WELL UPDATE HERE  

rm_cru1972 44M
3520 posts
5/9/2006 7:17 pm

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WELL UPDATE HERE

Sorry I'm a little heavy-hearted right now so all of you I visited w/o leaving a comment I'm sorry.

As some of you know Not only did
have her surgery (which went well according to fantasy_lover05) I had my own trials. I took my DNA test today and it will be 4-6 weeks for the results. Well then we talked (the ex and It was the same ol' bullshit, What do you want? she asks. Bout the child. Do you want the last name to change b/c it never will!
Do you want visitation, cause you won't get it!
And the such. and Do I want to give her the 17% or should we go for a flat rate? I just don't get it. She say's she want US to work, and that she US to be one big happy family, then she goes and says that shit. How fucking STUPID can some people be. As the five of us ( her 2 kids me and Dex) sat in Subway on the way back All I could do was sit thereand watch Dexter with tears in my eye's. I would not let them show for the simple fact that I REFUSE TO LET THAT BITCH SEE SHE HURT ME AGAIN. Sorry for the rant but I'm hurtin


twirly_girl 47F

5/9/2006 7:36 pm

I'm sorry


-Nikki


PassionKisses4Me 44F

5/9/2006 8:11 pm

Hugs baby...sending sweet warm thoughts your way and best wishes that this will all work out

Becky

~Becky~


rm_DarknStar 54F
2823 posts
5/9/2006 8:59 pm

I have a strong shoulder! If needed!

I'm sorry cru........but it will get better. Try to keep your chin up!


HOTNBOTHERED0414 46F

5/9/2006 9:12 pm

Ya want me to take care of her?

I am sorry to hear all of this! My ex was a great big asshole as well when it came to the kids and he became a born again dad.

I feel for you, and I know what your going through.

If you find out 100% that he is yours, there is nothing she can do once the courts are involved.


rm_yukonpaul 51M
1120 posts
5/10/2006 12:25 am

Hang in there.


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 1:58 am

ME too,


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 2:02 am

    Quoting PassionKisses4Me:
    Hugs baby...sending sweet warm thoughts your way and best wishes that this will all work out

    Becky
Thanks Becky, I'm sure able touse those hugs


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 2:03 am

    Quoting rm_DarknStar:
    I have a strong shoulder! If needed!

    I'm sorry cru........but it will get better. Try to keep your chin up!
I'm tryin the best I can to keep it up. My chin silly


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 2:06 am

    Quoting HOTNBOTHERED0414:
    Ya want me to take care of her?

    I am sorry to hear all of this! My ex was a great big asshole as well when it came to the kids and he became a born again dad.

    I feel for you, and I know what your going through.

    If you find out 100% that he is yours, there is nothing she can do once the courts are involved.
Well the prob is the courts won't get involved for a LONG time. then most likely they will give her everything. At least that gives me time to try to save some money for a lawyer


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 2:07 am

With you guys out there it seems a little easier to hold on a little bit longer thanks yukon


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 2:11 am

    Quoting Wickedwytch69:
    Rant away Cru - we understand and although we can't offer much practical help from where we all are - we can listen and empathise.. the next 6 weeks will be a long time - look after yourself ok? xxx
The time I have waited, has already seemed like a life time. And now it will be ANOTHER long time. Thanks for being out there for me. And people think this is a SEX site. It's more of a HELPING site


catseyes23 61F

5/10/2006 3:07 am

What a bitch! Don't ever let her see that she's hurt you. It's going to be a long wait but I'm sure you will win out, Cru.

Cats


firestarter665 42M/39F

5/10/2006 4:19 am

Cru- Stay strong! Things will work out for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers!


papyrina 51F
21133 posts
5/10/2006 5:14 am

i'm just leaving a special hug here for you


I'm a

and
i'm here to stay


GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11238 posts
5/10/2006 5:43 am


~ warm hugz 'n positive thoughtz ~

some peepz just don't want to get thingz....


mycin62 54F

5/10/2006 6:02 am

Stay strong Honey, don't let her get to you, I know it's tough, just don't show her it's getting to you. Rant all you want, you have the right to.

Big HUGS,
Cin


rm_littlemiss39 53F
2 posts
5/10/2006 7:54 am

im am so so sorry.she is a bitch


Whispersoftly5 52F
15176 posts
5/10/2006 8:48 am

I'm so sorry you're hurting sweetie. It's amazing how cruel people we once loved can be. Try to stay strong and keep doing what you're doing and vent when you need to vent. You have my support, friendship and respect. Take good care!

(((HUGS))) Whisper...


LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
5/10/2006 12:50 pm

that's tough stuff cru...hang in there...

lustytaurus


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 3:50 pm

    Quoting catseyes23:
    What a bitch! Don't ever let her see that she's hurt you. It's going to be a long wait but I'm sure you will win out, Cru.

    Cats
You should see her on a bad day. I have promised to myself that I will not let her see she get's to me. I really hope things are going my way, for once Thank you Cat's


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 3:51 pm

    Quoting firestarter665:
    Cru- Stay strong! Things will work out for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers!
Thank you Fire. You guy's have helped in so many ways.


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 3:52 pm

    Quoting papyrina:
    i'm just leaving a special hug here for you
Thanks Papy, it means alot to me.


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 3:54 pm

    Quoting GoddessOfTheDawn:

    ~ warm hugz 'n positive thoughtz ~

    some peepz just don't want to get thingz....


At least YOU GUYs get it Thank you Goddess


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 3:56 pm

    Quoting mycin62:
    Stay strong Honey, don't let her get to you, I know it's tough, just don't show her it's getting to you. Rant all you want, you have the right to.

    Big HUGS,
    Cin
I used to hold it in ALL the time. Now I have found the occasional rant is not only fun, but it makes me physically feel better too.


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 3:59 pm

Thank you miss. I'm so glad you guy's don't know just how bad she is.


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 4:00 pm

    Quoting Whispersoftly5:
    I'm so sorry you're hurting sweetie. It's amazing how cruel people we once loved can be. Try to stay strong and keep doing what you're doing and vent when you need to vent. You have my support, friendship and respect. Take good care!

    (((HUGS))) Whisper...
Than you Whisper, All these nice comments from my friends mean SOOOOO much I can't even describe it


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/10/2006 4:02 pm

It is tough, but I have to hang in there for little one.


DAISYDUKE1004 50F
534 posts
5/10/2006 7:06 pm

Hey you so sorry to hear..hang in thier buddy..My heart goes out to ya buddy..Take Care ~D~


SacredStarDance

5/10/2006 7:25 pm

I'm so sorry for this... This is got to be so painful..Does she not understand that you are the man is these kids life regardless..your a male role model.. and if she is any kind of woman at all she would do what she could to at least keep it friendly with you. To show her children all.. and any differences can be worked out and desrved to be worked out.. either as a friend, lover.. what ever.. Its the kids she is hurting.. sorry I'm ranting..
Take a deep breath...

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat


libgemOH 56M/52F

5/11/2006 4:04 am

*BIG HUG* and don't forget, some things are DEFINATELY worth fighting for!!! -B


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/11/2006 3:40 pm

Thanks for the visit. And Thanks for being there, it is nice to know people like you exist


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/11/2006 3:42 pm

    Quoting DAISYDUKE1004:
    Hey you so sorry to hear..hang in thier buddy..My heart goes out to ya buddy..Take Care ~D~
Thanks to friends like you, it is easier to hang in there


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/11/2006 3:44 pm

    Quoting SacredStarDance:
    I'm so sorry for this... This is got to be so painful..Does she not understand that you are the man is these kids life regardless..your a male role model.. and if she is any kind of woman at all she would do what she could to at least keep it friendly with you. To show her children all.. and any differences can be worked out and desrved to be worked out.. either as a friend, lover.. what ever.. Its the kids she is hurting.. sorry I'm ranting..
    Take a deep breath...
The funny thing is she has been friendly, and working on this, but then this side of her shows. I don't mind the ranting


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/11/2006 3:45 pm

    Quoting libgemOH:
    *BIG HUG* and don't forget, some things are DEFINATELY worth fighting for!!! -B
Thanks for the hug. And this is one worth fighting for


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/11/2006 3:47 pm

    Quoting katsback:
    SO SORRY FOR ALL YOUR PAIN,,HUGS {=} KAT
Thank you for the hugs, and the kind words


rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
5/11/2006 9:59 pm

She's out to hurt you for whatever sick reasons she has and the only thing she has to use is your son, which is really sad. DONT LET YOURSELF BE DRAGGED DOWN. When she is talking to you this way, remember what she is doing, let it roll right off your back, she wants your reaction, dont give it to her, she wants your pain, she thrives off it. She WANTS your suffering, dont let her see it. It will all be okay in the end, promise.


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/13/2006 2:19 pm

    Quoting lioness860:
    it is sad to use a child as a tool and to be used in the same fashion....just let it out here we all arte here for support....
    ur not far away so maybe you can feel a cyber hug........


    thinking of you and wishing you the best...
    L
i got the hug thanks lioness.


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/13/2006 2:24 pm

    Quoting rm_saintlianna:
    She's out to hurt you for whatever sick reasons she has and the only thing she has to use is your son, which is really sad. DONT LET YOURSELF BE DRAGGED DOWN. When she is talking to you this way, remember what she is doing, let it roll right off your back, she wants your reaction, dont give it to her, she wants your pain, she thrives off it. She WANTS your suffering, dont let her see it. It will all be okay in the end, promise.
I try my best to not let her see how much she hurt me, Some times it is hard.I'll keep you to that promise.


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/13/2006 2:28 pm

    Quoting rm_mzhunyhole:
    The bad part is ..she is hurting her own child..her own flesh and blood more than ya..I'll pray she can open her stoopid eyes and see that.Ya just concentrate on being a daddy to Dex..thats your priority..rant all ya want..I wish I could hug ya..give Sam a lil pat for me.We care CRU.
You are so wise, and give such kind words. Thank you Mzhuny. I try to be the best father I am able to. I'll get that hug someday I hope. You guys are the best at caring I have ever known


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/13/2006 2:36 pm

    Quoting rm_Dysgyzed:
    Rant on, Baby. You have to get it out so that you don't lash out and do something that will mean that she never gets one red fuckin' dime.

    I am sorry that you are going through this. I just really can not understand women who want to take children away from the fathers who so desperately want to lend support and caring. There are far too many cowardly fucks who just don't care about their children, and here we have someone who wants to with hold love from not you, but the CHILD?

    Hopefully, she will get some damned sense and actually make visitations easy for you.

    THANK YOU for caring! Truly.
Thanks for the visit Dysgyzed, I to cannot understand why this is going on.I agree there are so many deadbeat dad's out there, like her ex, I mean he likes the kids and spending time with them, he's just not there for the boys. Now there is me that wants to be with his child all the time, and has changed their lives for the better in order to try not to cause any pain to this child Hopefully when the courts get involved things will have to change. Thank you for the kind words, and CARING


rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/13/2006 11:44 pm

    Quoting rm_yummmy669:
    Oh Cru---extending my arms to give you a big bear hug, not wanting to let go---I am soooo sorry.

    It is women like that which give the rest of us a bad name. I would of given anything for my daughter to have a father in her life as he left shortly after she was born. I hope she realizes this before it is too late.

    yummmy
Thank you for that hug it was very appreciated. I do want so much to be a part of Dex's life. It is a shame for kids to have to grow up with only one parent who cares.


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