Can't we just stop it.....please?  

curious082385 31F
4230 posts
6/21/2006 12:47 am

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Can't we just stop it.....please?


I love this place and all the people here...truly. We are capable of turning out huge amounts of support when needed...beautifully written posts, heartfelt prayers and good wishes, uplifting comments. It is wonderful and I count myself lucky to have found all of you.

But there are times...
when I see us turn on each other, throw insults and harsh words...cause so much pain. And it breaks my heart. Several months ago, this little community of ours was badly shaken by Enigma's deceit. People were hurt and angry. I understand why we might have become a little more cynical.

But why are we doing this?

Tiller is a sweet woman and is in great pain right now. We should be by her side with comfort and hugs. This place should be a haven and source of peace for her as she goes though this.

But instead, there are those who are attacking her and throwing around conspiracy theories and accusations. I'm not saying those theories are right or wrong...none of us has enough information to make that call. Those of you who are out searching for confirmation? You don't have the information to be 100% sure on anything. We call him Brian here...but are you really sure that is his name? Age and description? Are you sure that is right? Now, before you jump on me about him being fake by not being honest on age and things like that...I could name off several people who don't have their real location posted here, several who don't have the right age. People change little details like that to protect their identity because they are professionals who don't want to be found on a sex site. Makes perfect sense to me.

Tiller is a smart woman and if there is any untruth to what is going on, I'm sure she will find it just fine on her own. Personally, I don't care if "Brian" was "real" or not. What Tiller felt for him was and is real and she is grieving for that loss.

Regardless of what you think, regardless of whether she lost him to death or to a cruel lie, show a little bit of respect for the fact that she still lost him.

Can we please stop name calling and mud-slinging?
Can we please stop hurting each other worse and making this even harder for her then it already is?
Can't we just hold her and give what comfort we can?
Please?


Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
6/21/2006 3:14 am

I couldn't agree more...I have heard all about this and I am quite sick of it....

Enough...

NG61...disappearing back into the shadows...


elysianpleasure 47M

6/21/2006 4:52 am

I am with you curious...

I said my peice on this... [post 395506]


seek_u_topia 50M

6/21/2006 4:56 am

thank you sharing this message...and I agree completely. a lose is a lose, regardless.


Seriously_Real 48M

6/21/2006 6:01 am

It is an unfortunate fact of life in Blogville that people will not be real. I don't mean identity-wise. I mean with who they ARE as people. Sometimes that makes those of us who ARE real (seriously) get bent out of shape.

But we step back, take things at face value. Was it a hoax? Does it matter? Is Tills really upset? Is she playing along, too? Does it matter?

What matters is who we are and how we respond. It does not hurt anyone anywhere to hurt along with Tills. Costs us nothing. But pettiness can also take a cost in our souls. I will be the first to say that the sniping and gossiping and the schadenfreude can be fun to play with at times, and I've even participated some in the dark humor that can come out of all this. Kinda makes me feel ooky.

But in the end, it is what it is. The truth is what the truth is. I choose to believe the good option, the one that is supportive but not blind to reality. So I'm with you. If Tills says she hurts, then I hurt with her. Regardless of whether or why or what happened to Brian. The end.

--Seriously


papyrina 51F
21133 posts
6/21/2006 6:51 am

enough ,everyone has said what ever they had to say and now time to move on


I'm a

and
i'm here to stay


rm_yukonpaul 51M
1120 posts
6/21/2006 7:14 am

    Quoting papyrina:
    enough ,everyone has said what ever they had to say and now time to move on
I agree


maverick1255 51M
3953 posts
6/21/2006 7:37 am

Yes!


marywannado 43F

6/21/2006 7:49 am

Yeah dammit,, can't we all just get along...


TheRealThing655 48F
9558 posts
6/21/2006 8:37 am

That was extremely well said. I completely agree.
Thank you for this.


angelofmercy5 58F
17881 posts
6/21/2006 2:03 pm

Well said! And I couldn't agree with you more here! And now it seems that she is gone and we have lost our chance to offer her the comfort and love that I know we are capable to do here in blogland. Thank you for this post!


concupiscentKid 40M

6/21/2006 3:34 pm

You're spot on.
Excellent post.


ella1966 50F
1528 posts
6/21/2006 4:26 pm

I agree with what was said above, but from what I have read, Tills had a lot more supporters and people caring for her than she had detractors. C'mon guys, most of us are/were genuinely concerned and not into schadenfreude, as SeriouslyReal puts it - well I am certainly not. I can hardly speak as I shouldn't even be here myself and should have quit the site when my own trauma happened last year, but I have kept on here I guess with some hope of reconciliation or forgiveness, which never came. I dunno, maybe my time for leaving is so long overdue as well. I know she is gone and traumatised and sometimes the only way you can show the world how you really feel is to just leave everyone, because you are writhing in so much agony and can't believe that anyone would not understand. I understand this about Tills perfectly. Hopefully, she has enough friends off this site to support her. My only concern is that she will never get over this.


ella1966 50F
1528 posts
6/21/2006 4:28 pm

I agree with what was said above, but from what I have read, Tills had a lot more supporters and people caring for her than she had detractors. C'mon guys, most of us are/were genuinely concerned and not into schadenfreude, as SeriouslyReal puts it - well I am certainly not. I can hardly speak as I shouldn't even be here myself and should have quit the site when my own trauma happened last year (my love is not deceased, but I was told I should consider him this way for my own sanity), but I have kept on here I guess with some hope of reconciliation or forgiveness, which never came. I dunno, maybe my time for leaving is so long overdue as well. I know she is gone and traumatised and sometimes the only way you can show the world how you really feel is to just leave everyone, because you are writhing in so much agony and can't believe that anyone would not understand. I understand this about Tills perfectly. Hopefully, she has enough friends off this site to support her. My only concern is that she will never get over this.


rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
6/21/2006 6:22 pm

Regardless of what you think, regardless of whether she lost him to death or to a cruel lie, show a little bit of respect for the fact that she still lost him.

I think this is the crux of the matter.


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
6/22/2006 1:10 am


Thank you.
My sentiments exactly.
I came to AdultFriendFinder because of the blogs in August 2005. I saw such a wonderful atmosphere. So many people, all offering their smiles to one another in abundance. I saw so much kindness. In some cases, blogville was almost a family.
It certainly is a community. And I am still here because I feel a member of this community. And to the best of my ability, I will try to keep it the way it was. The way it was meant to be.

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funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
6/23/2006 9:18 am

Mum always said, if you have nothing good to say, better to say nothing.
You aint got all the facts? Move away or support the woman with trust and heart.
Nice post hon


carebearluv2 41F

6/24/2006 10:12 pm

And is it any wonder why I am taking a break from here (at least most of the time)?!!


rm_Bct2Esi 50M/50F
1375 posts
7/1/2006 7:46 am

Nicly put...........I agree with carebear, this is one of the reason why I am NOT on here that much anymore. Just becuz I have decided to be "quiet" doesn't mean I have forgotten all of YOU I haven't. I find myself sitting at work thinking of my blog friends and what your all up to and wonder and argue with myself....Do I post a blog or simply stay quiet? Well YOU have seen my blog.

HUGS SMILES SMOOCHES AND LUVS

Have a great weekend and holiday weekend

HUGS from Colorado


Notfunanymore 105F
10289 posts
7/1/2006 11:18 pm

"No Fighting".........

Good post!


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