What are men looking for?  

czyswt1 38F
60 posts
8/15/2005 7:36 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

What are men looking for?

I seriously would like to know what most men on this site are looking for? Yeah, I know sex is the most obvious, but you would think there would be a little bit more than just seeing how fast you can get in the sack with someone.

I guess I'm just trying to figure out if there are actually guys that look for more than that, or is that about it? I suppose because it's kind of disappointing for me to get somewhat the same e-mails all the time: "I haven't ever had sex with a black female before", "Let me fulfill all your fantasies, when your daughter is not around," "can I come see you, by yourself?" and I tend to run into several guys that are married or have girlfriends.

I don't mean to be rude, but those that are looking for more outside of their relationship, have they ever told their wives/significant other that they want more in the bedroom and have they been patient enough to wait to see if things would change or not? All I can say is that you are with that person, for whatever reason, why not try to excite that relationship first, than trying to get something outside of it.

Yeah, I know people have "open relationships" and what have you, but I know, somewhere down the line, it causes problems. I guess my whole this is if you are unhappy about something, try to work it out. If you can't work it out and you tend to get more bothered about it, do something about it, rather than just cheat. Take a break from each other or get counseling or something. If you still care about them, then at least try to work through it, rather than looking elsewhere for a piece of booty.

I'm just putting my two cents about the matter out there. A lot of guys ask me why I won't fool around with them, when it comes to them being married. When you have been in the middle of a divorce between your parents and happen to see women/men all over the place, until they decide to officially separate, it kind of gets to you a little bit. That's why I make a point of telling guys that I don't mess with married or separated men. I don't want them thinking that there is a chance. And, before you think I'm just judging the matter, I have done my dirt on messing with married men and separated men. I didn't feel real comfortable about the situation and somewhat felt like crap afterwards, so I decided that's not the type of thing "I" want to do. Trust me, I know there are plenty of women that do, since there are no strings attached, or so they say. I just know "I" can't do that.

rm_knkybitxmn 45M

8/22/2005 5:40 am

never appoligize for speaking your mind.

rm_Chrisdb40 52M
10 posts
8/22/2005 3:43 pm

MYself dont look at married are attached profiles...ONLY single females. I enjoy reading you words they are so well written...

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