Women who steal pics and falsely portray themselves...  

crazyname67 49M
200 posts
9/25/2005 4:11 pm

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Women who steal pics and falsely portray themselves...

Since joining a few personal sites in the last few months, sadly I have to admit that I've been duped a couple of times by women who have falsely portrayed themselves in their profile pictures. One woman I spent 3 weeks getting to know before I finally came to the realization that the reason she wasn't sending me her pics, and wasn't willing to get on a web cam, and always avoided meeting up was because she wasn't who she said she was. When I finally figured it out, I felt really gyped and really stupid. This has happened a number of times since but I'm starting to get a bit wiser about it. Some of the things that I look for are:

- if a pic looks too professional, it may just be that.
- if a pic is small and looks like it's been optimized for the web, then it's likely it's been grabbed off another site
- if a person only has one pic, I'm usually suspect
- if you ask for more pics and don't hear back from them then maybe they aren't who they say they are
- if they claim they can't get them on a computer or have them on some floppies that they have to find, then they're probably stalling

Now I usually ask within the first email or so for pics or for a webcam, as most people if they don't have one can usually get access to one.

I guess out of it all I found it kind of disheartening to think that so many people I've met on these sites have false identities. It makes you wonder what there plan is. Like do they think that suddenly looks won't matter anymore when you actually meet up. Because even though emotional connection is important, physical attraction is still vital to me if there's going to be any sexual chemistry. I guess the other part of it that makes me sad is that with all the pressure in society for a girl to look like a Barbie to feel like she's worth something, and with all the problems with eating disorders and self esteem I could understand how some girls could fall for this if they felt like for once in their life, they were sought after. That they could come home and find 100 emails in their inbox. My heart goes out to them but at the same time they have to realize that if you start out your friendship based on a lie, it really is going to be difficult to trust that person again.

1orboth4fun 55M/48F
14 posts
9/26/2005 8:33 am

Unfortunately there are alot of guys that dupe also on sites. they say their a cpl and have fake pics of their so-called g/f or wives, you set up a play date, and oooops suddenly their spouse can't make it, sounds fishy doesn't it? lol

crazyname67 49M

9/26/2005 12:05 pm

That's brutal... that's why I think AdultFriendFinder should make the testimony system on here more like ebay. Cause then you could put bad reviews on people if they were dishonest or mean and you could also praise people who are upright, kind and trustworthy. I think that would be good cause it saddens me that when I initially contact someone that they often seem so untrusting, but I guess that's cause they've been burned before. I wish there were more kind people in this world.

heavenly_body39 60F
157 posts
10/10/2005 4:33 pm

hey crazyname...great idea about an ebay-type testimony; there are other personals sites who have some type of 'validation' or 'certification...look at lifestylelounge...

and i know i have been questioned about my reality, not that you have. my pics have been done by both a semi-pro and friends; funny how now that i have found a gift for modeling, lots of volunteers are around.

for those who misrepresent themselves who you do end up meeting: did they think we wouldn't notice???

nice blog btw!

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