go read that and know that it was intended for you as well.

As far as blogs, go...
Maybe the lesson will be the same one many of us have learned: Don't get too close too fast. I keep a little distance regarding my blog friends that isn't negative at all, is warm, but keeps the fact that we only have the headline versions of each other in mind. It's good that way.

OK, having said that, I also must that that there are exceptions. I have about five or six friendships that began here, continued on IM and other forms and have transcended the distance thing to become absolute 'from the heart' friendships. It's certainly possible, it just is a little trickier online.

We reach out, sometimes we get burned, we learn, we're smarter the next time. Yeah?

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

carebearluv2 42F

3/14/2006 8:20 pm

Dash...I have two sayings that I live by when it comes to gossip: "well, if they are talking about me, they are leaving someone else alone" and "those that gossip with you, will gossip about you".

Curious and I are on a similar journey right now and consider ourselves to be blog twins. She's a great person as you know and I have made no secret of the admiration I have for you in regards to our blogs. You are always the first to give me an encouraging word and you have a keen sense of other's feelings.

I have a very simliar sense of observation and noticed not only that you were dating but suspected that you had split up (before both announcements). However, I would never have asked for that confirmation because IT IS NO ONE'S BUSINESS!! I am sorry for the drama man, but fuck them. Let them live their lives as miserable human beings and blog on! There are those of us, like myself, that just wouldn't find Blogland to be the same without you.

I show you no pity for your personal situations, just kind thoughts and support.

pet_humility 48F

3/15/2006 8:42 am

Still here for ya buddy no matter what!

People should not do to others that they don't want
done on them.
Its a old saying, but so fucking true!!

frangipanigal 45F
10406 posts
3/15/2006 5:04 pm

It's between the two of you and no one else. You have a friend in her and you maybe learned that someone you thought was a friend, actually wasn't...

Stay here and blog and I hope all the yuk stuff that's going on in your Real Life and here sorts itself out soon.


rm_texasgal1978 45F
225 posts
3/16/2006 8:25 pm

I'm gone for a few days and look what happens. Trust your instincts and don't give up expressing yourself.

You'be been a supporter of me when I have been down and I am here to do the same. I've been in remission from cancer for over 10 years and also have dealt with family members with cancer. If you need to talk just let me know. That's what friends are for.

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
3/19/2006 1:59 am

It's between you and her.... nobody else's business. You're both in my thoughtz


MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
3/19/2006 7:05 pm

You know, shit like what's happening to you two really pisses me off. Two years ago, I was in a long distance relationship with someone in another country.

I knew I was taking a risk getting on a plane and running off to meet him. Friends of mine in chat insisted I give them his real name, address and phone number should I disappear. I heard all the ~jokes~ about how if I'm found dead floating in the Thames, or the next time they hear from me I had been sold into slavery in Hong Kong, who should they notify. I wasn't too amused.

Needless to say, after several trips, it did end. But then again, if I had known in advance he thought he was a Sith Lord living in Middle Earth, it either never would have started, or ended a lot sooner. However...

Even though it ended, the trips were important. Why? If it had never progressed from chat, IMs and phone calls, I would STILL be asking myself, "what if?" What if I had gone, would we still be together? What if I just threw away my chances for happiness, true love, etc. I would have spent the rest of my life regretting not going. I knew the risks going in. I knew there was a chance he would take a look at me and tell me to go away. I knew we could meet and not be into each other. I knew we could meet and instantly hate each other. I've been witness to all of these situations. As a result, I made sure I didn't count on things working out in any way on the first trip. I booked a room at a hostel, even though I only ended up there to change clothes. I also knew, even if it had been a total disaster on meeting, eh, it was a vacation.

Now, if you had played her, would you two still be friends? Of course not. She wouldn't be speaking to you. I took my first trip to her blog tonight and read a few pages. She's no twinkie. She seems to be well grounded in reality.

There was nothing fake about her trip. You two had to find out. Not knowing is a lot rougher than meeting and finding out. No one was played. It is her choice to speak to you and your choice to speak to her. If things didn't work out, you can't force it. So tell everyone who's saying nasty things to go fuck themselves.

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