Why are we here.  

cuteblonde62 54F
27 posts
9/20/2005 6:54 am

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Why are we here.

Everyone gets lonely, everyone wants great sex, everyone wants someone to love them. I have been in 2 bad relationships with men that took me for granted, I did everything for them. So why am I here? Well i can say that I am at my sexual peak right now and I can't get enough. But when it comes down to it, I want a relationship with a loveing man. To me this site is for sex only, but when we do finally meet someone on here do you feel empty? Do you want more? What is it that everyone wants on here? I know if I met a man that i really enjoyed being with I would want to persue more with him. This a great site for meeting new people, but what if you found someone that really took your breath away and you keep thinking about them and wonder how life would be with them? Give me your thoughts............ Thanks

rm_ryan45 60M/50F

9/20/2005 8:23 am

Well Good Morning.... lets see...why are we here... I can only speak for myself of course..My situation might be a bit different than most. I am married to a woman that because of meds has absolutly No interest in sex of any kind. I on the other hand have not lost any desire and if anything enjoy sex more than ever. After years of pretending and thinking I was doing something wrong I decided to find out. To my surprise...I was fine...some even said amazing...so in my case its strickly sexual..no strings..fun. My advice is to be honest...post exactly what your looking for...if its long term with possible marraige..say so... when I see a womans profile thats says that... I wish her well and move on... I won't play that game... Hope you find what your looking for.... Ryan

IronsFetesSinai 56M
225 posts
9/20/2005 10:33 am

Things happen for a reason, we just have to find out what the paths are. Follow the one that feels right at the time and hope you took the right one.
As for myself, I joined hoping to get the chance to meet someone that has the same kinks and hunger for lasting sex. Past relationships had problems with women that got pissed. Because they couldn't keep up and said I was going out on them to get more "not true". I can only say that I'm open,honest,"I'll tell you if there are problems on the rise". A rare find!
AS for feeling empty, no,scared if anything. As for more, depends on the feeling I get from them. The last one, I would have to say,"That path hasn't opened yet fully, have study her more yet!lol
Hope that little insight helps you.

BROC817 44M

9/20/2005 11:15 am

well ill be very honest with you...when i first joined i had just gotten out of a relationship that went bad and i wanted to get the hook up....


but then i hung around and did the group thing and started some great friendships....now to be honest i cant ever just want the cheap hook up....it wasnt me when ive been in relationships before so why would i let a swinger/sex site change me....

alot of people got this idea that this place is only for sex....but its not and i have learned alot about people and about myself....

alot of the people on this site need a good friend and im one of them , and hopefuly some day ill find a beutiful lady who will love me for me and not what she wants me to be.....but until then ill take all the great friends......

i wanna thank you "cute" for the space to let some feelings out and for joining the group.....im sure you will make some great friendships there....and maybe that relationship will develope from that......good luck

andy96714 53M
1 post
9/20/2005 10:36 pm

hey cute ! your right . i think this site is for sex only also. but for a lot of us weather we're married, single,or seeing someone we
will always have this hunger for something different or better even
if it isn't. listen, love happens. all we can do is keep searching and meeting. just maybe something really interesting will happen to us.

playtime44uandi 53M
6545 posts
9/21/2005 7:29 am

When I first got on this site & was serious, I was pritty much looking for just sex too. But I was confused as to how that would work out because so many poeple either become attached or need that conection before there ever going to sleep with you. Over some time I relised that poeple here were all looking for a lot of differant things Including a LTR. I learned not to be so judgemental about what others are looking for. & resently I learned for myself that its not 2 or 3 women I want. It one special lady, that I can spend quality time with. & have wonderfull sex & the emotional connection. & maybe just maybe more could come from it. I'm hoppeing Ive already found that special lady!

~We'll Leave The Light On~

vette6996 53M

9/21/2005 9:31 am

I sent you a letter earlier today regaurding the same topic.please read it and send me a reply thanks

rm_Tripod9_5 59M

9/23/2005 3:56 pm

Hi Cute, I think if you end up meeting someone that does take your breath away, then it is probably mutual and that you should relax, let your guard down, and go with it. Then you've found a best friend and a great partner. If it doesn't click from both sides, then you've satisfied your urge and known that you have at the very least, made a friend. You certainly can't continue to keep your guard up because of history, live for the present and future, and know you were trying. Learn from the past and keep looking forward. "Learning" doesn't always mean: never do that again.......just do it differently. Definition of insanity is: Doing the same thing twice, and expecting different results. Bottom line, relax.................


9/25/2005 11:55 am

I agree with ryan's first post. Don't be afraid to express exactly what you want out of this site. At times I look at my profile and wonder to my self If I am being too direct. But, Then again I think it helps. Everybody who I have corresponded with understands what I am looking for and it allows us to move forward without any hangups.

CandyKissBaby 61F

9/27/2005 8:59 am

hi cute, i agree with most of what was said here, especially the being honest on what you are looking for. yes, this is a sex site, but that doesn't mean we can't want more than sex. what better place to find others with the same issues, problems, concerns as i have than here. i'm all for making friends, enjoying the groups & chat... have fun & laugh, cry, rant & rave with others in the same spot as i am in.

good luck cute, you deserve the best, so hang in there girl


funguy039 59M

9/27/2005 2:27 pm

wow what a great blog,, for me this site is great,, love meeting new friends..honest is always first, than i look at whats in side... me im married, more interrested in going out for a drink or two,, getting to know a person,, maybe a hug,a kiss, a rub,, more foreplay than anything,,, just having fun,,, nothing like great friends and some laughs,,,, hi candy... hope everone finds what there looking for,,, what to have some laughs drop me a line

dustoff39 53M  
11 posts
9/29/2005 6:51 pm

while its true this is a sex site, no doubt about it. I personally wouldn't mind if i found someone i clicked with. i have had my share of bad relationships as well, who hasn't? but going from person to person just for sex gets old after a while. if i found someone on AdultFriendFinder or anywhere else for that matter and there was the right chemistry there i would welcome the relationship. i think it all boils down to our individual needs and where we are in regards to our lives and where we want to go from this point.

rm_TwiztedCharm 56M
456 posts
9/29/2005 9:32 pm

i'm just coming off one of those kind of things it may be too sone to think too much.

photon46 69M  
251 posts
10/1/2005 2:43 am

Everyone has their limits and their limitations. Sex to some is limited to physical stuff. But, at some point you figure out that its as much in the head and heart as the body. Some folks are incapable of that, just as they cannot handle being adults in other ways. Sad. But regrettably, all of has limits, other commitments, jobs, whatever that at the end of the day say that some of our relationships are just for a cup of coffee, some are sex, some are life. Getting honest about those up front is key. It may end things. It may begin them.

rm_abusedman 49M

10/1/2005 8:22 am

please send me an E Mail

agelessfire 70M
1 post
10/1/2005 4:49 pm

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, but while my heart is growing fonder, what holds it is being torn apart by loneliness. Loneliness caused by the fact that it truly hurts to love and not be loved in return.
To love someone is to love someone completely, with hopes that you both will share happiness together forever until eternity and beyond. But, to love someone and have them not love you in return is loneliness, with loneliness there can be no room for happiness. Your life is filled with sorrow and gloom, and it seems pointless to continue your meager existence.
But, somehow you struggle on. Living with loneliness and sorrow and searching for all the lost happiness that’s been held away from you
This gives you willpower, the kind of willpower that could only be a gift from God. You feel as though he is always beside you, guiding you through your long search for love and happiness.
Then like the answer to your many prayers and dreams you’ve found happiness, happiness by sharing your loneliness with someone else’s. You find their warm hand and every kind word comforts you. As words pass from ear to thought between two lonely hearts, you feel a sense of worth and you are grateful.
You show how grateful with happiness and because you are happy you love. But, what’s most important of all, you are loved in return.
Your once meager existence has grown into life, and with life you have the will to be, and to be you are. You are one of the few that has found out, that giving of the heart, is the key to happiness, love and the fulfillment of life.--------For you cuteblond62-----------------------agelessfire

enough2notice 34M

10/6/2005 10:07 pm

Hey cute
I see what you mean, but that will all change if/when you meet the right man on here. You can meet someone anywhere at anytime and feel empty. I'm sure its a little diffent on here, but that will all change. Good luck

naked4ucum4me 52M
18 posts
10/7/2005 3:23 pm

Funny thing is Im starting to look at this site not as a sex site but more as a place to meet some great people that know what they want and are not afraid to admit it. Yes sex was perhaps the motivating factor in all of us joining but there are those of us who understand that its human nature to also want to be close to someone that we share that sex with.
I still love that head spinning feeling when I meet a woman Im really attracted to. Nothing like it in the world and even if all we are is friends or something descreet there has to be that want/need to be with them share with them our dreams feelings desires wants and needs.
That I think is why I love descreet relationships so much there are those times away that keep us wanting more. Waiting for the touch the kiss the small things that get lost sometimes in a long term relationship.
Otherwise its just Sex and hell I can do that myself lol.

orientalguy05 48M
1 post
10/8/2005 6:34 pm

cuteblonde62 let me satisfy you whenever you want.

playtime44uandi 53M
6545 posts
10/10/2005 10:09 am

Part of the fun of meeting someone new is those thoughts of what could be? How far could it go? How long could it last? Would it be as good, as intense, as emotinal, as you fantasize it being.
I know I want a relationship where both sides give equaly. Where both are open to being helped & helping the other when the opprotuities arise, sharing each others interests & goals, both working together as a team, & reaping the rewards of there teamwork.
As you mentioned above, sex is wonderful. Its hard to get enough, but there is so much to relationships. So much to be had, so many posibilities. It just takes both sides working equaly together.
I hope your finding what your looking for, I think I am.

~We'll Leave The Light On~

skycop10 56M  
88 posts
10/10/2005 11:17 am

my dear...we find what is needed...sometimes it is a dream, other times it is reality

friendship makes the sex better and not just a f***

grumpy1039 56M
161 posts
10/11/2005 3:21 pm

okay will try this again, i tried earlier to leave a post and don't think it went through. i agree with lot of what you have to say, and would love to have coffee some morning. i am near you in medina so anytime, just give a yell, or e-mail that is. AdultFriendFinder is the best way to get ahold of me. take care

mrlilmann 61M

10/12/2005 4:06 pm

Wow... Honesty... Good For you... You are worth it!!!!! Enjoy

BROC817 44M

10/17/2005 3:46 pm

well cuteblonde i seen in one of our groups that you were leaving this site...i hope all is well 4 you....good luck to you....bye 4 now


1wayout69 67M
1 post
11/2/2005 9:28 am

u remind me of someone I once knew.Maybe it was me.
All I really know is time heal's,and fate change's lives.

all the best;

playtime44uandi 53M
6545 posts
11/13/2005 8:51 am

I just wanted to tell you that I'm sorry I went off so bad in the group. I just wish you would have told me before you came back like that. I wish you would still tell me, but I dont expect I'll ever hear from you again. I'm sorry. I hope your ok, I hope your happy.

~We'll Leave The Light On~

tech4food 53M

11/23/2005 12:35 pm

Hi, yes relationships are difficult for some of us. I would be interested in lunch or breakfast meets with this group btw. I may not be what you are interested in, but you can't never make too many friends

hawkeye512003 66M
1 post
2/8/2006 5:02 pm

well for me im not married was TWICE ,no thanks been there done that looking yes for what or whom have no clue do you noooo ,does any of us.no if we had found what we been looking for wouldnt be in here.cuite dont know what to tell yea babe other than keep looking.you are a cuite shouldnt have any trouble at all.Hawk

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