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curious082385 31F
4230 posts
3/31/2006 5:07 am

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Questions

I was driving home yesterday and letting my mind wander. Somehow ended up wondering what it is that makes us who we are. What defines us? What makes us different from every other human on the street? What makes you who you are? What is at your core?

What do you think?
Who are you and why? Are you a reflection of your experiences? Or a product of them?

What makes you you?

Are you happy with who you are?

Would you change anything?



rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
3/31/2006 2:26 pm

I am 90% happy with who I am. Of course, I would like to have tighter abs, bigger boobs, and no gray hair, but overall I am very happy with who I am and dont think I would change a thing in my life because of those things I am who I am

Purry {=}

Purry


curious082385 replies on 4/1/2006 11:31 pm:
Good for you! A friend of mine once said that is was our imperfections that make us perfect, because of the individuality that they gave us.

carebearluv2 41F

3/31/2006 8:59 pm

I am definitely at this point in my life, a product of experience. I am working on becoming a reflection of it. As far as being happy with who I am, I would have to admit I am not. However, I am still myself because if I wasn't, my convictions, spirit and soul wouldn't matter. My son depends on those things to mold him into a person of moral character. I accept that obligation without question.


curious082385 replies on 4/1/2006 11:39 pm:
May I just say that I love your answer? Maybe part of becoming a reflection is working towards being happy with you. I know that it is for me. And you son is lucky to have you as a mother.

rm_Bct2Esi 50M/50F
1375 posts
4/1/2006 8:19 am

holy colorado woman, why must you make me think on my day off? I shall get back with you on this one...for now wanna go for a walk with me in the light rain?

hugs, smooches and smiles sweetie


curious082385 replies on 4/1/2006 11:41 pm:
Haha...actually a walk in the rain sounds wonderful. I took one of those today...it's been too long since I have. As for getting back to me on this one, I guess I can let you off on it just this once.

rm_1hotwahine 62F
21091 posts
4/1/2006 12:14 pm

There is currently one huge thing that I really want to change about myself. All the other things I'd like to change are normal human things that I have a little more patience with.

Good question, babe. Might be back again later for this one.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


curious082385 replies on 4/1/2006 11:44 pm:
Yep, I know how that one works. I just have to figure out how to find more patience. lol

rm_Clochard87 29M
1 post
4/1/2006 1:02 pm

What you think is not who you are, but, in some strange way, what you think makes you who you are..
I suppose you came up understanding that the esperiences of the past made you grow up stronger in mind and body, but reflect (hope this can be used in English, anyway use "think" if it doesn't fit..) about this: is there any difference between what you are are and what you think or you want to be? Where does the wish end? Do the emotions, coming up from heart and mind, go right against the body and corruptible part of life?

I'm happy somebody else comes up with these kinda things anyway..hope my language is understandable..


aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
4/1/2006 8:50 pm

I am a product of my experiences... I am a little bitter w/ where I am in my relationships, but I have to say that my past experiences has taught me enough to know what I'm looking for and to also flag me for things that I'm not.

Deep down, I realize that I'm a pretty sensitive guy that truly does believe in real love. I'm all in favor of the guy getting the girl. Although I have a bad boy tendency, it's usually over me being so loyal to my friends, etc, that gets me into trouble.


curious082385 replies on 4/2/2006 12:00 am:
Can definitely understand the loyalty getting you in to trouble. I'm the same way...you can badmouth me all you want and I won't say a word. Say or do something to hurt someone I care for and it's not pretty.

onelittlesecret 33M
1579 posts
4/1/2006 9:31 pm

Hmmm, interesting to think about what the difference is between being a reflection and a product of your experiences.

And although I find myself saying that I'm not really happy with who I am, and there's certainly things I am trying to change, when I thought about what makes me me the stuff that came to mind was all positive.


curious082385 replies on 4/2/2006 12:12 am:
"And although I find myself saying that I'm not really happy with who I am, and there's certainly things I am trying to change, when I thought about what makes me me the stuff that came to mind was all positive."

Well now, that's the most important thing, isn't it?

Fox4aKnight1 43F

4/2/2006 1:48 am

I am happy wiht me .....but there is always room for improvement....but then I beive that if you stop leanring you are no longer living ......just surviving.

Kelli


curious082385 replies on 4/2/2006 1:52 am:
"If you stop learning, you are no longer living, just surviving"

Wow...I love that!

rm_Bct2Esi 50M/50F
1375 posts
4/2/2006 7:01 am

Ok sweetie, what makes me, me? I am a product of my experiences...good and bad, thankful for each and every one of them. I am glad that each and every one of us are UNIQUE and different. What is at my core, FEAR (which stops me from doing some things that I have always wanted to do..I am working on those issues to conquer fear), sincerity, honesty, hopeless romantic, love, trust, and sometimes sensitivity.

I am also one that will go to bat for the underdog, fight for what I believe in until proven wrong. I am also one that will speak my mind and tell it like it is...with that I also know when its best to keep my mouth shut

Do I like myself? Yeah I do, there is only three things I would change in my life if I could......my thighs and my stomachI have found that I have no paitents for stupidity or stupid people, I am working on tollerance since it seems that there are so many people out there that you wanna just say; "here's your sign"

Other then that I like me, I have spent alot of seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, years.....loss sleep, loss of voice from screaming, sore body from kicking and screaming, swollen eyes and face from all the tears, to say I don't. I spent way too much time, energy, mental, emotional, and physical time on me getting me here and getting me to where I want to be.

Thanks for asking and making me think of this while I was walking in the rain

Hugs and smiles


curious082385 replies on 4/3/2006 6:39 am:
Grrr....I posted a comment to this earlier and for some reason, my comment didn't stick. How annoying.

"FEAR, which stops me from doing some things that I have always wanted to do"
An oh so familiar battle. I've let my fear hold me back for so long. It is at the heart of all the things I'm fighting now.
In fighting, I'm the same. No matter whether a cause, person, belief or dream that I choose to fight for, I'll keep going with everything I have until I either win the battle or exhaust all possible options.

Thank you for sharing with such depth and honesty.

DeepPinkk 62F

4/2/2006 7:39 am

Our experiences are part of the mix in growing up and becoming adults. We continue to grow, hopefully. It's when we really are adults that we become reflections of our experiences.

Who am I, well, I'm still growing.


curious082385 replies on 4/3/2006 6:45 am:
"Who am I, well, I'm still growing."
Aren't we all?

All of life and experience is a lesson if we chose to see it as such, I think. Thank you for stopping by.

StillSmokin2oo6 44M/43F

4/5/2006 7:29 am

If ya changed one thing about yourself what else would change??
If ya changed something about yourself,would you still be the person that you are?? How would the people around ya view ya? Would they like ya more or not like ya as much?? Don't our experience's and mistakes,the choices we make,make up the person we've become?? Can't say I'm happy with myself or I like the person I am but I can truthfully say I wouldn't change a thing!! If ya care to hear our thoughts on it,we did a post somewhat like this one.."oops,did I do that",awhile ago. Great blog,we'll visit again when we got more time to read...


curious082385 replies on 4/6/2006 12:33 am:
Very good points and I completely agree with you. Our experiences shape who we are and help us define ourselves. As nice as it might be to be able to snap our fingers and instantly change anything that I wanted...I learn more by putting in the time and effort of changing it through actions.
Thanks for stopping by.

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