Update on Will: Christmas Blessings  

curious082385 31F
4230 posts
1/3/2006 6:49 am

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Update on Will: Christmas Blessings

Ok, as requested, here is the update on Will.

On the last day of school before Christmas break, he came walking in the door, struggling with four or five shiny gift bags. All full of gifts for his teachers. Which he insisted on handing out personally....instead of just giving them all to my Dad for us to sort out at home.

Now...as a teacher, you always get gifts (and each one is precious) and as a teachers daughter I have always delighted in the abundance of cookies and sweets that were always brought home on that last day. But buying gifts for your teacher is always hard and it is rare to have a child find you something that is unique to you and fits you. So, expecting to find sweeties or ornaments (another popular one), I opened my bag.

First up, I opened the Christmas card.
Instant tears.
Writing is difficult for Will...to the point of being physically painful for him. And yet he had filled that entire Christmas card with words that I knew had taken much time and effort. He told me how much he enjoyed coming to class and how 2005 was the best year of his life because that was the year that he came to our school. And how he was going to hate Christmas break because "I love you and I'm going to miss you terribly from now until we come back to school". He then wrote of how he had tried really hard to think of what to give me and he had started thinking back....trying to remember little things that I had said were my favorite things, so that he could get me something I would really like. And he nailed it.

Inside the bag:

A bottle of jasmine scented lotion......several weeks back he hugged me and said that I smelled good and asked what scent it was, I replied that it was jasmine, my favorite.

A box of dark chocolates with a note attached that read: "I know you don't like milk chocolate and that is what people always buy each other, so now you'll have at least one box of your favorites." .....the note says it all...getting all teary again.

Three matching glass picture frames....a while ago I was telling them how much I loved pictures of my friends and how sad I was because during our move several of my picture frames were broken and I didn't have anywhere to put my photos.

Need I say more?

The other great news is that his father just got a new job that takes him out of town for most of the week. With his father gone, everyone has noticed the change in Will's mom. We convinced her to take parenting classes...she started just before Christmas break. And....wow....words can't describe the change that we have seen come over that woman. She still makes mistakes and the occasional stupid comment, but she is coming around and starting to realize what an absolute treasure her little boy is.
Just seeing that made my Christmas wonderful!

ManinMcK 50M
23 posts
1/3/2006 8:46 am

Ok, now "Wow" just doesn't seem to suffice for the feelings i am expierencing... I'm not sure what to say but what an amazingly sensitive and truely caring individual person you are. Whats the deal with the school AND the night job? you must keep really busy, when do you get time for yourself to decompress? It is so nice when we receive things that have been given so much thought and concideration from sources never expected. It sounds like Will has extreamly good taste, to have a crush on you, someone is obviously a fabulus women, and just how old is my compitition

sillyperv 54M

1/3/2006 9:19 am

That's how you're post made me feel, must have done wonders for you.

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
1/3/2006 1:24 pm

mmmm sounds like someone has a crush on teacher Well...its sounds like you might be getting through to the mom...which is good....maybe she can get to the father....

oldman1776 78M
3164 posts
1/3/2006 4:54 pm

I've got a lump in my throat and a tears in my eyes.

wounderful post.

rm_Blue_Leopard 43F

1/3/2006 5:59 pm

The purest love comes from children and pets... we have to remember what a great responsibility we have to both of them. You're doing a wonderful job, precious *HUG*
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rm_Bct2Esi 51M/50F
1375 posts
1/3/2006 7:31 pm

wow, made me think back to when I was a teachers aide and how the little ones always got to me the most at the holidays. The thought and detail of their gifts, they are to precious

You are, a special individual to do what you do Hugs to you for that Will is lucky to have you and you are lucky to have Will. Thank God MOM is coming around Sometimes all it takes is the touch of a child, to hear the words "i love you", to recieve a hug, or a simple smile, from them that can take a bad day and make it a great one

hugs and smiles

bardicman 50M

1/4/2006 3:42 am

Oh that was really wonderful

I am not dead yet

dasher121 36M

1/4/2006 3:46 am

Yes, you really are a wonderful person with the work that you do. Even if your influence is just on Will and only him (which i know its not) then you will have acheived something great. A whole life that has been turned in a better direction because of a wonderful and beautiful soul like yourself.

HedonisticGuy69 46M
90 posts
1/4/2006 4:37 pm

That's a nice heartwarming tale to share Apropos for this time of year. Bodes well for the the future to come.
Perhaps you can take him to see Chronicles of Narnia: The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe or suggest his mom does.
It's well done and remains faithful to Lewis' novel. A definite feel good movie for all. Nope I am not affiliated with Disney should you ask

fantasia_shares 47M/43F
4164 posts
1/4/2006 9:17 pm

Sounds like a really sweet kid. My son is that age...and bipolar. They say that insanity is a necessary element of genius. I don't know if it holds true, however when my son was terribly unwell, he wrote some amazing poetry. If this child's parents have some sort of mood disorder, it would help explain some of their behavior. It sounds as though this mom might be terribly unhealthy depressed--not an excuse, but an avenue, that treated, could be extremely helpful. Parenting by depressed parents can be deficient. In addition to this, if their own upbringing and experiences in life were deficient, they can be completely out of touch with the negative affects of their own nasty comments.

I have personally suffered from occasional bouts of depression. I DO NOT parent as well as I would otherwise. I CAN feel quite frustrated with my children and parent less well during those times. I TRY REALLY HARD not to say things I would regret later, though, because I spent much of my childhood being neglected emotionally by a depressed mom, AND I love my children dearly, no matter how I feel.

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GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
1/4/2006 11:52 pm

very beautiful, and treasures indeed....

curious082385 31F
4925 posts
1/9/2006 4:39 am

Manin - "It is so nice when we receive things that have been given so much thought and concideration from sources never expected."
Very much so, yes. He is such a sweetheart and he is making progress in leaps and bounds. Finally starting to believe that maybe, just maybe he is worth something.

Sillyperv - Oh yes, hundreds and hundreds of smiles!

Nooner - Awww...didn't mean to make you cry. *hands nooner the tissue box* But yes, it did make me cry and made me think of how lucky I am to be in a position to make a tiny bit of difference in someones life. He overwhelms me everyday with how far he has come.

curious082385 31F
4925 posts
1/9/2006 4:50 am

Night - Getting through to mom? I truly, truly do hope so. As to how much effect that will have on dad, I don't know. Time will tell I guess.

Oldman - Thank you. So did I, even just writing it.

Blue_Leopard - "The purest love comes from children and pets."
Very true. I just wish I could make it all better for everyone of them.

Bct - Yes, they always do have the most precious gifts and the most beautiful hopeful light in their eyes when they give them to you. Damn...I'm making myself tear up again. Not sure if you read the original posting about this, but up until one day when I hugged him and told him that I was proud of him for finishing a tough assignment, he had never been hugged and had never had someone be proud of him...he burst into tears when I said it. Broke my heart.

curious082385 31F
4925 posts
1/9/2006 4:57 am

Bard - Thank you. I'm so glad that this story appears to be heading for a happy ending.

Dasher - Wow...blushing furiously over here. Thank you for such kind words. Just trying to do what I can to help.

Divinity - Thank you. As I said, that made my Christmas.

Hedonistic - Haha, funny you should say that. I actually went to see Narnia with my family, then went with Will and his mom the next day. He enjoyed it very much.

Fantasia - We know for a fact that his mother has a thyroid disorder and only occasionally takes her medications. She has been getting better because the parenting classes that she is taking are emphasizing the need for her to take her medications in order to care for her son. Hopefully, she can stick to it.

GOTD - There is nothing more precious than the loving smile of a child.

SensualDreaming7 34F

1/13/2006 3:27 am

*hooks Mom up to permanent thyroid meds IV*
There, that'll work! Problem solved.

Being serious now.... (i know...shocker)
He is so lucky to have wandering into your lives. You and your family truly are angels.

curious082385 31F
4925 posts
1/13/2006 5:28 am

Sensual - Hmmm.....that just might work!

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