Granpa has an itch  

rm_dandth 47M/38F
193 posts
5/1/2005 7:42 pm

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Granpa has an itch

We have grandfather that recently began to date again after having been widowed at New Years. This would officially qualify as 4 months of mourning. Some people say that out of respect for the dead, you should wait 12 months before you re-enter the local meat markets. However, in this situation, his wife had been very ill for a couple of years, and the end dragged out for months. So we gave him a "pass" on the 12 month thing seeing that his mourning really began a while ago when she was diagnosed as terminal. Now, I admit, being terminal isn't the same thing as being cold in the ground, so his official 12 months may not have gotten off to a NASCAR start, but it's not like she died unexpectedly in her late 30's choking on a melon-ball at a Jimmy Buffet concert either, in which case the shock and stages of depression would have a more normal flow. Plus, he's 70 yet he looks like his in his mid 50's and still manages bike-week in Daytona every year on his Harley. So, he may be on borrowed time anyway, not wanting to squander it on proper timing, and at the same time, he's young enough at heart that I'm sure he's been hurting for some action. I guess in the swinger communities, it's easier to say the physical needs should be ok to have met once the urge strikes you again. What about the emotional needs? Morrison said, "No one here gets out alive", so faced with the knowledge that one of you will vacate the planet earlier than the other (outside of an accident), how long do you want your love to wait to start over?

newforyou29 42M/40F

5/2/2005 3:31 pm

15 to 20 minutes

patsam69 51M/51F

5/4/2005 6:27 am

If something happened to me now...he better wait!! LOL...but when we are old... jump right in!

mi_mwpm 51M

5/4/2005 7:02 pm

I'm with Sexy... proper is whatever works for you, not some arbitrary number of days or months.

Kev_n_Elsie 56M/53F

10/22/2005 11:37 am

There were “official mourning guidelines” that Victorian folks were supposed to follow, entire books were written on the subject. It included a year of wearing only black (for the woman), and this year was known as deep mourning. The second year was “half mourning” where they could then choose the color of clothing, probably still dark, and could start wearing hats again. However I have found that in the US, back in the day (1700’s-1800’s), quite often a widow or widower would remarry rather quickly. Usually that had to do with need for care for a large family. The widow needed someone to help provide the daily staples for her and her children. The widower needed someone to take care of his children so he could go out and earn the living or tend to the fields and bring sustenance back to the family. So it was a mutual need that brought them together. (rule breakers and rebels is what I call them)

In today’s world it would only be for our own selfishness that we would hold grandpa back from getting some trim. We look down our noses, and wonder how he could do this (to us or grandma), when in reality, nobody loved grandma more than he did. As much as we hurt over the loss, he lost his soul mate, his lover, and his best friend. He is the only one who can determine when is the right time for him. Studies show that married folks live longer, so if we really want to think selfishly, we should toss him back in the game sooner rather than later, so we can enjoy his wisdom for many years to come.

I say, sign him on AdultFriendFinder and get him laid!!!!

rm_dandth 47M/38F
173 posts
10/24/2005 5:43 pm

VERY well put K&E! He's doing well by the way, hooked up with a spring chicken that although in her 60's doesn't look a day over 53. I'm sure she's rocking his bed whenever he wants!

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