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curious082385 31F
4230 posts
12/9/2005 6:23 am

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Love

Love.

What does that word mean to you?

What is does the word "commitment" mean to you?

Love at first sight?



Efilnikufecin69 47M

12/9/2005 7:16 am

Does it really exist?

Prove it!


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
12/9/2005 7:18 am

Love: there's so many types of love, all lumped together in one little word. Love of friends, of family, of our pets... Since I can see you mean love of a partner/spouse, to me it's nurturing one another and facing life together, supporting each other's personal growth to create a true partnership.

Commitment: sticking it through for better or for worse, loyalty in not just the sexual but the emotional, and in other ways too.

Love at first sight? What a lot of BS. That's just sex at frst sight, unless you already know and love (in the more platonic sense) the personality behind the facade through another medium (internet, phone, letters).

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
12/9/2005 7:42 am

To me Love means I except you for you and all yoru flaws and you do the same for me.

Commitment means you are there for me always when I need you and Im there for you. You do not purposely betray me and I do the same.

Love at first sight...sigh...yes..I believe in it. Its happend to me...which is why Im so miserable .....oh well...


rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
12/9/2005 8:06 am

My kids.


kats60 56F

12/9/2005 8:12 am

i think its alot of crying at night ALONE! KAT


dasher121 36M

12/9/2005 9:50 am

As usual, have to agree with nightstalker. No one is perfect, we all have our problems(some are just better at hiding them than others). To truely love someone, like he said, is to except all the bad and the good about them. Love is not easy either. You have to always polish at it, but the process shouldnt be difficult. It should come natural to you.

Commitment is to give all of yourself to just one person, all of it. Not half, not quarter, ALL.

And yes, love at first sight exhists. You cant explain it, it just is what it is.


KC_JJ 54M

12/9/2005 10:38 am

Love to me is the uncondtional kind where you still love them even if they become heroin addicted axe murderers who put red devil lye on your toilet seat.

All that "I'll love you if" (you make a whole load of money, don't get fat, marry me etc. ) is big load of crap in big picture.

Committment is what you have by default when you have kids. (to the kids that is)

Committment is what I have to being both an artist and a musician.

Those last two items are big reasons I've never lasted too long with women that have kids. But that does not mean that I won't get involved with a woman with kids again. (ones who don't almost don't exist in my age group)

I had never had love at first sight until the last girlfriend I had. In that case it was not a permanent romantic love but yes we both fell hopelessly at the first glance. 4 years later it was over but what a ride it was! We got a college degree in each other but then it was time for "graduation".

Still lookin' for a partner for "post graduate studies" though.

KC_JJ

MMM [ MMM


ManinMcK 50M
23 posts
12/9/2005 1:34 pm

Love there are a few kinds for me; Intimate Love - When you wake up in the morning and the first thing you want to see is your partner. You think about them first when making a decision. You would unthinkingly sacrifice yourself to save them if they are in danger. You don't need to accept their flaws, because they are a part of the whole, your "Love" its just who they are. Unconditional love is like this, but can be so painful when not reciprocated, sometimes in unconditional love you have to choose to love them but not be with them, it can be to damaging to you as a person who deserves to be loved back.

Love at first sight, of course... but what you do with that... see love and commitment above.

Family Love, You try accept them for who they are, what they do, and then decide if it is something you will model yourself after or leave as unclaimed baggage when you can re-invent yourself as a person. We can't choose our family, but you can choose whether or not to be a part of it when you are able to make your own decisions.

Commimant, When you decide your path you commit to it, you make hard decisions that enable to stay true to your values and chosen path. If you find that you have wrongly commited to a path that is wrong or damaging to yourself or your partner then you must own it and make corrections, changes or choices that allow you to do what is right far all involved. This sometimes means choosing yourself first, but being strong enough to be honset about your choices and reasons.


curious082385 31F
4925 posts
12/13/2005 1:21 am

Efil - it excists

Princess - "it's nurturing one another and facing life together, supporting each other's personal growth to create a true partnership" Great way to put it and I couldn't agree more. I hope that soon someone will come along and help you lay the bitter demons of your past to rest. You really do deserve it.

Night - "Love means I except you for you and all your flaws and you do the same for me" You never cease to amaze me with how closely our thoughts on things relate to each other. Long lost twins??? Hang in there, babe, you will find yours and when you do all the heartbreak of the past will suddenly make sense and fade away.

Saintli - *soft smile* Of course.

Kats - Hugs to you and thank you for stopping in.


curious082385 31F
4925 posts
12/13/2005 1:27 am

Dasher - "Commitment is to give all of yourself to just one person, all of it. Not half, not quarter, ALL. And yes, love at first sight exhists. You cant explain it, it just is what it is."
Need I say more?

KC - "Love to me is the uncondtional kind where you still love them even if they become heroin addicted axe murderers who put red devil lye on your toilet seat." You have had some interesting relationships, haven't you? lol
No, seriously though, I loved the idea comparing relationships to school because that really is the truth of it, isn't it?

Manin - "When you wake up in the morning and the first thing you want to see is your partner. You think about them first when making a decision. You would unthinkingly sacrifice yourself to save them if they are in danger. You don't need to accept their flaws, because they are a part of the whole, your "Love" its just who they are."
Let me just say one thing here.......WOW!!!


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
12/13/2005 4:55 am

"Unconditional love is like this, but can be so painful when not reciprocated, sometimes in unconditional love you have to choose to love them but not be with them, it can be to damaging to you as a person who deserves to be loved back."

How very true... and yet I go on in spite of the damage.

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


HedonisticGuy69 46M
90 posts
12/18/2005 6:20 am

Love in Greek terms agapao/agape and phileo.
Agapao/ agape is more of a reasoned love, not one which proceeds out of emotions or that is necessarily provoked by the actions of others.
Phileo, the use of this word indicates tender affection, more from the emotions than from the reason.

To me it means open mindedness, ability to be accepting, ability to lower one's defenses, ability to be honest and truthful... unconditional. Sunrise/ sunsets, shooting stars, smiles, smell of babies, children's laughter, meaningful songs, gut moving music, contemplative art provokes thoughts of.

Commitment means being locked up in an institution
Okay, I guess it means selflessness, determination and hard work, trust, faith... not giving up without effort. As with love it can't be demanded from another, it must be freely given.

Love at first sight? Does it exist?
Well I have felt it at least once, so I would be a hypocrite to say NO. Some tend to think lust at first sight is the same, though.


curious082385 31F
4925 posts
12/19/2005 1:14 am

Hedonist - as always, your words are perfect and beautiful and moving. Thank you again.


SensualDreaming7 34F

1/13/2006 3:17 am

Love means giving yourself freely and unconditionally to someone...body, heart and soul. And never looking back and regreting that decision.


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