The World DOES Stop When We're Together, Right?  

cuteNEway 41F
1774 posts
8/11/2006 4:00 pm

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The World DOES Stop When We're Together, Right?

I met him in chat. I wasn't really too attracted to him physically but he was funny and seemed like a very understanding man.

We IMd for months. He earned my trust. How? Well he told me his sad, sad story. His wife had abandonded him with three young children because she wanted to "find herself". I told him my sad, sad story of rejection and strife. We identified with eachother because we were both jilted in one way or another.

Sex between us was never discussed beyond some flirting here and there. He would tell me sometimes that I was a great woman and that I would be a great catch for any man. I always wondered why HE never tried to be with me if I was so great. At this point I was completely drawn to him.

Finally about 6 months after we started talking, one of the times that I mentioned that all I wanted was a casual lover type situation, he asked me, "So all you want is a casual thing?" and I told him yes. He told me then that he could be that for me.

I had asked him several times before if he was actually divorced. He always said he was. I asked him once more after we had this conversation and again he assured me that he was in fact divorced. So we arrange to meet. After that arrangement was made we started flirting more. Telling eachother what we would do and how we couldn't wait.

He took the day off from work to be with me. We had amazing sex. We cuddled()! I made lunch for us. He messed around with my computer and then he left. He spent most of the day with me. After this happened our IM dynamic was mostly about how we wanted eachother again. He liked me to tell him in detail about the men I slept with. We were together once more after that.

And he liked telling me about his "conquests" as he called them. I was jealous I'll admit but I told myself that this man is just a casual lover. I couldn't help it. You can't control who you fall for. He was so caring and sensitive and understanding...yeah, I know.

Then one day he tells me that his ex-wife is going to stay over for two weeks for his daughter's confirmation. As soon as he said that, I knew things were gonna change. He was gonna get back with her and once again I would lose a lover/friend because the woman he loves realized that he's a catch because he's with someone else.

All of a sudden I stopped hearing from him. Mind you we used to IM and talk on the phone every day. I of course thought he was back with his ex and I was forgotten. A friend couldn't take seeing me go nuts thinking about it and she told me what his friend told her. His wife was back because she was dying of cancer and they were getting remarried for his insurance.

I could not believe that a man that was first and foremost my friend couldn't tell me about this. I was pissed. I blogged about it. He apologized for the "radio silence". We made a date to spend some time together. That week he told me that his daughter was sick.

By the end of the week she was in the hospital. He cancelled the date because he had to take turns with the ex staying with his little girl in the hospital. That was OK. I understood. Besides I was recovering from bronchitis and pleurisy(ouch!!).

The day we were to meet, I went into the chatroom about an hour after the time we had set up for him to pick me up. Who do I see in the room flirting with another one of the room regulars.

Not because he was flirting with someone else. I had no right to question who he was flirting with or dating or fucking. It bothered me because this was supposed to be MY time. He cancelled so it was supposed to be his DAUGHTER'S time. But there he was yukkin it up with one of the girls. As soon as I popped in, he disappeared. The sign of a man that KNOWS he's wrong.

OK so I was also jealous. Hey, you can't control who you have feelings for right?

I had this huge argument with him on IM. How DARE he use his daughter as an excuse to cancel with me. That was wrong. He gave me this line about how he was on his way. And that he doesn't see what he did wrong. Of course he didn't! Anyway he finally apologized and I calmed down.

I was completely cold to him after that. I was trying to hide my pain. Until one fateful day in chat the woman he was flirting with, we'll call her S1, a second woman, let's call HER S2 and myself were in chat manbashing. Saying how some men like to feed us a lot of bullshit lines and whatnot.

I mentioned that he once told me, "The world DOES stop when we're together, right?" S2 says, "that sounds too familiar" and we proceeded to compare notes without giving away identity. S1 was sort of watching this and interjecting here and there. She too had heard this line or a variation of it.

The three of us went to IM and conferenced. compared detailed notes and stories. One woman heard, "I love you" the other got to spend a weekend with him in CT. Me he could never make time for. He spent a lot of time with them but me...I guess I wasn't good enough for a weekend or "I love you" even if it was bullshit.

Well the story goes I was the only one he told about the wife dying. Is this true? Who knows? Turns out he was never divorced and the wife was never out of the picture.

S2 got a call from the wife. The day he cancelled with me because his daughter was in the hospital, yet another tidbit we will never be able to confirm, well he spent that day with S1.

He has since disappeared. He hid his profile. He stays invisible on IM. I wonder where he will strike next and what stories he'll make up...stay tuned!

(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)

8/11/2006 5:15 pm

What a nefarious cretin...I have come to this conclusion because this is a "SEX SITE" all bets are off when it comes to integrity..As these gutless fucks see it, anything gos just as long as you get laid...Ready


NickRules999 39M
9462 posts
8/11/2006 6:57 pm

I pretty much went through almost the same thing. It's "The Sherrie Situation" all over again. I know this pain very well.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
8/12/2006 2:04 am

Heh. I told you they were never divorced. But he had us ALL convinced she left.

So, have you gotten around to seeing that movie yet, or is it out of theaters already?

cuteNEway 41F

8/12/2006 5:01 am

spunky...yeah it sucks

Ready...we seem to forget that being sexual doesn't mean we are bad people and forget to act like a good human being.

Nicky...fucked up thing is that I tried NOT to fall for him because I knew that it would just be casual. But you just can't control it.

MzHuny...I don't know how he kept his lies straight!

MissAnn...It's still playing as far as I know. I still wanna see it, but I'd rather wait til it's on DVD so we can have a girl's movie night at my place...I'm SO getting a chocolate fondue kit for that day

free2chose2 66F

8/12/2006 5:16 am

Ohhhhhhhh, he deserves his handle plus real name to be outed

Don't worry, be Happy

NickRules999 39M
9462 posts
8/12/2006 9:32 am

Same story with Sherrie. I tried not to fall in love with her, coz I knew I'd be hurt. But I did, and I was hurt.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?

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