Yeah, I'm just a little bored  

czyswt1 38F
60 posts
7/8/2005 3:54 pm

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Yeah, I'm just a little bored

I finally decided to actually write a blog here on AdultFriendFinder. I've been meaning to do it, but have just been to lazy.

I'm about to turn 27 years old next week and I still haven't found the "umph" I've been looking for. Actually, I've stopped looking because there really is no point in searching for it. The "umph" I'm refering to is that type of sex that just sends you over the edge and there's no looking back, if that makes any sense. Yes, anyone can have good sex, but I want more than that. I want that type of sex, if I can call it that, that is full of passion, foreplay and the unexpected all rolled into one. Course, I really don't know if it's possible, though. I'm not saying it's impossible, it's just something that is rare to find.

I'm one of those rare females that like lots of foreplay. I'm talking about the kind that is non-verbal, verbal, physical and non-physical. I know that people can have an attraction to each other, which can help towards the foreplay, but just skipping it and getting straight to the sex is somewhat boring. I like to make it last as long as possible, so that when the kissing and touching does happen, it's hard to stop and even harder to stop thinking about that other person when they leave. I like the looks; certain words that can turn you on without others knowing it; long, passionate kisses that can go on for days; light, soft touches that seems to send sparks and tingles up your spine; all the kisses and caresses that can happen where no sex happens at all; when sex does happen, it's about pleasing the other person, rather than trying to get off and go to sleep or leave, which can lead to foreplay/sex lasting for hours at a time.

In my personal experience, I've only met one or two guys like that. If I could be with them again, I would, but it won't happen. We have all moved on and went our separate ways, but I still remember. I guess that's why I'm so picky about the guys I date, let alone have sex with. I'm horny all the time and want sex when I want it, but I don't go having sex with just anyone. Lately, I've had guys spend the night, but I haven't even kissed them because I just don't feel the connection/attraction towards them. Sometimes, I tell them and sometimes I don't. Most of the time, some guys just get the message and I don't hear from them again and you have those few that don't pick up on clues real well and I have to bluntly tell them what's going through my mind.

Blah, I miss being compassionate with someone. I think it's too much to ask for some guys on here, though. I know it's more of a sex website, but I always wondered if there were guys out there that just wanted to meet girls/women, get to know them, become their friend and if more happens, so be it. But, I seem to run into more that try to do all the just to get in my pants. Come on guys, that gets old after a while. Yes, I like sex, but I don't need it to survive on.

*sigh* Hopefully, with me writing some thoughts out in this blog, it'll help me communicate what I want from a guy, rather than trying to just hope they pick up on clues. We'll see. This is just the beginning.

Mccartney2003 38M
281 posts
7/8/2005 4:07 pm

Hope to see more up here from you.

rm_donnied84 33M
13 posts
7/8/2005 5:06 pm

Interesting to read, and I agree with a lot of it. I think everyone wants that someone they really click with in every department which makes the sex that little bit different. Where the chemistry and the spark is massive and the sex is fantastic and you can't imagine being anywhere else. When every moment of the night is special, you don't want to go to sleep because you just want to spend more time with that person, pleasuring them, exploring each others bodies, enjoying every moment etc.

I think it's just a case that different people look for it at different times in their lives.

I'm sure were not all sex mad freaks on here..... then again???

Feel free to drop me a msg sometime if you want to talk.

shyGuy8119 35M
8 posts
7/8/2005 5:07 pm

I kinda know what you mean. Though I havent had sex before {so I dont have as much details as expected}, I was in a relationship which was just on fire.

Near the end of the relationship, regardless of whether or not we'd had a fight that day, we would be in each others arms kissing passionately and with each meeting we would go further. For someone who hadnt been in a physical relationship until then this was something else. I miss her so much. She understood my thoughts even before I said them and knew how to touch me.

Just thinking about it makes me wanna hold her. Isnt it sad how in life we sometimes give up the good stuff for what later on appears to be a lousy reason?

hey, hang in there. Heck, I need to hear that myself. Lets hang in there...

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/8/2005 7:08 pm

There are some men who desire that. Finding a man that desires that is just as hard to find a woman that desires that m'lady.

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