Fantasy to Reality  

daisy_lincoln 46F
3002 posts
1/30/2006 10:56 am

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Fantasy to Reality

I have to admit, I'm a little confused -- actually really confused.

Although I had thought it was pretty much every guy's fantasy to be with more than woman at a time or take part in some group "activities," it's actually been really surprising how many guys shy away from the idea when they're actually presented with the opportunity -- even guys from this site. Things are all peachy until you make mention of this type of thing, and suddenly you get the "deer in the headlights" look!! Any thoughts on why this may be? Do you think it's intimidation, maybe fear of stagefright?

sexyman72006 42M
2 posts
1/30/2006 11:17 am

i like more than one woman at a time, i do it all the time

timberwolf6972 44M

1/30/2006 11:26 am

I have actually been with 2 women several different times down through the years.

sexywhiteboy07 46M

1/30/2006 11:34 am

Great photos ... very hot!
Not all guys want to have 2 girls, some guys are intimdated by one! Let alone 2 or 3! Personally, I love group sex with as many females as possible (I have been with 3). But I have a few friends that view this with disgust. To each his own.
I have some stories on my blog with this subject if interested.

defriez 72M
1 post
1/30/2006 11:39 am

Actually, it is not at all surprizing to me. I have an open relationship with my wife but we are not swingers. She does her thing and I do mine. Comparing our conversations, it turns out that the men in her life were much more uncomfortable with her being married than the women were with me being married. It seems that men are not nearly as confident as they pretend to be. I suspect that when you (the girl) wants to introduce a second woman, they may see it as (potentially) being ganged up on, to the point that they can no longer control the situation. If they know and introduce the girl, it may be different.

Years ago, I was in a group of 2 guys and 4 girls. I had a great time but the other guy did not seem to enyoy all the women - he just wanted to get to one or two women other than his wife.

sillyperv 54M

1/30/2006 11:44 am

Ah! Yes. 1, 2 10 a harem is such a delightful notion, but then there is always the issue of execution. Just the intimidation of sexually aggressive women, is enough for some to pop their peter. Never mind one woman demanding pleasure, but two? And giving some time to think about it just builds the tension.

The deer in the headlights: that's actually a stroke caused by the shock of your offer. You should be careful. Carelessly throwing out 3 some possibilities to the male world is just irresponsible.

Personally, no problem. I got Viagra. And Cialis. And a difribulator. And a bucket of quick setting plaster of paris. And mini scaffolding. Piece of cake.

But that's just me.

rm_Tykewater 31M
1 post
1/30/2006 12:22 pm

I dont know what is wrong with them, I think it is a matter of insecurity possibly of performance or perhaps the size/stamina...maybe, but those scary fellas ain't doing nuthin 4 me, so if ur serious, come see about me. I love fuckin' more than 1 at a time, the more the merrier, so if u want throw out 3some options and opportunities, pitch 'em this way, i'm a taker.

gnr8nrg 45M

1/30/2006 2:38 pm

The first time I was with two women I felt a lot like newbie. I was a kid in the candy store trying to focus on one, then what about the other. It was distracting because they just played with me and not with each other. The other time was two women and my friend. We switched at one point and all of us focused on pleasing one woman at a time. That was a lot more fun. I think intimidation, fear, stagefright, or performance anxiety all can play a factor. Your party idea sounds like a lot of fun.

MillsShipsGayly 51M

1/31/2006 6:03 am

99% of this people from this site are less courageous once they are unchained from the anonymity of their computer screen.

also agree with defriez ....

AntraCaulkRowed 41M
116 posts
1/31/2006 8:50 pm

Daisy, I can do it with a guy in the room or area, even with a camera. I agree, Many guys go limp when a man is there. I was in a spa with a man and a woman and we were nude, She and I could of....... but she just broke up with her man and emotionaly it did not happen. But the little man was ready

If you do not belive? Try me you will like me.

I agree, 98% of men could not do a porn just because....

1 post
1/31/2006 8:54 pm

I think it must be performance anxiety, tell you what though, say the word and I will come on out there and give it my best shot (besides, there is always better living through modern chemistry). After all the woman who developed Viagra was a spouse to an aging swinger. LOL (just kidding, I think)

AntraCaulkRowed 41M
116 posts
1/31/2006 8:57 pm

What???? Those guys were scared of 2 women????? Hell at first I thought it was guy guy girl. Ohhhhh shit there are guys to be scared to do 2 women??????? I would take on 4 women!!!!!! And a video camera!!!!! And love every moment of it!!!!!!!

fvcouple42 57M/55F  
1 post
1/31/2006 9:18 pm

We love to have threesomes with another woman. It is ideal for each to give and get plenty of attention, and the visual stimulation of two women does wonders for keeping the man "in the game". If you connect with couples who are truly into the swinging experience, you will find that most of them really live for the FMF.

rm_aerden 57M
7 posts
2/1/2006 2:19 am

still have the fantasy, but maybe the pressure to perform or the fear of having the myth explode in your face (so to speak) is a worry.........
me, I'd give it my best shot, perhaps I should come and visit LA?

dodgeman55us 60M

2/1/2006 11:51 am

I have been with two women before and with a married couple before. Two totally different dynamics. The couple was very nice and the husband was totally cool and enjoyed seeing his wife being pleased by himself and another man at the same time. The times I have been with two women were great, but the first time I was a little intimidated because I felt like a "third wheel". One of the ladies had a very strong personality and I got the feeling that she wanted to be alone with the other. It was a little awkward because it was like a competition and she and I were jockeying for position. It is always hot when the two women are into each other, but the times when they were both into me was quite a treat. At times you can get a little "gun shy", but if you're all on the same page, you can work around any intimidation issues.

rm_aerden 57M
7 posts
2/2/2006 2:53 am

hey Daisy, will definitely live out the fantasy one day, sooner rather than later I hope! and will tell you all about it! (or maybe you will already know...........)
love your profile & blogs, you should revisit your profile on ALT, we miss you there! xx

rm_archer2800 50M

2/9/2006 3:57 pm

While I havent done that just yet (suprise suprise) I think the deer in the headlights phenomenon is more a function, where or how to begin?
Time will tell for me though..

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