Drugs are bad...  

dancewithme29 46F
207 posts
7/2/2005 8:20 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Drugs are bad...

and prolific here. Met another one last night with a strange look in his watery eyes. The shaky, nervous thing was odd too. Wait, did I mention cocky and arrogant? That's what I get for not listening to my gut. Always trust it...I knew it wasn't a good match and ignored the warning signs because he's cute. The cute part was overshadowed by the lacking social skills part. Conversation? Nope. Not into it. Reminded me of my ex...pulling teeth to talk.

What I want is not here. Period.

someinocentfun 56M
30 posts
7/3/2005 9:25 am

Maybe you should concider having lunch with a proven nice gentelman. One who does not do drugs and know how and when to treat a lady. Just a thought.

Always_Lickin 55M
5 posts
7/3/2005 9:29 am

Let me know when it is my turn?? you are just wasting your time.. maybe what you want is right in front of you?? lol

Needzit2 56M

7/3/2005 10:38 am

My Dear Dance,
Fully schooled in social graces, very well educated, a gentleman am I. Whilst not meaning to be too forward, I must insist we meet for an ever so brief moment at least so you may inspect (as you already suspect) that we are quite well matched. I have my faults, am not perfect, but confident I could bring you around, so to say.
Did I mention I'm British, sometimes?

urizen333 40M
1 post
7/4/2005 12:47 pm

At the risk of provoking irritation, or further cynicism, I wanted to offer something. You may have to for a moment invert your scope of what it means to 'find' what you are looking for however. I believe you told me that "perception is everything," and I was hoping to remind you of the ways in which that idea branches into our entirity. I'll tell you what I believe, which is all I can do. I cannot prove it. I cannot say it is best to adopt what I offer. But I can tell you that I've seen its truths expressed in experience.

In 'seeking', there comes attached an intangible end that is sought with tangible objectives and parameters. By nature then, there is no true satisfaction to be found. It's like using a map to find where you left your keys. You can search the world over, but you're the only one with answers. Surely an infinity of men have come to you here, have offered what they have, have come in a diversity of shapes, colors, demeanors, etc. But a human is not like a key looking for the exact keyhole it was made for. The Western ideal of what love and hapiness is have lead us to that idea. There are millions and millions of people alive that you can successfully merge with and feel the symbiosis of actual love with if your internalities are balanced--and ready to accept the myriad human traits we are built to love. Many beautiful, spiritual, philosophical minds throughout history have concluded that in our specific 'seeking' there is no end. And this seeking is simply an external manifestation of internal voids requiring attention, self-reflection, and ultimately--self love. I am far from one who fully loves themself, or has reached his full potential, but think of someone who has--who enjoys full internal balance, who fulfills their human potential and vitality, without self combatance--as someone readily able to fall in love with most anyone. This would be so because his or her love is fully giving, offering, and in harmony with whatever expressions are given back. Someone at the opposite pole would forever search for one who gives 'them' exactly what they need--to be saved, to fill the gaps between how they wish to be, and how they are. I'm not suggesting that you're anything like the latter, but trying to detail that in searching for something, there will come inherent dissatisfaction. In allowing the intuitive mind to sift through experiences, without expectation, without notions of what we need, and what we do not, with faith that whatever experience we encounter is what the universe, or god, or the tao requires of us at that moment, we might find peace in what is given to us rather than dissatisfaction in what we will 'never find.'

Surely my words have been too philisophical or spiritual at this point, but your words rang so true with regards to ways I have felt, and do feel, that I wanted to offer that it may be very often that our own inverted perspective, and the actions and efforts that spring forth from it, grant us the illusion of an end that is by nature non existent. I'm sure to someone with certain alternate beliefs, this might sound absurd or even offensive, but I haven't surmised what's in these suggestions from canon or scripture, but from experience and reflection, the validity of which I suppose then rests upon the intuitive and intellectual prowess of that person--which is in itself a far more sublime and logical idea than absolute rules from which to structure our lives. My ideas and conclusions are almost worthless to you in that they are only knowledge, or lack thereof, offered to you; but what you conclude in reflection and perhaps through whatever slight door I might crack with my offerings, can do nothing but add to your own evolution. Knowing what I do know of you, I'm sure contemplation is not lacking, but sometimes the offering of an alternate perspective can be enough to tilt our own perception enough to alleviate whatever rut is spawning our immediate dissatisfaction.

MillsShipsGayly 51M

7/5/2005 11:39 am

Dance/Urizen - Not too philosophical at all. Here is something I struggle with ... a source of frustration.

OK, normal dating .. meet via friends, nice women, hardworking, honest but oftentimes my 'tastes' sexually don't fit. At this point in my life I am not going to compromise. Playful, explorative, bdsm, public sex, role playing etc are important and when I share this, sometimes the rejection is more like a revulsion .. yechh

So you try an adult site. But here is the downside ... not many folks who share my sexual appetites fit in other ways. I suspect Dance is seeing that with the druggies, out-of-shape drifters, liars etc etc

Not a "key looking for the exact keyhole" (funny analogy for this site) and while capable of loving almost anyone, one wants someone in their BALLPARK. If we are to invest ourselves, we for example, surely would want someone for example .. single, near our desired age range, attractive to us, someone who shares our values at least basically.

Maybe it is even more frustrating for dance in that there are many willing to offer ... makes not finding more torturous...

Having said that, ms dance has heretofore passed on someone who might have been in the ballpark ... ahem. I have the accessories to punish you ms dance...

playfulwithyou33 56F
961 posts
7/10/2005 3:11 am

Have any of you attended any a f f parties? Some of the people there are nice, interesting, fun folk. It's not really a meat market style environment, its more a casual warm friendly "family". Anyway, just a thought.

The other thing is checking out bloggers and other "high brow" groups so you can actually make conversation in the morning with the person you boinked the night before.

(Princess Lips)

7/12/2005 9:17 pm

Always trust yourself...


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