And so it comes to this....  

curious082385 31F
4230 posts
3/14/2006 9:06 am

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And so it comes to this....

I had hoped that it wouldn’t have to come to this. I had hoped that people would respect our privacy, but I guess when you put so much of yourself out there online, sometimes you have to expect things like this. I have been holding my tongue on a lot of things these last two weeks, but it has reached the point where I can’t do that any longer.

So here it is, the truth about dasher121 and I....

We had a great trip and I loved every second of my time with him. He and I are a lot and enjoy the same things.
Everything was wonderful.
But in the end, the reality is that there are a lot of factors stacked against us. Both of our lives are in turmoil and change. I’m getting ready to move, go back to school and start on my path towards a nursing career and he has just as many changes and hardships to deal with right now.
I will not go in to personal details on this, but basically it was just too much.

What hurts me is this....there were some people who we took into our confidence on this issue. People that we relied on for advice and support while we tried to work out the confusion and pain. And some of those people have decided to take what they know and try to cause further problems for us by attempting to shake our faith in each other.

Dasher is an incredible man and someone that I consider myself blessed to call a friend. We hold each other in the highest respect and love...that has not changed....we just can’t be together. Our reasons for that are personal and you need not know them.

We are both dealing with a lot of shit right now and the last thing we needed was to be put into a situation of having to second guess our friends. If it was just me that this was hurting, I would have kept my mouth shut.

But I will not stand by and watch idly while people stab him in the back and betray his friendship.
I will not watch while people take the little pieces of the story that they know and turn and twist it so that they can have their little dramas and fun.
I will not let selfish and malicious words drive a wedge between the two of us.
We have enough to deal with as it dare you try to throw our trust and friendship into jeopardy?

Friends, lovers or whatever we may end up being...this is our relationship.
Not yours.

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
3/14/2006 9:23 am

glad to see your still friends,take no notice of the gossip,you know who your real friends are and thats important,glad to see your sister at home and doing well

I'm a

i'm here to stay

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
3/14/2006 10:42 am

People can be assholes...Im sorry things ended up this way...its a sad thing...Those fuckers are scum and deserve the print of my boot on their asses...Some people just have no lives to play with so they think it fun to play with others...pathetic...Im sorry things didnt work out between you two...At least you two can still be friends.

aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
3/14/2006 1:15 pm

I'm very sorry to hear that somebody is trying to manipulate things to try and make an advantage...

elysianpleasure 47M

3/14/2006 5:05 pm

You don't owe any of us explantion... I am sorry people are being jack asses. Likely people who have small lives and nothing better to do with their time than mess with others...

rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
3/14/2006 5:49 pm

Good for you, babe. As long as you BOTH know to rely on the word of each other before the word OF others, then it'll all work out in whatever way it is meant to work out.

This is a good post. Now both of you just ignore the rest of us (even the ones that you feel you can still trust) in relation to your friendship. Those of us who are worth it will understand. And those of us who aren't, won't. It's kind of a 'survival of the fittest' automatic sorting out process.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

carebearluv2 42F

3/14/2006 8:29 pm

To my blog twin,

I wrote a comment in Dash's blog pertaining to this because I saw his post first. I am going to write something very similar to you as well.

It doesn't matter what other people have to say about the things that happened between Dash and yourself. It doesn't matter that they manipulated things, lied, backstabbed and betrayed you. What matters is that you and Dash have each other at a time that you both desperately need someone. That is all that matters. So keep your heads up, fuck the rest of them and blog on!

I consider myself a casual friend to both of you and would never comment, betray or ask about your relationship. I know that is easy to say but I think I have proved that to both of you. I noticed both your relationship and your subsequent split and never asked either one of you what was going on. "Those that gossip with you will gossip about you", those are words I live by. Hang in there, it can only go up from here. I am here if I can help.

bardicman 50M

3/16/2006 7:50 pm

Hmmm, I thought I had already commented when I read this earlier.

Fuck em and feed em fish heads.

some people are like pirhanas. The are looking for any little thing that will give them cause for a feeding frenzy.

I am not dead yet

Fox4aKnight1 43F

3/17/2006 12:37 am

    Quoting bardicman:
    Hmmm, I thought I had already commented when I read this earlier.

    Fuck em and feed em fish heads.

    some people are like pirhanas. The are looking for any little thing that will give them cause for a feeding frenzy.
um I am gonna agree heavily with Bard on this one ....But I understand where you are coming from......

curious082385 31F
4925 posts
3/17/2006 5:50 am

For all the support that was given on this post and on his, thank you. Hoping that, now this has been said, we can all just move on.

rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
3/19/2006 12:31 pm

Real life friends and online friends actually have alot in common; gossip and taking sides in your friends' relationships when you don't know the whole story happens all the time. I tend to be very private in my real life in order to avoid unsolicited advice 'cause people will certainly give it but I prefer to make up my own mind, usually; and if I'm on the fence and want input I ask for it.

But I am always aware that people will offer it and stir things sometimes and I try to take it all with a huge grain of salt knowing that it is human nature and to a certain extent I can control very little of it.

I am assertive when I think I need to be and I will clarity things sometimes if I see I have the power and I see the need...I think you are here, and hopefully you have ended the little background chitchat that has been annoying you. I IM with very few people so I am largely ignorant to all of except what I deduce from posts and comments here and there.

A tiny rumour or even a stray comment can be blown way out of proportion by the time it makes its way around a group of people and in Blogland we are rarely face to face with the individuals that we meet on here. Rarely if ever are many of us online at the same time participating in the same conversation and we mostly share only bits and pieces of ourselves but not our whole stories; so I think the rumours and interactive fallout can be exacerbated around here more rapidly than real life. Remember the drama surrounding the blogger that "disappeared".

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