Tonight was insane...  

crantara 36F
10 posts
9/13/2005 6:08 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Tonight was insane...

My lover.. The one who talked about marrying.. The one to whom I had given my heart.. Walked out on me in the most peculiar way.. He said he'd be back.. But I don't know..

Tonight, he met with his sister.. He hadn't spoken to her in a few months and his family, sister included, had been calling me going nuts looking for him.. He asked me to stall them, not to play messages.. So.. I told them whatever I could, save betraying my lover..

He met with his sister, alone.. About an hour into their meeting, I got a call.. I was invited down meet her for the first time.. He told her he wanted to marry me, so naturally, she wanted to meet me..

They had run up a small bill on drinks before I got there.. Then, I added two to the bill.. Whatever it was, she, his sister, lost her money and couldn't pay.. So.. We ditched the bill and I lead them home on the subway.. His sister asked to come along.. I invited her to stay overnight..

A few hours into her visit at our place, I was asked to step outside so they could have a word.. One thing lead to another.. I came back in to find out that he was leaving to go to rehab, spending the night at her place.. I started to cry and asked him not to leave on such short notice.. To please spend the night with me and leave in the morning.. His sister became enraged and attacked me.. She choked me, punched me and told me she would kill me..

I told her to go ahead and do it if it made her feel better.. She stopped immediately..

Anyway, he asked me to come along to her house.. Spend the night.. Of course I agreed.. Some words were had in the taxi on the way over, I promised him that all I wanted was for him to get the help he needed and wouldn't be selfish about his time..

When we arrived at his sister's place, she paid the cabbie to take me home and screamed at me, "Oh fuck this romeo and juliet shit..!!" and demanded that my lover leave my side and follow her upstairs..

He told me he would call in the morning.. Every attempt I've made at calling has gotten hung up on..

What.. Please.. Someone.. What do I do..? I would wait until the end of time for him to come home.. Do you think he will..?

I think his sister is blaming all of his woe on me in an effort to keep him away from me.. She feels threatened by the fact that he wants to marry me.. And will ruin his love for me in any and every way.. And I will never see him again..

Can someone offer me advice..?

442 posts
9/13/2005 8:40 am


crantara 36F
1 post
9/13/2005 8:21 pm

Thank you for your words.. I hope he comes home to me eventually.. I want him to get help if he needs it.. All I want is for him to be happy..

But I think his sister will try to ruin our relationship and if he couldnt stand up to her when she punched me in the face, how will he see through her blasphemous attempts at ruining us..?

Oh.. Oh my goodness.. It hurts..

She told me that he was not coming back.. She told me tonight that "she is in control now.." What..?! I love him with all of my heart.. Being seperated is killing me..

spawn0 48M
5 posts
9/27/2005 1:21 am

Hey, fuck him and the pony he rode in on... If he cannot appreciate you and want to hold onto you despite what his lonely, frigid and sad sister says then fuck him.. also if his sister didnt have her own selfish agenda, she would see what a good woman her brother has and she would suport you being together... so.. fuck the two of them.. they are probably incestuous any way... find yourself a man who will treat you and love you like the princess you are.

rm_surferj2269 36
1 post
9/27/2005 1:29 am

you poor baby i feel bad but just keep your hopes alive he will come back to you and if you want i will take his sister out for you lol jk
i thought that might at least make you smile i dont know you but i feel really bad for what has happened to you

rm_Bronze330 40M
27 posts
9/29/2005 2:41 am

Distance, stranger. I'm way outside of your situation, so my read may be off, but it sounds a lot like something I went through myself. It didn't end well. For anyone. Some people are just broken, and don't wnat to be fixed. You can loose your soul fighting to keep someone from destoying thier own happiness. Tough to think he worth it. Better to hear that from a stranger than from someone close to you. If they are saying it too, than you are the one who needs to be saved from self destruction. Sounds like you can do better, and being you're here, maybe that's what you really want. Love to help, when you're ready...

rm_badgirl_694u 41F
40 posts
1/3/2006 10:02 pm

something is definitly wrong with both of them. Regardless of whatever rehab he may need he should be thankful as well as his sister that he has a good woman who will stand by him and support him through this. Unfortunately for you it will not take away the pain you are feeling now. They sound freaky to me..the old cliche is true.."time heals a broken heart." Be strong and know its nothing you did wrong,its his problem..God bless and keep you.

2hottyyys6699 44M/49F
9 posts
2/11/2006 9:55 am

move on sweetie....even if he does come back something like this will probably happen again. it will just be more hurt and more b.s.
its hard, but pick yourself up and simply call this a chapter in your life that has passed. you deserve more than he can give so keep your eyes open. mr right might just be overlooked if your mind is on someone else. take care.

QtangentQ 47M
1 post
3/7/2006 1:17 am

Look, if you lover's not responding to any of you calls you need to move on. For whatever reason he's not making any effort to contanct you so you're just wasting time trying to get him right now. Focus on taking care of yourself & making sure that you are ok. Hopefully when (& if) he gets himself together you can resume a relationship or maybe a freindship (depending on where you guys are at in life). Just renmember if you dont take care of yourself you're the one who gets screwed... and I dont mean that in a good way.

melinko1000 32M
2 posts
3/27/2006 9:35 pm

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