Why can't we be friends, why can't be friends, oh why can't we be friends  

dan_jones 33M
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8/9/2006 8:44 am

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Why can't we be friends, why can't be friends, oh why can't we be friends

I spoke to my ex-girlfriend at the weekend.

Unfortunately, I was drunk at the time, and might have agreed to go and stay with her for a few days [just as friends], even though I have absolutely no desire to do so.

Which all stems from the fact that we're trying to remain friends.

Which got me thinking; how easy is it to still be 'just friends' with someone you've been so intimate with - both physically and emotionally. I mean, I'm quite a private guy generally, and there are lots of things that I wouldn't tell my absolute best friends that my ex knows about me. So that's always going to put our relationship on a different footing from the rest of my friendships. Plus, I see all my other friends on a social level - i.e. when loads of us get together for a party or a nite out. I rarely spend several days with just one person - and I remember that the last time I did, we nearly ended up killing each other. [Though the circumstances were slightly different - we were travelling together. And had just been robbed.]

I don't know. Maybe it's easier to just be out of each other's lives altogether.
But then I'd lose a friend who's a big part of my life.



2daycowboywanted 45F

8/9/2006 9:14 am

You can remain friends and be ex-lovers. The key to the situation is being ex-lovers. You have to remember she is an ex for a reason.

Until later

pussinboots571 105F

8/9/2006 9:21 am


It is possible to be friends. A couple of my ex's are friends. I can honestly look at them and wonder why I went out with them in the first place, and yet they make great friends.

Point is, given time after a relationship, it is possible.


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