Across the miles...  

daighi 49M
1627 posts
7/31/2006 1:04 pm

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Across the miles...

Hi there,
What do you all think of LONG DISTANCE relationships?

Do you think they CAN work,& what does it take for them to actually work?

I've asked these questions because i have some friends on here that are trying to make things work,& they are finding it hard to make it happen.

Ultimately,family ties & commitments can take it's toll,but if it's to be then it WILL be,i'm sure of that.

Have you been in a long distance relationship,& how did it work for you both?


I have made some good friends on here,some of them close to me,others far away.I try to keep in contact with them as best i can,& try to nurture the friendships i have.

I get frustrated when i meet someone that becomes
special to me for a number of reasons,& i can't see them or talk to them as often as i'd like.

There are some wonderful people here,& i cherish the fact that they are here.They have unique qualities,& bring a smile to my heart as well as my face.

There are a few people far away from me that have touched my soul,& i look forward to interacting with them almost every day.I wish that i was closer to you all,so we could be close friends,& maybe more.

"Don't you just hate it when you meet someone,that really effects you,& they are too far away to do anything about it?"

Anyway,i'd like to know your thoughts on this.Have YOU found someone that effects you like this?

Thanks for listening,& for your visit!



"Always remember...keep smiling!"



moonlightphoenix 45F
6508 posts
7/31/2006 1:42 pm

I initially met my ex on the internet. I lived in the Yukon (right up next to Alaska...put that map away) and he was in Texas. I thought I was safe. No such.

I've done a few long distances, but ultimately it always comes down to either meeting or moving on. Luckily, I move enough, that nowhere in the world seems too geographically far for me to consider. Factor in the wanderlust, and....

Anways...I've also managed to meet a couple of people and maintain long term, meaningful friendships via the net. One lives in Vienna and I've known her for 7 years now. Luckily she's come across the sea twice in that time.

The world is getting smaller. It all really depends on what you're willing to consider to achieve what you desire most in the world. I've already done more than most.

But I also recognise the limitations of reality.

rm_esmeralda285 40F
381 posts
7/31/2006 1:56 pm

I am having the same problem than you. So many great people on this site. Especially one and I may never met him. I am not sure how to deal with it. How can you control sentiments when it comes to love? Maybe the only way would be to run away from my computer but I am sure it won't be enough. He is on my mind day and night. What can we do about it?
Sorry if I can't help too much on this one.

BaronessK 52F

8/1/2006 12:25 am

Long distance relationships can work, although for me I have only had to deal with so many {few hours drive} away or at most a state away. They can work, but it takes the same commitment plus a bit 'extra' {of everything, I suppose, emotions wise} to make it work {and from both people, of course}. J is almost 3 hours away, and our schedules actually are somewhat overlapping; at this time he is on one of his 'hermit sabbaticals', though, so who knows what or if tomorrow{s} will bring, change, or anything. There is the thing about absence making the heart grow fonder, and on some levels that is what makes the long distance relationships work better {at least in the beginning part} -- each person is savoring what time they do have, they are not letting the 'world' interrupt them, and all the rest that people tend to let happen when they see each other daily.

Yes, if it's meant to be, and both people are commited to letting it WILL be, barring extreme circumstances.

If someone really 'affects' me...the distance is not the point {of that}; the type or extent of the relationship may be, but their effect{s} on me will never really cease.

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