Just...rambling  

curious082385 31F
4230 posts
5/7/2006 2:25 am

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Just...rambling


There is no future
There is no past

There's only us
There's only this
Forget regret or
Life is yours to miss
No other road
No other way
No day but today

There's only now
There's only here
Give in to love
Or live in fear
No other path
No other way

No day but today


Points if you know which musical that song is from

I was talking to a friend tonight and this question came up:
If love can twist you up inside so tight...if letting people in can lead to deepest pain...if love brings so much risk of pain and confusion...why do people continue to search for it so hard? Why do we continue to desire it?


And why is it that, once we have found it, we so often hesitate or mess it up because we are afraid of...something? What is it exactly that we crave?

A touch? A connection and interaction with another person? A moment? The brush of souls?
Or is it just a chemical reaction in our brains that makes us feel good, feel happy?

And here is one for you all to ponder.....
Have you noticed how many people here have deep scars? Childhood abuse, violent spouses, , death of loved ones, wounds from past relationships. A survivor of just about every sort of mental, emotional and physical trauma can be found here on the blogs. I can't help but wonder why there are so many with violence, fear and pain in their pasts. Is it just here or is this a worldwide thing? Is it that most of the people on the street have been beaten and just never say anything? Or are the wounded souls drawn to places like this?

Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
5/7/2006 2:42 am

curious,

I think, if everyone in the world would be honest, that everybody has been scarred in some way, shape, or form when they played the game of love.

Love is an emotion just like any other emotion...it can lift us up to great heights and it can bring us crashing down in the blink of an eye.

The trick? Well, as an old fighter used to quote, "It's not when you get knocked down that determines if you're good or not. It's when you get knocked down and then get back to your feet that matters!"

So some of us continue to 'get back on our feet' and keep sluggin' away...no matter what. Does it make sense? Hell no!!! LOL

But what human endeavor does make sense? *smiles*

NG61....fading back into the shadows....


GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
5/7/2006 2:50 am


~ ponderz ~




HBowt2 59F

5/7/2006 3:25 am

It's a need we have to feel connected....connected to life...to each other...


rm_KirkVW44m 55M
688 posts
5/7/2006 4:07 am

And why is it that, once we have found it, we so often hesitate or mess it up because we are afraid of...something? What is it exactly that we crave?

A touch? A connection and interaction with another person? A moment? The brush of souls?
Or is it just a chemical reaction in our brains that makes us feel good, feel happy?


I don't think you can find a soul mate until you find yourself. You can't hunt them down from my experience they come into your life when you least expect it. People that are in touch with themselves know at first meeting with a soul mate whether they are lovers or not.. You can laugh and say, Lovers at first meet and i'll say hell yes because there is a magical chemistry between soul mates that burns out of control against our own free will.

You also asked, If love brings so much risk of pain and confusion...why do people continue to search for it so hard? Why do we continue to desire it?

There is no greater power then *love*.. It heals body, mind and spirit. It's my belief that the risk of pain and confusion is brought on not by those we seek but by us alone being unsure of what we want out of love for ourselves.


rm_truedom2 56M
663 posts
5/7/2006 4:32 am

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Click on this link sexydisaster30 and go to sexyD's blog and leave this comment (True sent me)
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Thanks


SirluvsStorms 46M
684 posts
5/7/2006 6:05 am

Another day Lyrics.. ummm Musical Rent? ummm just walking down the road I picked up a tack on the bottom of my shoe, Spent the day working helped a friend with her car, and my day was colored by the time spent with those I stopped and made time for. Some of us carry the baggage unconciously others with purpose, but with time it all has purpose Some of my baggage I had alot of fun creating


seek_u_topia 51M

5/7/2006 6:30 am

I think we have built up love into this unrealistic thing...and that's why we continue to search for it even though the search has the potential to cause such pain. But in the end, the love I've found has been precious, and worth the risk...and that's why i keep looking.

And as for the high incidence of wounded souls here, i actually think it is higher than the general population...but that's only a guess.

have a good one Curious!


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
5/7/2006 7:38 am

Love is such a beautiful gift. Loving someone else is primalrily a gift to ourselves. Being loved back is the ingredient for happiness.
Why wouldn't anyone strive for that?...

And yes, people here carry scars... But that 's probably one of the most fascinating things about this site. And hopefully the reason for the kindness we show to one another.


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
5/7/2006 7:41 am

I hope you don't mind me inviting you to continue the story at Trav's blog. I was invited by Daniel. I greatly appreciate your writing and thought you 'd be a wonderful choice to continue my contribution. Thanks again.


rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
5/7/2006 1:14 pm

I think fear does that twisty thing to us.

Re: intense pain - I think we just notice it more when we hear about it.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


Choozmi 50M

5/7/2006 1:22 pm

The quote is of course from "Rent". (What do I win? )

People pursue love because of the potential for bliss. They sabotage or run away from love because of the potential for pain. I'm sure I'm just repeating what others have said.

I think the stories that people most long to share are the ones that resonate in the deepest part of their psyches, the events that have shaken them to their very foundations. These highs and lows are rarely associated with the mundane (Look! We redecorated the bathroom!) or everyday (Let me tell you the cute things my cat did today!). Yet our society frowns on sharing anything beyond the mundane and everyday.

So we come to a place like this site to share our most important stories because in many cases there is nowhere else to go. When everyone around you in the "real" world wants to talk about stress at work or how the phone company is driving them up the wall it's hard to butt in with, "Hey, who wants to hear about the fantastic sex I had last weekend?" (I'm sure everyone would want to hear about it, but few would admit that.)

My best friendships, and the ones I miss the most, are the ones in which we were able to share our most potent stories: about love, sex, pain, regret, abuse, loss, joy, etc.

I remember being at a party a few years ago and participating for about forty-five minutes in a conversation about restaurants. That was it: good restaurants, best time to get a table, best margaritas, etc. I was miserable because I had almost nothing to contribute. I felt boring, useless. And I really wanted to contribute because some of the people were already my friends and I was attracted to several others. But the conversation never went any deeper than restaurants. I wanted to slash my wrists.

Let me just say in closing that on this site I skip the blogs that deal with the mundane because I can get that drivel in real life. I'm sure I'm not the only one.


blueguy1051 60M

5/7/2006 3:37 pm

I think that the proportion of those carrying scars is probably higher here than in the general computer-owning populace, but not in the general populace. The people on the blogs, either writing, commenting, or just reading, have a need to reach out and feel a human touch. If you had all the touches you need in your real life, you wouldn't have time for this place.


elysianpleasure 47M

5/9/2006 4:20 am

Rent is one of my favorites... even before I got here that song and "without you" have been running through my mind.

There is so many questions and so much in this post... not sure where to focus on a response...

I have noticed the scars and the pain. Makes me wonder if that is normal or those souls are somehow attracted here. I was chatting with a friend about this last night... I have a pretty great childhood in many ways... and we talked about if I am abused in my marriage. I think maybe I am just as abused... it was a frightening thought I am still pondering... but abuses come in many forms.

Like I said, we could have a long lingering conversation on all that is here...


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