Refusing pussy  

cristale75 41F
73 posts
5/29/2006 10:12 am

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Refusing pussy


I think I am at the last straw with my BF. He is refusing pussy. He refuses, only recently, to perform oral sex.

I ask him why but he replied at first that he just lost interest in it but was a'ok with me giving. I began refusing as well. When I pushed later for a better answer he just simply said, that he never liked doing it anyway. That he only did because he knew I liked it but was always confused I said that cause I never came from it. Well thats where I was not always honest with him either. I do like and have been known to cum from it but not with him. I didnt say anything to him because I didnt want to bruise his ego but here he is doing that to me. I didnt begin the blame game so I just got quiet with him in every way. I began to just talk when spoken to. I started to feel rejected and have begun withdrawing from him. At first, as most guys I end up dating, he didnt even notice I wasnt 'trying' as hard. But yesterday night he comes by and when we start playing I end up playing dead. I am just there doing it because I said I would but not 'really' participating.He finally asked if something was wrong.

I have known him since I was 15 so its going to be hard to let him go. We've dated on and off as adults over the last 5 years or so. I guess its true you should never date your friends because when its done your also out a good friend.

Refusing the pussy was just a symptom of something else which we havent really begun to explore but honestly Im so done with long-winded convos just avoiding the inevitable. I think it will have to be a clean permanent break. I wont be able to go to sunday lunches, talk to his mom and stay away from places I know he will frequent and most importantly changing my passwords on IM so he wont log onto my accounts anymore.

I am not exactly known for just letting it go. I am the eternal optimist that ALL things can be fixed at some point. Go figure.

poultryman69 59M
1 post
5/31/2006 4:33 pm

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puntachueca 105M

5/29/2006 11:09 am

The worst sex is that done out of obligation.


wantu4wildfun 50M

5/29/2006 10:48 am

There is probably something else he is not telling you. Oral sex is great and for me it is even better that intercourse, but it is best when given and received. Another hint that he is not connecting with you is that he hasn't noticed you becoming more distant even before your sex incounter. If you break it off with him do you have to seperate from his mom also? Is he that controling or ustable that you think he might use your friendship with his mother as a way to get at you? I wish you luck.

wantu4wildfun


TurnLock 59M
576 posts
5/29/2006 10:46 am

I'm not a oral fan and I could see this happening. He's doing this to make you happy, but he doesn't see the payoff. I don't do oral for the same reason. It doesn't do anything for me. I would do it for that special person and she really enjoyed it. You stated that he isn't doing it right and he probably knows this and that's why he decided to quit. Everything after that was a result of not working with the original issue. I don't know if you can fix this.

You should try to fix the relationship. Remove oral sex for awhile. Discuss it with him, tell him how much you like it and show him how to do it right. We love playing God. Controlling your orgasm is a power trip for us. If he knew he was doing it well, he would continue. If he continues bring his blow jobs back into play and he should get the realization that to get he must give. If all else fails, be brave and discuss the issue, try to remain friends but break up not from anger but from the problems you can no longer work out.


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5/29/2006 10:39 am

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Satyr48 67M
1773 posts
5/29/2006 10:33 am

Optimism is fine, but orgasms are GREAT...

As you said, refusing orap sex is probably a symptom of something else... To me, and to many guys, oral sex is even more "personal" than intercourse. Intercourse is the "natural" instinct - you have to want more intimacy to perform any "alternate" sex acts...

He's telling you something, even if HE doesn't know it himself!

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