Just Getting Started???  

daisy_lincoln 46F
3002 posts
2/14/2006 12:41 pm

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Just Getting Started???

Obviously, none of us are new to the concept of sex generally (or at least I don't think any of us are), but every day I get a ton of e-mail from peeps who are curious about and/or just starting to explore "the Lifestyle" (swinging, swapping, group fun, etc.) a bit, inquiring about the best way to get their feet wet or finding out what's out there and what they can expect to find.

My advice to everyone is to do a little exploring and find out where your comfort zone is. For me, it was and still is group functions, Lifestyle parties, that type of thing. And, no, it's not like everyone envisions it -- a whole bunch of unattractive people sitting around having unattractive sex -- at least not where I hang out!! For me, it really is a lifestyle; I travel, spend time with, and have gotten very close to a lot of my lifestyle friends -- most of whom are very attractive and fun!!

SO, MY QUESTION IS, FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE SOMEWHAT EXPERIENCED AND/OR HAVE BEEN IN THE LIFESTYLE FOR A WHILE, WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO "NEWBIES" WHO ARE JUST GETTING STARTED?


ilsgicemru 71M
2822 posts
2/15/2006 7:24 am

Ahh ... Another blog to put on my "watch" list !!!

I followed the link from FreeLove's . 2/10 post ...
I don't have time today to scroll through all your pages ..
but I like what I see so far !!

Hopefully I will be back . if I don't get lured away
by another blog !!

I like a blog with photos on each post ..
Especially if the photos are of the blogger !!

I hope that you will get a chance to visit my blog !!

............................... ils


SirMounts 102M

2/15/2006 9:23 am

Just jump right in and get your feet wet. Remember that everyone was new once, too. *smiling*


rm_cooking364 45

2/15/2006 10:06 am

i am interested to hear from some of the more experienced people since am one of the so called newbies- thanks for asking the question Daisy


eatalot695 45M
2 posts
2/15/2006 10:23 am

i really dont have comment, its more of a question. i was wondering if had ever been to this swinger club in san bernadino? i was looking in to that but really never got the time to explore it im pretty sure that was my lost though.


fmisvme 46M/36F

2/15/2006 1:54 pm

It's important to be honest (first with each other, if you're a couple, then with the other players). Most people with experience seem like they have a pretty good feel for what they are comfortable with, so if you're going to try it out, know what you want to achieve. Some of it you may not find out without a little trial and error, but at least you can have fun. We discovered during our first couple experience that we did not really like a staight swap situation. Part of the enjoyment for us is to watch the other being plesured and it's hard to focus on your partner when you are with another person. Luckily we were with a very understanding couple also having their first couple interaction and everything was fine with taking turns. Any way sorry for the book. The point is, think about what you want, discuss what you want and then have fun learning what you like and don't like.
M&C

Rock Chalk Jayhawk!


fmisvme 46M/36F

2/15/2006 3:41 pm

Sorry for all the misspelling and poor english above

Rock Chalk Jayhawk!


rm_upnorth636 46M

2/15/2006 8:57 pm

I like the response about communication. Express your desires and emphasize your boundries, if you have any. Everything, or should I say everyone else, will take care of the rest.


fmisvme 46M/36F

2/16/2006 9:21 am

Thanks for the compliment...and for welcoming C to the "hot" club, you are obviously a charter member
M&C

Rock Chalk Jayhawk!


NostringsinLA 41F
10 posts
2/16/2006 11:07 am

My advice...hmmm. 1) realize that there are a TON of fakes on AdultFriendFinder. 2) when chatting with someone online, get a pic, make sure they have read your profile and are knowledgeable of what you are looking for. 3) once you've reached the point where you BOTH are interested in meeting, get a phone number and actually SPEAK to the other person on the phone...speaking is the only way of confirming that the other person is actually a WOMAN or a MAN. 4) from my experience, when I've met people, it usually happens relatively quickly...if someone delays and delays it usually is a bad sign...if someone is truly interested you will more that likely end up meeting fairly quickly. 5) for me...I look for chemistry (and looks of course), so when I meet a person, I need to feel comfortable in order to proceed to more adventurous activities.

...I was bored so I thought I'd write my thoughts down for anyone who was interested.

S


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