Gameplaying 101A  

daisy_lincoln 46F
3002 posts
10/27/2005 1:31 pm

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Gameplaying 101A

I guess I've been pretty lucky so far, and have survived a lot of the gameplaying I hear goes on on this site. My question is simply this -- why? Why are people engaging in the headgames and mindfucking? This site is supposedly premised on the ability to have just about anything you want, so doesn't it make a whole lot more sense to just be straight up and honest with people about your intentions? While I certainly don't profess to have all the answers, it would seem that the likelihood of everyone getting what they want and being happy would be a lot higher if everyone just played a real straight-up game.

Agree? Disagree?


size15shoe2005 49M

10/27/2005 3:20 pm

I definately agree. I have not been involved with any headgames on this site, but I would not have a clue why some would chose to play headgames on a site like this.


size15shoe2005 49M

10/27/2005 3:29 pm

I definately agree. I have not been involved with any headgames on this site, but I would not have a clue why some would chose to play headgames on a site like this.Gameplaying 101A


BIGDINCHI124332 48M

10/27/2005 5:47 pm

...I agree, babe. I have never understood this while swinging and I don't understand it here either. As we say in the swinging lifestyle..."there are a lot of fakes, phonys, and wannabes out there".

I know you are real. The people that I have met, sucked, and fucked on this site know I am...and the swingers are certain of it!

I want you beautiful!

D


NickRules999 39M
9464 posts
10/27/2005 9:16 pm

I totally agree.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?


rm_cutechris269 53M

10/28/2005 10:08 am

This is about perspective. The truth is, people change there mind about what they want and don't want. One day a person says they are interested in you, the next day the same person says they are not. These feelings they have are accurate for them, but being on the other end, it can look like bs. The more unstable an individual is, the more you will see this happen. Of course that's my perspective...


rm_cutechris269 53M

10/28/2005 10:09 am

This is about perspective. The truth is, people change there mind about what they want and don't want. One day a person says they are interested in you, the next day the same person says they are not. These feelings they have are accurate for them, but being on the other end, it can look like bs. The more unstable an individual is, the more you will see this happen. Of course, that's my perspective...


gnr8nrg 46M

10/28/2005 11:16 am

I agree and I've read many stories of game playing in some people's blogs. I want respect so I give respect. I haven't had any problems, but I blog much more than I email.


BIGDINCHI124332 48M

10/30/2005 8:16 am

Daisy - Maybe that label of fakes and phonies does match your definition for some people as far as not receiving interest. If somebody is not interested, then they are not interested and that is normal and does not reflect negatively on them. I am certainly not interested in just anybody. I am very selective! My view is entirely different and is based on 7 years of swinging...

Many swingers and people on this site have old, outdated, inaccurate pics, or pics that are not even of them...

Many swingers and people on this site do not reveal their true identity as far as a pic or a face pic...this is a red flag for swingers that this person is not really part of a couple (i.e. single male), or they are married and cheating on somebody, or they have something to hide, etc...

Many swingers and people on this site do not fill out their profile truthfully...they may be noticeably obese, but label themselves as average or something else...many say they have certain sexual qualities, experiences, and physical attributes that are laughably false...

Many swingers and people on this site are shady to the point of being scam artists...they steal your pics...they steal your profile...they try to get you to send them money...they try to get you to subscribe for services or products in a fraudulent and misleading manner...

Many swingers and people on this site have no intention of meeting others, which is perfectly fine and great! Swinging is about inclusion for all...even voyeurs. There is no need, however, to be dishonest, misleading, and to arrange for meetings only to cancel...or worse, never show up at all!

Comments have been made that people change their minds. That is great and very admirable, but if you are not sure that you really want this type of life (swinging or internet dating), then you should not expand your limits beyond what you are surely willing to do. Peoples feelings and lives are disrupted when somebody is not seriously committed to the lifestyle, but plays with others as if they were. It is just like any relationship...whether it is friend, sexual, or marriage...you cannot jump into it if you are not sure only to hurt that person later.

All of these things have, unfortunately, happened to me at one time or another in my swinging days. It happens to all true swingers and that is why many are so unwilling to accept outsiders and newbies. Single males are the worst transgressors of these behaviours, and they are viewed very negatively by the lifestyle community for this reason. It takes years of serious committment to be allowed into the swinging community for a single male. This is the path that I took. When somebody did give me a chance, I never let them down. They liked me and told others. I continued to be real, honest, and dependable. If somebody stumbles along this path, we refer to them as wannabes, phonies, fakes, cheaters, and liars.

Sorry to ramble...you are right in your viewpoint, this is just another side to it.

Darren


rm_pigetchiphs 53M
2 posts
11/1/2005 1:14 am

i agree, but people dont tell the truth anymore .most people dont like who they are so they make up thing and soon there so far in to it,they start to believe there owen b/s


gadabefunw2 56M
1 post
11/2/2005 11:21 pm

daisy.
i really don't know about what you saying but i really want to make a love with you .


LongStrokingUrt 42M

11/6/2005 5:54 am

I have to honestly agree with Darren. His perspective is gained from years of experience, whereas I am a so called newbie. Wher I would support his answer is that I have found it hard to break into the swinger's circle for this exact reason. Due to some of my own past circumstances, I can honestly see why now. Its an unknown world that if you aren't prepared, it can be scary. People see that on here and on TV and they fantasize about it to the point where it actually piques their interest to TRY to make it a reality. Few go beyond that though because they fear what everyone will think of them and their inner conscience may be waging a war inside as well. It was the same for me at one time.
To an extent its almost like going to school. You have to graduate to certain levels in order to learn the whole curriculum. It is the same in this circle. Single males can be introduced but it has to be by an insider. My time is coming and I am excited. A few years ago, I was the scary one but I was always up front about it and that is what made it somewhat different. But as I've gotten more comfortable (been part of a voyeuristic experience and enjoyed it thoroughly-man watched me have sex with his wife), so has my overall outlook on the whole experience. In some instances, patience is a virtue but here I understand the difference between the two. Revealing one's personal life on here in all our proud glory requires a lot of guts, so for someone to NOT make the commitment to be real can be real discouraging, thus leaving Darren to look at it from the perspective he does. It all really boilds down to how well do you want to play the game. Myself personally, I want to be a major player. The only way to get there is to go boldly rather than meekly in search of the unexplored. Sometimes you find exciting things that you never bargained for. I'm looking forward to the journey.


rm_NasTNay13 39M

11/18/2005 7:10 pm

Not only do I agree with your premise on the phonies (Fucking Assholes!), but heres one that REALLY pisses me off... ADbots!!! Just how many of thos fuckers are on here? It seems that everytime I get an email, the all turn out to be fucking adbots!


rm_whynot6880 58M

11/26/2005 3:49 am

what a good perspective of something I felt was going on but had no real anecdotal evidence, some people go on this site for genuine reasons others just to use people and some like being used, so to find your way through that maze would be very clever. good luck.


KC_JJ 54M

9/16/2006 7:33 am

    Quoting rm_pigetchiphs:
    i agree, but people dont tell the truth anymore .most people dont like who they are so they make up thing and soon there so far in to it,they start to believe there owen b/s
I think what pigetchiphs said is oftentimes the case for people who routinely do this sort of thing. Rooted in a deep seated sense of low self esteem and long term desperation.

And I have been quite stunned by the people I've found who are engaging in it here. The worst case so far that I've witnessed involed someone who I thought would never do such a thing since she so often raises hell publicly when she has known of it happening to either herself or others around here.

Pure and simply hypocrisy that is. And a straight up package of boldface deceptive lies is what she told me and firmly held to simply becuase she did not have the courage to tell the truth about how she's conducted herself. I hope the new people she's now dealing with here have seen enough of her real face to keep their eyes wide open the entire time they are with her. Because they'll need to.

In a certain respect she's quite similar to a top notch con man who will simply do whatever he must to get his way with things.

MMM [ MMM


scomie 28M

8/30/2007 8:51 pm

agreed and may i add that u look superkalifraglistisexpealahdoshiss in that see through out fit.!!!


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